While I know this has been posted multiple times, here is our situation:
Both families get a long. With Thanksgiving, we've structured it well to have the parents swap every year and host because my parents or my in-laws will go to the other location.
My wife's parents have their families in Oklahoma. Mine are based around Washington. So, when it comes to Christmas, my mom tends to host her family from Bellingham and invites the my in-laws to join.
The other issue we're trying to solve is presents. My mother loves the holidays so much that once they're over she's depressed a little as to the lack of the spirit not being around anymore. So, when it comes to gifts, she really loves giving them. However, my wife and I are well off to the point where we don't need to accumulate more stuff in the house just because, and that's partly the joy of being married, right?! You can give ideas/hints to your spouse to buy for the morning of.
While we all get along, my wife and I have yet to feel like we've come away from the holidays with enjoyment over stress. We feel like 8 year olds when it comes to be the holidays to where we can never just do our own thing. Always being pulled multiple directions just to see everyone.
Any thoughts on how to deal with stockings, gifts, etc? We both just enjoy the time to socialize and spend time with everyone.
Any suggestions on how to define boundaries with the parents when it comes to Christmas, etc.?
We don't have children yet, and fear if we don't get a handle on it before then, we might be regretting it down the road.
Thank you in advance.