Ok...so I have been with my BF for 3 years....recently we moved from our home state to NC. However, he had issues down here with finding a job and we fought a lot. He ended up moving back home in December...he asked me if i wanted him to leave and I said yes...not thinking he would pack up in a day and leave (I know...my fault). He left...we missed each other and got back together within 2 weeks. In the past few weeks he has been miserable without me, very depressed...and he tells me this. I have to stay at my job since i am under contract. He has rented a place back home, so the game plan was that I would come back home in a year (after the contract ended). We have been going back on forth as to what city I would move to...he wants to stay where we were from. Regardless, we are TOGETHER and BF/GF.
On saturday he went out to bowl with his sister...he told me and even texted me to tell me when he got to dinner and then at 1am he texted me to ask me what I was doing...I was asleep so didn't respond. The following day we kept missing phone calls to each other and when we finally got around to talking he was distant saying we need to figure out what is going to happen in a year...r u coming home or should we break up. He said he was going to eat dinner and would call me back in a bit. This was 7:30, but 10:15, he still had not called...so I called him...he claimed he was sleeping but he sounded wide awake. So, I said fine, going to bed good night...and hung up (I was upset). I turned off my phone and for the next hour he called me about 50 times.
Two days later (still together) I found out through snooping (because he has been acting strange) that he was on the phone sunday after we hung up and monday night (again...around 10:30 pm...after he said he was going to change and go to bed) for 2 hours each night talking to a girl he met while out with his sister. When I called him out on it...he furiously denied it, until he realized I had proof. Then he came clean, saying she was a "friend" he met saturday night who was also having boyfriend problems, and they were both discussing their problems. He claims he told her how much he loves me and she knew. I am so upset, it makes me sick to my stomach he lied. He claims it was only phone calls and he admits he was wrong and screwed up. He keeps saying how lonely and miserable he is without me and it was someone to talk to. It was a friend of a friend of his sisters that came out with them. I don't know what to do.
Sorry this is soooooo long. Is this cheating? I love him, but I am so hurt. I know he didn't want to hurt me and if we were together he would've never done this. But does this make it forgivable. Has anyone else been through this. What do I do. Can I ever trust him again?!