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Losing a dog and moving on

Hi ladies,

We lost our 10 y/o bulldog last Saturday and it has been so darn hard.  We got him when he was a puppy and I think I love that dog more than I love my kids and possibly my husband (j/k).  His death was sudden as he had been in perfect health.  We're not ready for another furry friend yet and I know we won't get another bulldog but I saw brother/sister bulldog puppies the other day and they were just the sweetest dogs on earth.  I just don't think I would ever love another breed like I love the bulldog breed.  Financially, we can't get another bulldog.  Ours was always in good health and never really had any problems but I know we would be tempting fate if we got another.

So, finally my question, how do you know the time is right and how do you know what dog is right?  I want a rescue dog next and I want my kids (6 and 5) to help pick it.

Thanks for any advice.............

Re: Losing a dog and moving on

  • I am a total lurker on this board because I like to read about the dogs/methods of training, etc.  But I had to respond to you.  I am so deeply sorry about the loss of your dog.  We had a cat and a lab/greyhound mix that we lost (cat in October and dog in February).  My whole family was heartbroken.  Both of these animals were older and their health was failing.  We did all we could but it was just their time to be at peace.  My 6 year old was heartbroken after our dog died this Feb.  She had only known them to be sickly (both were sick for about 2 1/2 years.  We debated getting another animal and said we wanted to wait along time.  But the house was just too quiet.  We adopted a rescue lab in March.   She will never replace the love/bond that we have with our deceased animals.  However, she has brought a new energy and love into this house.  We are animal people and to live without them just wasn't right for us.   We knew we wanted a rescue and decided to go for a labrador as our beloved dog was 1/2 lab, 1/2 greyhound.  Our newest addition is just a joy.  We know that she was rescued on the day (hour really) that she was to be put down.  We have a wonderful pet friendly home and this dog (and way to many like her) are in danger of being put down due to lack of homes.  So we adopted her which freed a spot in the foster home she was in and then another dog was able to be saved.  We will always love the other animals but we sure do love this one too.  She is a joy.  My heart goes out to you but when you are ready, I applaud your consideration of a rescue.  


  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  It'll be a year next month since we put down our MinPin of 16 years.  It's extremely difficult still and I don't think I'll ever be able to have another MinPin.  Even seeing another one often gets me teary.  That being said, when it was the right time for a new family member, I just knew.  We adopted Wylie (pictured below) about four months ago.  He'll never replace that hole where Trouble is but he is a new type of love because he's a new and different dog.  Those fifteen minutes driving home with Wylie on my lap made me bawl like a baby.  I cried because I felt like I betrayed Trouble by getting a new pet but I also cried because I was so happy to finally have a cute, fuzzy ball of unconditional love around the house again.  No matter how difficult it is to lose a pet, it never equals the joy of getting to know and falling in love with a new family member.  Good luck on your search when you decide to add to your family again.


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  • I am so sorry. We lost our beloved Dachshund almost 2 years ago.  He saw me through my divorce, screened my boyfriends, and helped pick my new DH, who loved him more than I did.  We just got two new doxie puppies a couple of months ago.  It took me a while to even consider it, and these two puppies sort of fell into our lives.  I would think that you'll know when it's the right time, and the right dog will come to you at that time.  Don't try to rush it--but you'll have fend off the requests from you children until you're ready. 

     My daughter, who is married and has a 2 year old, wanted a rescue lab, and it took her about 4 months to find the right guy.  Good luck. 

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  • may be this time is not right for purchasing a new dog, financially or family condition wise. so you should wait for the right time. may be a year or so. till that time your children will be grow and mature enough.
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