So, here's my story. I've been with him for 6 years and we're getting married in August. He has 2 daughters, ages 12 & 14. Since the very beginning I really made an effort to let the girls guide our relationship (meaning MY relationship with THEM, not their dad, just to clarify) It wasn't always easy, nothing ever is, right? They are incredibly good girls and I am very very lucky to have them in my life, but until recently I didn't feel as "close" to them as I would have liked. But, knowing that I wasn't going anywhere I patiently waited until they were ready. Things have been going great lately... 12y.o. tells me she loves me several times a weekend, and has even started hugging me IN FRONT OF her mom!! Aaaah, and here we come to the problem. Their mom and I have NEVER gotten along. And not for lack of trying on my part. I've certainly had my moments, and maybe early on I said some things I maybe shouldn't have, but it's hard to keep your mouth shut when you see the man you love being manipulated and walked all over by someone who doesn't give an ISH about him, just his money. Well, this past weekend his daughters graduated, one from 6th grade, one from 8th. Well, the plan was to have a joint family barbecue (at some neutral spot like a park...and not the one we are getting married at!) and include both of our families, mainly his mom who traveled from out of state expecting something like this only because the girls' mom suggested it in the first place. Well, nothing was getting planned so we took it upon ourselves to plan a party for them. We of course invited the girls' mom and family from her side. They (not so politely) declined. I later heard through the grapevine that She told His mom (my future MIL) that the reason she didn't come was because she can't stand being around me and my "snide remarks" make her sick. She really didn't know what to think of this and didn't respond, but I'm even more flabbergasted as the only 3 things I've said to her in the last 6 months were: "have a great weekend' " Your girls are awesome and reflect the great job you do as their mom" and "congratulations on their graduations, you must be very proud"... WHAT did I do wrong?? It's not like I love to be around her, either, but I go to events where I know she will be because it's FOR THE KIDS! I think what bothers me the most is that she's able to get under my skin like this. The fact that she is ABLE to hurt my feelings. Why do I care so much? Any suggestions or reccomendations for A. Feeling better about the situation or B. making it better??
Thanks if you got to the bottom of my "book"