My husband and I have been together 4yrs and married for one. In the first year or so of our relationship our sex life was amazing. Things started to change after that, we went from having sex at least once a day to maybe once a week. It's now gotten to the point that if I don't initiate the act we will go months without sex. What kills me is that he's masturbating and watching porn on an almost daily basis.
I've brought this up several times over the years and he always has an excuse. First it was he was always angry and tired after work, and then it was I was always angry about work, and then it was he's only in the mood in the morning, now his reason is he's only in the mood at night. I've tried spicing thing up in different ways and suggested watching porn together (which he refuses to do). I'm at my wits end I hate feeling that I have to throw myself at my husband to get attention and it's rather damaging to my self esteem when he will get off to images of other women but won't touch me. I know that he isn't having an affair, but I don't know how to fix it.