Hi Nesties! I've been peaking around for a little while but had to come post today, I feel like I need a few third-party opinions! So here it is..
My wife and I are newlyweds. Because of busy schedules and living across the country from each other, I only met one set of my in-laws when we tied the knot this past July at their instance to join us during our *entire* week-long wedding trip (even though we had initially agreed they would only join us for a couple of days and leave following the ceremony to give us some time to ourselves!). I should mention that NOBODY else joined us during our trip - it was out of state and we had planned to elope. Needless to say, my FIL pushed his way in and commandeered the entire week, turning it into a tourist-y, family vacation trip instead of letting us have the romantic week alone that we wanted. I let all of this go, since our wedding was beautiful and in the end we were married (that's what its all about, right?). I get along well with my in-laws, besides being a bit pushy they are otherwise very sweet and kind, and it's a much better situation than most. I thought everything was fine with them, they regularly pass along messages of "I love you" and are up-to-date with our lives, so...
Flash forward to tonight, my wife casually brings up that my FIL called and spoke about her coming to visit with them and her family across the country, even offering to pay for the trip. It's nice and all.... except that he does not mention my name once! Now, let me clarify that I would NEVER expect him to pony up the cash for my plane ride or any other of my expenses - I'm a grown woman! What I find terribly rude is that he didn't even think to ask me to join in the trip. These kind of trips only happen about once a year (if that) and It's not like we've been married for a few years and this is just a quick solo trip to visit with family I've already met. We just got married 3 months ago and aside from them, I've never met any of this other family I am now apart of. My FIL and Step-MIL frequently travel separately, so maybe they don't think it's a big deal - but I find the fact that I wasn't even given the option to be downright rude, especially since he demanded to spend our ENTIRE wedding week with us in the name of uniting as a new family.
My wife doesn't really see the issue (it is worth mentioning that she is my FIL's only child and a major daddy's girl). My family would never, EVER dream of excluding my wife from any function or trip! So I have to ask... Would this annoy you? Do you think that my being upset is totally unfounded?