Hey guys, I am sort of a lurker around the boards. My hubby and I have been TTC # 1 for about 3 years, we have had some trouble but I think i might have fixed the problem. (This question has nothing to do with TTC)
So I had a tumor on my pituitary gland and I recently had brain surgery to have the said tumor removed. I had alot of complications and because of it, i was in ICU for 7 days (instead of 24 hours) and was bedridden in the hospital for 6 of those days. This was 3 weeks ago (tomorrow) and I came home 2 weeks ago (tomorrow). I am finally getting around and I am able to function on less pain medication and currently doing PT twice a week.
Anywho, i feel like i am ready to start getting intimate again and have talked to hubby about it, but he really wants me to wait longer. I like the feel of sex and it makes me feel that much closer to him. I would like him to take me a little more seriously and at least try to have sex. I don't know how to go about it a way, that would make him feel more at ease with at least trying to have sex. When i bring up the subject, he is always like, "I would rather wait a little while longer until you are completly off pain medication and relying on tylenol instead." I am just craving the feel of his body close to mine, and craving the sexy feeling i have when i am with him sexually. At this moment, i feel more like we are roommates, then married. In no way am I thinking about leaving him, or fighting with him, I just want a little more intimacy with him and to feel closer to him. When i bring up any of this to him, he always reminds me that I just had brain surgery and he would like me to recover a little more, before we start having sex again. I think part of me just wants the feeling back and I am ready to start taking care of myself again, instead of having to rely on everyone else. Am i crazy for wanting to have sex again so soon after surgery? Has anyone else had to go through something similar to this?
(Just to be clear, I do not feel like our marriage is at stake because we haven't had sex in three weeks. I just want the "love" feeling. I know he is probably stressed because of my recovery and he has also been trying to work from home, as to keep an eye on me. I am just frusterated that I feel he doesn't want to touch me in that way, right now, I almost feel dejected.)