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  • If you believe something, you had best either have evidence or a faith based argument to back it up.  If you don't, chances are I think you're a moron and can rip your belief into confetti sized shreds with points to the contrary.

    White Knot
    Stand up for something you believe in. White Knot
  • I don't understand the appeal of being a crunchy-granola momma, or celebrating having a non-medicinal child birth, or using cloth diapers, or making your own baby food, or anything else that's purposely "against" the main stream in regards to child-rearing.  It doesn't make one better than the other -- you don't get a bonus or a badge or even a sticker for any of these things.  It just shows us that you have the time to spend on these extra, and sometimes unnecessary, steps.  I mean sure, give yourself a pat on the back for being "different" but all you're getting from me is a roll of the eyes.
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  • I don't understand parents who making no effort to learn while pregnant and while tackling parenthood, in the sense that they just go with the flow and believe everything they're told.  Example, a girl on my baby month board was all upset that they did see a heart beat at her u/s at 6 weeks  and her doctor told her he saw a sac and yolk but not to get her hopes up and that they'd do another u/s in a weeks.  So of course this poor lady is freaking out because he doc said to, but had she actually read anything she would know that it is vwry common to not hear the heatbeat until 8-10 weeks and she could have called her doc out on this.  I don't get how people go through life not wanting to know things!  I research the crap out of everything just because I like knowing things!
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    I don't understand parents who making no effort to learn while pregnant and while tackling parenthood, in the sense that they just go with the flow and believe everything they're told.  Example, a girl on my baby month board was all upset that they did see a heart beat at her u/s at 6 weeks  and her doctor told her he saw a sac and yolk but not to get her hopes up and that they'd do another u/s in a weeks.  So of course this poor lady is freaking out because he doc said to, but had she actually read anything she would know that it is vwry common to not hear the heatbeat until 8-10 weeks and she could have called her doc out on this.  I don't get how people go through life not wanting to know things!  I research the crap out of everything just because I like knowing things!

    *nodnod*

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  • I thought UO was unpopular opinion.
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    I thought UO was unpopular opinion.

    Hmm.... *taps chin*

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  • image MBMcC421:

    image ChristinaDawn:
    I don't understand parents who making no effort to learn while pregnant and while tackling parenthood, in the sense that they just go with the flow and believe everything they're told.  Example, a girl on my baby month board was all upset that they did see a heart beat at her u/s at 6 weeks  and her doctor told her he saw a sac and yolk but not to get her hopes up and that they'd do another u/s in a weeks.  So of course this poor lady is freaking out because he doc said to, but had she actually read anything she would know that it is vwry common to not hear the heatbeat until 8-10 weeks and she could have called her doc out on this.  I don't get how people go through life not wanting to know things!  I research the crap out of everything just because I like knowing things!

    *nodnod*

    yep.

    White Knot
    Stand up for something you believe in. White Knot
  • Call me old fashioned, but I think it's really inappropriate to discuss religion, politics, or money at work if those things are unrelated to your profession. I have been cornered more than once, by more than one person, regarding my political affliation and even though I can fully back up my position, it still makes me uncomfortable.

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    I thought UO was unpopular opinion.

    I thought the same thing. I just sat here wondering if I had been confused all along.

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    image steeser03:
    I thought UO was unpopular opinion.

    I thought the same thing. I just sat here wondering if I had been confused all along.

    ok, good. It's not just me.

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  • image MBMcC421:

    image steeser03:
    I thought UO was unpopular opinion.

    Hmm.... *taps chin*

    Fixed it. Better?

  • To women in business- Please don't hold other women back just because you were thrown through the ringer 20 years ago. We are all making progress and in some industries (grocery being one) men still dominate. It sucks, but its the truth. Getting held back because people want me to experience what they did is not only not fair but crappy.

     To mothers who judge how  I raise my child (not on here) - its my life, my child and she is doing just fine. Leave us alone.

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    image figgs0831:

    image steeser03:
    I thought UO was unpopular opinion.

    I thought the same thing. I just sat here wondering if I had been confused all along.

    ok, good. It's not just me.

    JFC, y'all. This is not the kind of debate I was after!

  • I can't not stand people who try and push religion on me.  Don't judge me because I don't go to church on a regular basis or because I can't recite the bible from memory.  Don't tell me that my life may have been different if I had "let God in".  If you don't like or agree with my lifestyle, then stay the hell out of it.

    Huh, this could probably go for the FFC post too.

    Married my Best Friend on September 6, 2009
    Our baby boy,Logan, was born still at 19w3d on 7/1/2011
    Our 2nd baby boy, Mason, was born still at 20w3d on 1/31/2012
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  • You don't need therapy to be happy in a relationship.  Am I the only person who feels this way?  Seriously, more and more of my friends are just being dragged down by people who suck and go to therapy for it.  Um, if you didn't need it before and now need therapy to make yourself okay with life because of your relationship, you don't need someone to help you sort things out, you need to leave your dumb boyfriend/ girlfriend.
    White Knot
    Stand up for something you believe in. White Knot
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    You don't need therapy to be happy in a relationship.  Am I the only person who feels this way?  Seriously, more and more of my friends are just being dragged down by people who suck and go to therapy for it.  Um, if you didn't need it before and now need therapy to make yourself okay with life because of your relationship, you don't need someone to help you sort things out, you need to leave your dumb boyfriend/ girlfriend.

    Do you feel this way regarding marriage counseling as well?

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  • image MBMcC421:

    image maryandkirk0909:
    You don't need therapy to be happy in a relationship.  Am I the only person who feels this way?  Seriously, more and more of my friends are just being dragged down by people who suck and go to therapy for it.  Um, if you didn't need it before and now need therapy to make yourself okay with life because of your relationship, you don't need someone to help you sort things out, you need to leave your dumb boyfriend/ girlfriend.

    Do you feel this way regarding marriage counseling as well?

    I feel slighly differently. If you've made the commitment to get married and be together for your entire life there's a chance you could need to work through some stuff at some point.  If you're dating someone and there's no ring and there's not a lot of reason to stay I think it isn't worth it.

    I'm not talking about relationship counseling though, I'm talking about individual counseling.  You shouldn't base your happiness so much on someone else that when they behave badly to you it affects your feelings of self worth and your self esteem.

    White Knot
    Stand up for something you believe in. White Knot
  • image maryandkirk0909:
    You don't need therapy to be happy in a relationship.  Am I the only person who feels this way?  Seriously, more and more of my friends are just being dragged down by people who suck and go to therapy for it.  Um, if you didn't need it before and now need therapy to make yourself okay with life because of your relationship, you don't need someone to help you sort things out, you need to leave your dumb boyfriend/ girlfriend.

    Or...just because they didn't go to therapy before, doesn't mean they didn't need to go the therapy. Sometimes, people's effect on you (whether good or bad) help you realize things about yourself or how you deal with things that should be addressed. If they're staying with someone who "sucks" there's more going on in their head which can be helped by...going to therapy. It's doesn't need to be a bad word.

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    image maryandkirk0909:
    You don't need therapy to be happy in a relationship.  Am I the only person who feels this way?  Seriously, more and more of my friends are just being dragged down by people who suck and go to therapy for it.  Um, if you didn't need it before and now need therapy to make yourself okay with life because of your relationship, you don't need someone to help you sort things out, you need to leave your dumb boyfriend/ girlfriend.

    Or...just because they didn't go to therapy before, doesn't mean they didn't need to go the therapy. Sometimes, people's effect on you (whether good or bad) help you realize things about yourself or how you deal with things that should be addressed. If they're staying with someone who "sucks" there's more going on in their head which can be helped by...going to therapy. It's doesn't need to be a bad word.

    Yeah, but these aren't people who needed to go to therapy or who were even unhappy in the past.  Sure you can need to work on the way you address things, but when your problems are "I feel stupid for liking Hunger Games because we make plans to see the movie and then my boyfriend ridicules the series for a week and tells me how stupid it is, then drinks and then doesn't want to go to the movie when the time comes, I feel like I need to like different things so we can enjoy them together" but then sits through all of his crap- that isn't a person being happy or working towards a place of happiness, that is giving up who you are in favor of trying to make a relationship work. 

    Again, happy person first, successful relationship later.  If you relationship drives you into therapy because it makes you feel like something is wrong with you when you just want to share activities you enjoy, chances are, you need to break up with the ***.

    White Knot
    Stand up for something you believe in. White Knot
  • image MBMcC421:
    I don't understand the appeal of being a crunchy-granola momma, or celebrating having a non-medicinal child birth, or using cloth diapers, or making your own baby food, or anything else that's purposely "against" the main stream in regards to child-rearing.  It doesn't make one better than the other -- you don't get a bonus or a badge or even a sticker for any of these things.  It just shows us that you have the time to spend on these extra, and sometimes unnecessary, steps.  I mean sure, give yourself a pat on the back for being "different" but all you're getting from me is a roll of the eyes.

    I agree completely. I irritates me when I see those on the bump who have badges that say "I had a natural birth" or whatever. Whoopee. I feel like they feel they are better than those who didn't, or couldn't. 

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  • I absolutely do not understand why people use the reason "he/she doesnt make me happy anymore" as an excuse for divorce. You know what? Its a lot easier to be happy with someone 3 months into dating than 3 months into marriage, and when you have to work a little bit harder to make each other happy every day, thats a marriage. If you throw up your hands when things arent all roses and puppy rainbow farts, I'd hate to see what you think of the rest of your life. Its people who divorce for reasons like that that really p!ss me off and IMO lead to the high divorce rate and convoluted views of marriage. That reason is just an excuse because they don't want to put any additional effort into their marriage and I think that is stupid and lazy and selfish.
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    I absolutely do not understand why people use the reason "he/she doesnt make me happy anymore" as an excuse for divorce. You know what? Its a lot easier to be happy with someone 3 months into dating than 3 months into marriage, and when you have to work a little bit harder to make each other happy every day, thats a marriage. If you throw up your hands when things are all roses and puppy rainbow farts, I'd hate to see what you think of the rest of your life. Its people who divorce for reasons like that that really p!ss me off and IMO lead to the high divorce rate and convoluted views of marriage. That reason is just an excuse because they don't want to put any additional effort into their marriage and I think that is stupid and lazy and selfish.

    Amen, sister!

    When my half-caff coffee kicks in, I'll hopefully have more to contribute, but that is all I can muster at this point.

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