I am an Aunt to three nephews and one niece. All four kids are from the same parents (my DH's brother and his wife). The nephews are old enough to address adults in conversation.
They call their teachers, Mr./Mrs. and the pastor of their church, Pastor ABC. But for my DH and me, they call us by our first names only. Not "Aunt Butterfly" and "Uncle Wolf." Just "Butterfly" and "Wolf."
My DS is speaking now and we are teaching him to address his aunts and uncles with "Aunt" and "Uncle" preceeding the family members' first names. Like "Aunt LouLou" and "Uncle Hans."
DH and I have asked BIL and SIL to use the "Aunt" and Uncle" when speaking to our son and we were hoping they would "get it" and have their boys start using "Aunt" and "Uncle" with us. But they have not.
We want to do this because we think adults deserve an added amount of respect and having a formal title in front of a name helps create that distinction. We are close to our nephews, but we still want they to see us as "authority figures" not some kids on the playground with them.
Additionally, the nephews tend toward disregarding many adults who help them and provide loving direction. Generally, this is a respect issue and the lack they possess for adults. And yes, this is a parenting issue. I know this.
So my question: Would you speak to BIL and SIL and ask to be called "Aunt" and "Uncle" or would you ask each nephew to use the titles the next time they address either one of us by our first names?
I just hate being called by my first name by a 10 year old. I want my son to learn the polite way to address adults. He is around the nephews a lot and does what they do and I don't want to unteach him their behaviors.