One of my childhood best friends and I have taken extremely different paths in life, but when she moved back from another state about a month ago-I couldn't be more excited to reconnect. We both moved back to our hometown and she is one of the few friends I have within a 10 minute drive, so I couldn't wait to get back to our weekly coffee/movie/dinners/manicures etc.
The catch was, her boyfriend of four years (we are both in our late 20s) was in prison for committing two crimes, neither of them violent but one of them dishonest and the other including things that are drug related. I've never even known anyone in prison before- - but I managed to stay out of it and just let her dating life be her business.
Until she bailed him out...and now she wants us to double-date with me and my husband. My inclination is I need a polite way to say I don't feel comfortable socializing with him-I was really caught off guard when she brought it up last night- because she did not seem to sense that there was a remote chance I wouldn't want to meet him...but I don't. I just don't feel comfortable sharing my life with someone who has so recently commit serious crimes.
Am I being too judgmental? Is there a nice way to say that I don't want to socialize with a criminal? I never in my life thought I would be asked this but believe it or not I've gotten some really mixed feedback from my friends/family!