... to know you just do not want children (maybe just now, maybe never) just because you'd have to sacrifice too much?
I've read that there are not as many posts as before. Maybe it is because we are all floating around exactly the same issue over and over: why we do not want kids or what people keep telling us. But still, for the sake of something new, I will share my thoughts.
I live in a conservative country, women who speak up and say "I'm not thinking about a baby and I don't know when I will think about it" are frowned upon. I'm 26, got married a bit over 2 years ago.
Personally, I feel that I started living my Independence and freedom of adult life after I got married. It's just the kind of family I grew up, all together, not many grants while growing up or dating. There is so much I am doing now that I wasn't able to do before.
At one point I said I'd settle in my career in the job I have because it would allow me to be a mother. Then I felt miserable because I felt I was settling for less that what I can accomplish. So I switched back to "ambitous career" mode and skipped what I knew was not ready.
For me, when I think about kids, I feel I am not ready to give up what I want. Neither is DH. Kids are expensive and I am not in the phase I could give them at least the lifestyle I had. I appreciate the effort my parents did, the things they did not do just to give me and my 2 siblings what we needed. I feel selfish, but I still need to do things for me.
Just wanted to share a personal reason. Kind of embarrasing, but it is my truth.