I am going to try and write this without being as cold hearted as possible.
My sister's best friend found out in October she was pregnant. Now my sister's friend is 18 and I'm not her biggest fan, let's just leave it at that. But, my sister was very excited to be an "aunt" so I really just kept my mouth shut.
In some recent conversations with my sister I found out that her friend was still smoking a pack of ciggs a day! And she was around her boyfriend all the time who was smoking pot around her. My sister was concerned which is why she was talking to me about it. I was very neutral about it, telling my sister she needed to talk to the friend about her concerns and how scared she was that something would happen to her friend and the baby. Inside, I was positively fuming.
Today my sister texts me and tells me that her friend had lost her baby. She went in for an ultrasound to find out the baby's gender and they couldn't find her heartbeat. Further tests and whatnot concluded that baby girl was a stillborn. They believe it could possibly be because she was smoking and inhaling the pot but they won't be sure for a few more days.
I am not a huge fan of this girl but that in no way means I wanted this happen to her or her baby. But I'm stuck in a sticky situation here with myself. Part of me feels terrible for this girl. My sister has been friends with her since preschool so I've known her for quite a few years and I can not imagine what she is going through right now. The other, evil part of me is still fuming. Here T and me are TTC with no success and this girl gets pregnant. This is not a knock on teen or young moms at all. What ticks me off is how irresponsible she was exposing herself and this unborn child to these substances. Like I said, they are not 100 percent sure if those were the cause of this but even if they weren't, the baby was at risk for all sorts of birth defects and whatnot. I just can't put it into words how I feel.
Maybe I'm ticked off because life isn't fair. T and I are ready for a baby and aren't getting one. She didn't want one, gets pregnant and is irresponsible and ultimately loses the child. I realize this happens all the time, all over the place so forgive me. But, this is the first encounter I've had personally so maybe that's why it's hitting me so hard. Maybe I'm just throwing a hissy fit like a two year old. I know there are thousands of couples out there that have been TTC for years while T and I have only been TTC for six months. I don't know, I just needed to someone to rant to and you lucky guys and gals are it.
So, thanks for sticking it out and listening/reading.
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