I hear a lot of people complaining about their MIL, but mine is great. It's my own mother that drives me up the wall. My hubby is a kind person and has learned to laugh at her, um, 'antics', but it still drives me crazy when she says or does insensitive or just plain mean things.
Her latest thing that I really can just laugh at now but was so mad about was this:
My parents and my hubby and I were going to a wedding. As usual, we were all twiddling our thumbs while my mother finished getting ready when someone remembered "THE PRESENTS!" So my mom throws the presents and some wrapping paper in the living room and I get up to wrap ours and realize - sitting on a floor bending over a rather large box in this dress could cause some wardrobe malfunctions. So I look over at hubby and ask "Sweety, would you mind wrapping this?" He replies "Sure, no problem." and wraps it.
The next day my mother confronts me and says " I cannot believe you made Matt (hubby) wrap that gift. It was sooooo obvious on his face that he was embarrassed that you made him do that." "Mom, I didn't make him, I asked, and I would have had some serious problems with my dress if I tried to sprawl out on the floor wrapping that big box." "You could have stood up and wrapped it on the counter. Your job as a wife is to make sure he is as relaxed and comfortable as possible and take care of his needs before your own. Even if you had a job (I'm stay at home) you would still need to take care of the house and him before anything else."
After I gave her a funny look, she put the icing on the cake and said "I'm just worried about you, and I'm worried about your marriage. I've had a lot more experience than you, and that was not good. I'm really worried about your marriage."
I recounted all this to Hubby, and after ranting about how nosy my mother is, he calmed down and laughed and said "Why in the world would I mind wrapping a present!!!! I wasn't even doing anything!" and started cracking up. So we're able to laugh about it now, and even have a running joke with another married couple about how any time one of us helps the other, we say "Oh wait, probably not good for the marriage" but I"m still annoyed at my mom.
Thanks for letting me rant! I want to qualify something though: I agree that I should be taking care of my husband and all. I basically cook, clean the house, run errands, and 'take care of my hubby's needs' all day long, so it makes what my mother said even sillier, and to me more hurtful, like I'm not doing enough or failing somehow whenever I ask for his help. We never expressed how we felt to my mother and basically dropped it. Should we have told her how we feel? Thanks!