My husband and I have been together for 7 1/2 years and married for just over 1 year. We live about 5 minutes away from my parents and I would love to move across the country if it meant I got away from them. (We aren't literally moving tho) When my husband and I first started dating we were seniors in highschool. We used to spend alot of time with my parents esp. because we were each still living at home. We used to go to dinner, hang out at our pool, and even take day trips with them. We all got along and would laugh, tell stories, and generally have a good time together. Now, I can't imagine spending more than a few hours with my parents. My mom is off on some other planet half the time and when she is on planet earth, she just talks and talks and won't shut up. She controls every conversation and even talks over people if they try to chime into a conversation. Not only is it rude, but it's so annoying. And she talks about nothing. She never has any idea of what's going on and just talks to tell me what happened during her day or tell me stories about people that I don't know. I've tried to be polite, I've tried ignoring her but nothing seems to work. And my dad can't stand to be around her because she gets so annoying so then the 2 of them bicker back and forth when they get frustrated with each other. Also, when I invite my mom to do anything with me/us she invites her best friend every time. This weekend my husband are going to the water park for the day and I invited my mom and dad since they have been talking about going for awhile now. My dad can't take off work but my mom wants to go so she invited her best friend, who invited her son, and then also invited her daughter who is on drugs and is someone that my mom knows I don't like to associate with except to be polite on the rare occasions that I see her. My mom took it from a nice relaxing day to inviting everyone and their brother and now my husband and I really don't want to go because this is our only trip this summer and she's made it so stressful. We literally can't do anything with my parents without it turning into a big, drawn out, torture session of mindless chatter on her part and my dad being short tempered because we're all annoyed with my mom. She controls every convo and anytime someone else starts to talk with her she talks over them as if she doesn't even notice. Her side of the family has tendencies for alzheimers and dementia and everytime I try to bring this up to my dad he gets upset and says my mom is just busy and doesn't realize she's talking over people and is oblivious to everything. I don't know what to do about this because my husband dreads doing things with my parents because it's so exhausting to be around my mom and my dad just gets so unpleasant because he's annoyed with my mom. I can't even stand to talk to her on the phone because if I do call her she talks non stop about herself and then when I finally get off the phone with her, she calls again maybe 10 minutes later with another question. She does this everytime we're on the phone. What can I do to distance ourselves without being rude. Like I said, we live 5 min away and my mom calls several times a week.