This is my first time posting here...I've been lurking here for a few weeks and found everyone's comments supportive and helpful to provide a fresh perspective. I guess that's what I'm looking for...a place to vent and maybe get advice or a new perspective on stress and how it impacts your marriage.
My husband and I have been married for 5 years, together for a total of 11 years. We have a three year old son who is the center of our world.
Ever since our son was born, we had an insane amount of stress thrown into our lives. Having a baby is a major life event, and learning to juggle the demands of work and family have been challenging. On top of that, we've moved, dealt with a serious family illness, experienced a miscarriage and had a ton of work stress just in a few short years.
It seems over the last few months that things are really coming to a boiling point, for two main reasons. First, we've unsuccessfully been trying to have another child for two years and the stress of infertility and miscarriage has been so, so hard. Second, both our work situations have been challenging. My husband is miserable in his job and often brings his frustration home with him. My company is in the process of being acquired, so there is the unknown of my job stability.
As the result of all of this, our marriage has suffered. I feel like I can't even talk to my husband any more. He'll have a bad day at work and come home in a terrible mood. He won't want to talk about it or really much of anything. He withdraws himself from our family. Because he's so frustrated, he has little patience for our son, who just wants his dad's attention and instead my husband yells at him and disciplines him for no reason. Yesterday evening, he had another terrible day at the office and said he needed to unwind. So he just left - went for a drive and didn't return home for hours.
I know I"m struggling to...infertility sucks and I do my best not to let it get to me, but it's hard. I know I withdraw sometimes to deal with it, but I never let it impact my son or how I interact with him. The last thing I want is our stress and issues to effect him.
I just don't know what to do anymore. I'm committed to my marriage and making it work, but I don't know what to do or how to make it better. How do you deal with stress in your life and prevent it from impacting your marriage?