Sorry to be a PW Ladies...
My DH is in a position he obtained after being promoted through an internship he got after his MBA. He started last June. The job has some benefits, but in reality, he is being paid too little, being worked too hard, and has no growth opportunities. On top of that, his boss, the owner of the company, is an alcoholic with loose morals; he expects his managers to accompany him on weekly drinking binges that eventually wind up at strip clubs. Needless to say, this type of behavior does not coincide with our family values.
DH is stuck now, knowing that managers who remove themselves from this after-work activity too often are let go, under the guise of not making quotas, etc. So to keep his job, he must engage in this behavior. He wants to look for another job, but he his very, very concerned that his boss, who knows "everyone", will find out he is applying and fire him for looking elsewhere.
He is also concerned that it will look terrible to potential employers that he's seeking a new job after having been at his current (and only post-MBA) job less than a year. He wants to stay with one company for a long time, but he can't very well explain the toxic enviornment he is currently experiencing to a new employer.
DH thinks it's best for me to get a job first, so he can quit and then look. I maintain that it's easier to find a job if you have a job, and having the income is worth the risk of his boss finding out. I'll be looking for a job for myself either way.
Anyone have any advice on how to handle this situation? We feel stuck and want to make the right move, but feel that a few bad steps may be unavoidable.
TIA - Jenna