Long story short while visiting my mother and her partner, who had been drinking, he physically hurt my child and left bruises.
Partener (lets call him Bob) has a drinking problem and in the past had been very cruel to my siblings, mother, and me. I tried for many years to get over what he had done to us and have a distance relationship.
He was better and actually quite pleasant with the arrival of my children.
However the past few years have been iffy and I've avoided family events because of his unpredictable behaviour and drinking.
This past visit he was very roughly spoken with me and the children especially my preschool ager. I knew I needed to leave very quickly but I was concerned he would have a really big freak out and hurt my mother when we left or yell at us if we left during an episode. It was a terrible situation to be in and I didn't feel I could safely get all my children out quickly enough at that minute. I plotted to gather all their items and find the best time to leave while he was preoccupied with something else.
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He said something off to my child and I saw I could get all the children out at that minute. I told them to grab their shoes and get to the car. I grabbed my purse and Bob was yelling at my child and screamed to get out. It was terrifying. I literally ran with them as fast as I could out the door. Ugh. It was so bad On the way home my older child told me Bob had dragged the preschooler down the stairs. I checked and their arms were red which turned to bruises. I took pictures.
My mother, his enabler, says hes going for help etc which I don't beleive.
I told my mother I was cutting Bob out of our lives completely forever and she said some things to me that make me think she needs to be cut out too. Tried to turn it on me and said I was being dramatic and a trouble maker.
I have never had a healthy relationship with my mother because she is not an emotionally healthy person and I have zero qualms about cutting her out.
Maybe this is just a vent...I am very sad about this and am seeking help for all the children to talk about this.