My husband and I have been married for 1 1/2 years and have been together for 5 years. Before we were married, he always wanted to be with me. About a year ago we started having less and less sex. For the last week I have been asking him to come to bed with me and he says he is coming but doesnt show up in bed for another hour. Last night I tried to ask him to come sit by me and he said he would in a minute. I became frustrated because it just seems like he doesn't want me as much, so I layed down on the couch and was upset with him. I talked to him about how I was feeling and he said that he wants sex less when I ask him why we don't have as much sex as we did before. He said he wants me still but he is just working really long hours and is really tired.
After all of this happened, I just said I was going to bed. In the meantime his mother called him. His father has been having a really rough time with cocaine addiction and was gone again. His dad is mentally abusive to his mother when he is on drugs and my husband wants her to divorce him. After he came to bed, I asked him if everything was ok and I tried to hug him. He replied that he wasn't like me and was upset with me bc he thinks I make a big deal out of little things. We were getting nowhere and I went in the other bedroom to sleep. He came in the bedroom when I left and was yelling at me saying he has bigger things to worry about than us right now. He told me to ** off. He has said this to me once before also. I ended up leaving and getting a hotel room for the night. Before I left he said if I leave he is going to divorce me. I left anyway.
I am concerned that he may be following some of the patterns of his father. After we got married, I noticed he has more of a temper than I thought. Normally, he is a sweet, kind, calm, and loving person. How should I deal with this?? It is not like him to swear at me but I just can't take people talking to me like that. I had to take a stand! Did I go too far by getting a hotel room for the night?
If you were in this same situation how would you deal with it?