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Getting married young

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Re: Getting married young

  • I guess I got married young, I am 24 and was married at 23, married less than a year, but my mom told me before I got married that marriage is hard on everyone. Your struggles are just different based on your age. Your brother getting deployed is a hard battle whether they are married or not. If they are in love they will make it work. 
  • I got married 2 months ago. I was 21 at the time (turned 22 this last month) and my husband is 27 about to be 28 in march. I met him fresh out of high school and we dated on and off until 2 years ago, right before I got pregnant. We waited a year and a half to get married though and have been really happy. As for 18, I do think that is really young, you haven't been exposed to everything yet, but if they are happy. The only thing that bothers me is that they got married because he is in the military and they didn't want to separate for 2 years. That isn't a good enough reason to get married to me.. That's the reason most marriages of younger people fail, they don't think it through. That's why most of us young people get looked at as stupid for getting married young. I'm not saying their marriage will fail, I'm saying they will most likely have to work harder to keep it going...
  • I recently got married to my high school sweetheart and am 18, we started discussing marriage a year ago and finally took the plunge when he got home from army basic training. if you know you are in love and trust one another, marrying young is no different than marrying later in life. sure there are pros and cons, pros being you can build your lives together to prevent separation due to career moves and cons being you cant party like the other college students but no matter the decision make sure you;ll be happy. back a few centuries got married as soon as they got their period or balls dropped, you were an old maid by 14, the times might have changed but everyones mental state is different too. as for me an my husband we were ready for the leap and marriage as a sign of our enduring love and commitment also holds back several obsticicles that plagued us before hand
  • I was 22 when we got married, and we've been married almost 8 years now, together for 12.  Our marriage has far exceeded my expectations on many levels. 

    Looking back, my favorite piece of advise I received about getting married young was the card that said, "Hold tight to your dreams and enjoy the ride."  

    I would advise them (and you for that matter) to keep using their birth control, and keep pursuing their educations/careers.  That will be more challenging for her overseas, but certainly possible if she makes it a priority and he is supportive.  And living overseas is a wonderful opportunity in and of itself that most people never get.  I would advise them (and you), to remember to take the time to enjoy being young.  Young marriage can also be a great opportunity for building wealth (assuming you don't have babies right away): it's much cheaper to run one household than two, and that bonus can be split between wonderful experiences, and saving for a solid foundation for the family's future.  It's not an either-or proposition.   

  • I got married the day after I turned 19, and my husband was 21. We've been married going on five months, and actually got married on our two year anniversary. I am now 5 weeks pregnant. My husband is in the Marines, and left for two weeks the morning after our wedding. All you can say is good luck and hope things work out for them.
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    imagelisa2008boo:

    imageburybuck0489:
    i have been married almost 7 months (we dated 4 years) and we both turn 24 this year... my advice is to wish them the best, and offer your love and support. :)

     Ya I have tried to be as supportive as I can and as loving as I can. It's hard at times because I see how immature they really are even more than I was at 20. But I have to keep telling myself it's not my marriage.

    Ya at this point I will just be mad if she gets pregnant before me that will be uncool =[ 

    And you say they're immature. Cute. 

    That's what I was thinking.

  • imageartbyallie:
    imagelisa2008boo:

    imageburybuck0489:
    i have been married almost 7 months (we dated 4 years) and we both turn 24 this year... my advice is to wish them the best, and offer your love and support. :)

     Ya I have tried to be as supportive as I can and as loving as I can. It's hard at times because I see how immature they really are even more than I was at 20. But I have to keep telling myself it's not my marriage.

    Ya at this point I will just be mad if she gets pregnant before me that will be uncool =[ 

    And you say they're immature. Cute. 

     

    I was thinking the same thing... my brother and his wife were 22 & 20 when they got married.  She got pregnant 4 weeks after they got married, making them 23 & 21 when they had their first baby, who is now 9 months old.  DH and I got married at ages 29 & 25 and have been married for 9 months.  We don't have kids yet, and I would love to be pregnant right now, but there is no rule saying that you have to have kids before your sibling because you're older.  That's just stupid.   For now, I plan on being happy for my brother and his growing family, and loving on my adorable nephew.

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