Okay, what about to tell you really isn't a terribly big deal, but I'd really like to keep it that way....
My mom and MIL have teamed up to throw me a baby shower. These two ladies are extremely different, but they typically get along well, and I do believe they love each other, (our families have spent some holidays together). Unfortunately, they are so different that they just don't see eye to eye on many things, and I had a feeling that when they decided to team up on the shower, there might be a little friction.
Anyway, my mom is a sweet person who means well, but she often needs a lot of guidance and advice on things. For example, when I go to her house for dinner, she'll often ask me tons of questions ("What pan should I use? Should I make carrots, or broccoli? How long should I leave this in the oven?") You'd never know that she's been cooking dinner for our family for almost 40 years... My mom is also only working part time right now, so she's got a lot of time on her hands.
DH and his dad had lunch together today, and FIL mentioned that my mom has been "driving DH's mom crazy." Apparently, my mom calls MIL almost every night with shower questions and keeps her on the phone close to 40 minutes at a time. DH's mom works long hours and is going through a stressful time at work, so this is probably bothering her even more than it normally would. And knowing my mom as I do, this does sound like exactly the kind of thing she normally does (when she had to get the addresses together for the shower invitations, she literally called me 4 times in about 30 minutes with questions, many of which were really not necessary).
DH has asked me to bring this up with my mom, but he doesn't want to hurt her feelings or cause resentment, so he asked if I could just sort of work it into the conversation tactfully. I can't think of a way to actually fo that, though. To be honest, I'm very close to my mom and talk to her about everything, so I'm willing to tell her, point blank, to just not call MIL so much. However, my mom can be extremely sensitive sometimes, and I would hate for her to hold this against DH's family.
So, any thoughts about how to bring up something like this without causing friction in the family? Should I go for broke and just be honest? SHould I mention it to my dad and see if he can think of a way to bring it up? Should I wait and see of this topic comes up naturally through conversation? Thoughts?