How would you deal with it?
H and I have been together for 8 years and have 2 children together. We were young when we had kids, and I put on weight with both of them. I have approx 30 lbs that would be nice to lose and would get me back to my pre-pregnancy weight.
One day during a discussion we were having, he reluctantly told me he wasn't as attracted to me anymore because of my size. It stung a lot, but I appreciate his honesty. This was about 3 months ago. Some things changed for me as a result - I am a lot more modest when it comes to being naked around him, covering up my stomach, etc. I've always tried to keep my eating reasonable, and only indulge in a bigger meal maybe once a week but since having my children, I really have to work hard to get the weight to come off. At one point, 2 years ago, I was 20 lbs lighter than I am now after losing 35 lbs but only because my schedule permitted me to go to the gym 4-5 times a week. Once my schedule changed (I finished school and starting working FT), the weight crept back on.
My husband is gone all week for work (trucking), and I work FT plus take care of all household responsibilities like cooking/cleaning/raising the children/finances/etc. (he helps with some of it on the weekends). I would love to be 30 lbs lighter, but no matter how I work it out in my head, I can't figure out a way to make it happen with my current schedule. I'm going to PT shortly with work, so hopefully I'll be able to get at least an afternoon walk in with the kids before making supper so I'm looking forward to that.
Every now and then the thought of what he said pops into my head and I have questions, so I try to talk to him about it. He's struggled with his communication with me in the past, but we've done really well the last 4 years or so working together but with this subject, he just thinks it's weird that I want to discuss it. I guess my biggest concern is that if he's not as attracted to me NOW, when I'm in my 20's because of extra 30 lbs, what the heck is going to happen when I'm older and my boobs are saggy, my body is wrinkled, etc.?! He thinks I'm crazy for thinking ahead that far. I think it's a legitimate concern. I know he can't "help" how he's been feeling, but I think it's only fair that we discuss it after he makes an announcement like that.