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Ok I need to vent this out or I'm going to explode.

Don't mind me, I'm a little stressed lately... I'm at work right now and things are a little nuts here at the moment. BUT....

If I don't get some "me" time or quiet time pretty quickly here I think I may just have a meltdown. Things have been and always are very busy at home. 2 kids, we both work full time, there is always something going on. I can deal with that...most of the time. Lately I've been struggling with anxiety. Not sleeping well, feeling aggitated, restless...I really think part of the problem is not ever having a moment to myself. Literally the only time I am alone is when I shower and if I get up at the crack of dawn to run. Any other time if I am not working, I have the kids. I'm not blaming DH, it's not like he's out doing his thing alone either. If he's not working he is usually with us. It is soooo noisy all.the.time. DD is really difficult lately and DS is going through a yelling phase now that he is finding his voice. I feel like the only time someone is not talking at me is when I am sleeping.

I just need a few hours of quiet time!!!

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  • are you at a gym?  do they offer childcare?

    If they do, it might be worth it to rework your workout schedule to be able to do a treadmill run on a Saturday then spend some time in the steam room/sauna/pool

  • Time to let the DH take them for a bit.  Can you do something on Saturday with the understanding that he can have a turn, too?
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  • I hear you. Your kids are at a tough age right now. Can you guys trade off weekends? Give yourself a full or half day Saturday to do what you want, and then he can do the same the following weekend? Or get a sitter and get out for a date night?

    I promise you it does get easier. Our kids are about the same age difference, but DD is 5.5 and DS is 3. They are more independent and play really well together. So there are often times when they don't want us playing with them (so we'll sit and enjoy a cup of coffee or glass of wine instead :)  I still need my quiet time, but find it is much easier to schedule as they get older, are a little more independent, and it's easier for one of you to handle both kids. (although while it gets easier it doesn't necessarily get quieter)

     

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    are you at a gym?  do they offer childcare?

    If they do, it might be worth it to rework your workout schedule to be able to do a treadmill run on a Saturday then spend some time in the steam room/sauna/pool

    No gym. I have a treadmill at home and I run outside when I can. I want to join a running group one day a week but DH is giving me flack about it Sad

  • :(  I'm sorry!  Can you afford a sitter for a few hours or do you have a family/friend that could help?
  • You definitely need to tell your DH that you need a day to yourself. 
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    are you at a gym?  do they offer childcare?

    If they do, it might be worth it to rework your workout schedule to be able to do a treadmill run on a Saturday then spend some time in the steam room/sauna/pool

    No gym. I have a treadmill at home and I run outside when I can. I want to join a running group one day a week but DH is giving me flack about it Sad

    Why is he giving you flak about it?? Is he worried about you being gone and having to handle both kids? I'd sit down with him and tell him how much you need some alone time and time to exercise. Maybe there is something he wants to get out and do too and you guys can come up with a schedule to make sure you're both getting what you need.

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    I hear you. Your kids are at a tough age right now. Can you guys trade off weekends? Give yourself a full or half day Saturday to do what you want, and then he can do the same the following weekend? Or get a sitter and get out for a date night?

    I promise you it does get easier. Our kids are about the same age difference, but DD is 5.5 and DS is 3. They are more independent and play really well together. So there are often times when they don't want us playing with them (so we'll sit and enjoy a cup of coffee or glass of wine instead :)  I still need my quiet time, but find it is much easier to schedule as they get older, are a little more independent, and it's easier for one of you to handle both kids. (although while it gets easier it doesn't necessarily get quieter)

     

    I'm going to hold you to this Stick out tongue

    We've got a long weekend coming up at the end of April with no plans. I think I'm going to see about the IL's watchingboth kids so DH & I can both have some time. I know he doesn't stress about it as much as I do but I'm sure DH would appreciate some down time.

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    are you at a gym?  do they offer childcare?

    If they do, it might be worth it to rework your workout schedule to be able to do a treadmill run on a Saturday then spend some time in the steam room/sauna/pool

    No gym. I have a treadmill at home and I run outside when I can. I want to join a running group one day a week but DH is giving me flack about it Sad

    Why is he giving you flak about it?? Is he worried about you being gone and having to handle both kids? I'd sit down with him and tell him how much you need some alone time and time to exercise. Maybe there is something he wants to get out and do too and you guys can come up with a schedule to make sure you're both getting what you need.

    He's a little concerned about me with all the calorie counting and working out. I honestly don't think I am doing too much or eating too little, but he's just worried that I'm letting it kinda of take over KWIM? I think he would be completely on board if I wanted to do a girls night or something like that but to be honest I really have no interest in that right now. I just want quiet,lol!

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    are you at a gym?  do they offer childcare?

    If they do, it might be worth it to rework your workout schedule to be able to do a treadmill run on a Saturday then spend some time in the steam room/sauna/pool

    No gym. I have a treadmill at home and I run outside when I can. I want to join a running group one day a week but DH is giving me flack about it Sad

    Why is he giving you flak about it?? Is he worried about you being gone and having to handle both kids? I'd sit down with him and tell him how much you need some alone time and time to exercise. Maybe there is something he wants to get out and do too and you guys can come up with a schedule to make sure you're both getting what you need.

    He's a little concerned about me with all the calorie counting and working out. I honestly don't think I am doing too much or eating too little, but he's just worried that I'm letting it kinda of take over KWIM? I think he would be completely on board if I wanted to do a girls night or something like that but to be honest I really have no interest in that right now. I just want quiet,lol!

    For Mother's Day you should hint (and by that I mean flat out tell him) that you would like a night alone in a nice hotel.  Order room service, take a bubble bath and read a book or watch trash TV all by your lonesome.

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  • image carlab44:

    I hear you. Your kids are at a tough age right now. Can you guys trade off weekends? Give yourself a full or half day Saturday to do what you want, and then he can do the same the following weekend? Or get a sitter and get out for a date night?

    I promise you it does get easier. Our kids are about the same age difference, but DD is 5.5 and DS is 3. They are more independent and play really well together. So there are often times when they don't want us playing with them (so we'll sit and enjoy a cup of coffee or glass of wine instead :)  I still need my quiet time, but find it is much easier to schedule as they get older, are a little more independent, and it's easier for one of you to handle both kids. (although while it gets easier it doesn't necessarily get quieter)

     

    I agree with this, especially that last line :) When my kids were your age, I would have called you crazy if you said we'd try for another! I think you need to sit down with your DH and figure out a way to get some "me time". Good luck!

     

     

     

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    are you at a gym?  do they offer childcare?

    If they do, it might be worth it to rework your workout schedule to be able to do a treadmill run on a Saturday then spend some time in the steam room/sauna/pool

    No gym. I have a treadmill at home and I run outside when I can. I want to join a running group one day a week but DH is giving me flack about it Sad

    Why is he giving you flak about it?? Is he worried about you being gone and having to handle both kids? I'd sit down with him and tell him how much you need some alone time and time to exercise. Maybe there is something he wants to get out and do too and you guys can come up with a schedule to make sure you're both getting what you need.

    He's a little concerned about me with all the calorie counting and working out. I honestly don't think I am doing too much or eating too little, but he's just worried that I'm letting it kinda of take over KWIM? I think he would be completely on board if I wanted to do a girls night or something like that but to be honest I really have no interest in that right now. I just want quiet,lol!

    For Mother's Day you should hint (and by that I mean flat out tell him) that you would like a night alone in a nice hotel.  Order room service, take a bubble bath and read a book or watch trash TV all by your lonesome.

    That sounds like heaven!

  • Can you take a vacation/personal day from work (assuming the kids are in daycare?). I do this every 6-8wks. I spend the morning deep cleaning the house completely so I can relax more when everyone's around. Then the afternoon is my time, to veg in a clean house or do shopping for me. I know I get burned out with one child, so I can only imagine with two little ones.

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  • Sounds tough. Ask DH if he can watch your LOs for a bit, or a friend. Get some you time!
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    are you at a gym?  do they offer childcare?

    If they do, it might be worth it to rework your workout schedule to be able to do a treadmill run on a Saturday then spend some time in the steam room/sauna/pool

    No gym. I have a treadmill at home and I run outside when I can. I want to join a running group one day a week but DH is giving me flack about it Sad

    Why is he giving you flak about it?? Is he worried about you being gone and having to handle both kids? I'd sit down with him and tell him how much you need some alone time and time to exercise. Maybe there is something he wants to get out and do too and you guys can come up with a schedule to make sure you're both getting what you need.

    He's a little concerned about me with all the calorie counting and working out. I honestly don't think I am doing too much or eating too little, but he's just worried that I'm letting it kinda of take over KWIM? I think he would be completely on board if I wanted to do a girls night or something like that but to be honest I really have no interest in that right now. I just want quiet,lol!

    For Mother's Day you should hint (and by that I mean flat out tell him) that you would like a night alone in a nice hotel.  Order room service, take a bubble bath and read a book or watch trash TV all by your lonesome.

    That sounds like heaven!

    I don't even have kids yet and this sounds awesome.

  • What do you do after your kids go to bed?

    And yes, it does get easier! Mine are almost 3 and almost 5 now and its so much different than it was a year ago, even 6 months ago.

    I know its hard to balance, we both work full time as well. And i know nights around here are crazy, especially once the kids go to bed. Cooking, making lunches, doing laundry, etc. But a few times a week i take 20 mins to myself and take a bubble bath. laundry, cleaning, all that can wait for 20 mins if that means giving me some sanity.

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    Can you take a vacation/personal day from work (assuming the kids are in daycare?). I do this every 6-8wks. I spend the morning deep cleaning the house completely so I can relax more when everyone's around. Then the afternoon is my time, to veg in a clean house or do shopping for me. I know I get burned out with one child, so I can only imagine with two little ones.

    I do this and I don't even have any kids! Just a high energy demanding dog.  A day off work is highly recommended if you can swing it!

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    are you at a gym?  do they offer childcare?

    If they do, it might be worth it to rework your workout schedule to be able to do a treadmill run on a Saturday then spend some time in the steam room/sauna/pool

    No gym. I have a treadmill at home and I run outside when I can. I want to join a running group one day a week but DH is giving me flack about it Sad

    Why is he giving you flak about it?? Is he worried about you being gone and having to handle both kids? I'd sit down with him and tell him how much you need some alone time and time to exercise. Maybe there is something he wants to get out and do too and you guys can come up with a schedule to make sure you're both getting what you need.

    He's a little concerned about me with all the calorie counting and working out. I honestly don't think I am doing too much or eating too little, but he's just worried that I'm letting it kinda of take over KWIM? I think he would be completely on board if I wanted to do a girls night or something like that but to be honest I really have no interest in that right now. I just want quiet,lol!

    For Mother's Day you should hint (and by that I mean flat out tell him) that you would like a night alone in a nice hotel.  Order room service, take a bubble bath and read a book or watch trash TV all by your lonesome.

    That sounds like heaven!

    I don't even have kids yet and this sounds awesome.

    I was gonna say the exact same thing.  And, I would allow myself a bit of junk food for one night. 

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