I was picky about choosing a guy - I wanted the guy to ask me out for nice dinner, to woo me over the phone, etc.
One time, I met a guy and went out with him. I realized I wasn't so interested in him and turned him down. When I saw him again at a random social mixer, he asked me whether I was happy to get a free dinner.
It was quite a shock to me. And I decided not to have a prelude in the next date. I thought that once we get in an intimate relationship, the guy would offer those dinner things from the bottom of his heart. So, i met a new guy. We had the first date at a bar( we split the bill), and the second date was at his place. The second date ended up having sex. He went on a business trip right after the second date. I expected some texts or calls from him. But no. No message nor call from him.
I got only one message about a half week later asking what I'll be doing in the night on the day he's returning.
I wasn't happy about this message, and I replied I already have plans.
I told this to my friend, and she told me that my strategy is wrong. The beginning of the relationship is the time when the guys work the most to impress a girl. And the girl should take it. And over time, guys usually put less efforts in the relationship. She told me that since I started it with a very low bar, he may expect to continue it easy.
Anyway, I feel like he thinks me an easy girl for booty calls. What do you think?