I have been married for 3 years and before my husband and I got married we talked about children. At first he didn't want children and that was a complete deal breaker for me so we broke up. We go back together and he told me that if being with me meant children in our future then he was fine with it. Here we are years later and I'm starting to feel like I'm really ready to have our first child but every time we talk about it he seems to get really stressed out and short with me and just says "lets just wait another 2 years until we are both out of school". Normally I'd think that is a fine idea, no need to rush anything we are still very young but when he talks to his friends about kids he says things like " I dont want them but I'll fall into the trap eventually". Things like that really hurt my feelings because I dont want him to feel forced to have children with me and I dont want him to feel like I'm making him choose. Everyone says that he is just scared and when it happens he will be a great father but I'm scared that what if we do have a child and he becomes detached because he was lying and that wasn't really what he wanted at all...it's all so confusing. if you have any advice for me I could definitely use it. Thanks everyone.