Hi! Recently my sister and I have noticed one of our younger cousins (just turned 21 though so not too young) seems to be abusing drugs (most likely xanax/oxy's/heroin) and noticed her "nodding off" and really losing weight. We have other family members who have these problems and can tell something is up with her but we don't know how/if to confront her about it. We all live within 30 minutes and spend a lot of time together and have a large, close family.
My sister's ex-fiance was addicted to heroin which caused them to break up and he overdosed and died recently... so this hits REALLY close to home for her (and helped her notice and realize some of the symptoms).
We don't know if we should say anything and risk her getting mad and shutting us out, or maybe talking to her mom, or what? Also, is she an even addict if she is just occasionally using, or just at fun events like concerts? (Her boyfriend deals marijuana that I know of and she has mentioned to me before about taking Xanax, but other than that she is a huge pothead which doesn't concern me as much as the harder drugs) Any help is appreciated, I just really don't know how to go about it in the right way!