Without much detail, although I will answer questions, are there any other options besides leaving my DH for his alcoholism? A little background, we dating for 3 years before we got married. Did not live together before hand. Saw each other a couple times a week. We were 21 and 22 (when we were dating). So of course, when we did see each other, we were usually at the bar or at my sister's house drinking, playing pool, etc. I didn't notice his problem until I was pregnant with my oldest. Of course he told me he would stop when she was born. He didn't.
He just got better at hiding it. We have our 2nd daughter two years ago. I confronted him again about it when I was pregnant with her. Nothing changed. I know what everyone is thinking, why would you have another one. Like I said, he got better at hiding it.
I've really started noticing it in the beginning of 2011. I found his hiding spot in the garage. I check it daily. We've had numerous talks about this. Its effecting our relationship but I don't think he sees it. We haven't been intimate since the beginning of December. He never comes to bed with me. He's a night owl, especially on the weekends. But he drinks the heaviest then. See, he truly believes its okay because he does this at home and he's not hurting any one. My kids are too young to know any different and they are in bed. But there are more days than most, he's drunk by the time I get home from work, 6 PM. I know it because of his speech.
So, long short short (haha) I threatened him in September that he needs to clean up his act or I'm telling his brothers. His family has no idea about this. His dad is a recovering alcholic and since his brothers are 7 and 14 years old than him, they grew up with it. One night during one our talks, he said that he would go to treatment. He asked if I could help him find a place with good Christian backgrounds. I agreed and I found a place. He doesn't know how to use the Internet, he's a carpenter and has no use for it. I've had the number written down next to the coffee pot for 2 weeks. He hasn't called. And he's still drinking.
I'm not scared to go to his family but I'm wondering if its worth it? I'm going to start Al-Anon next Tuesday. Should I go?
TIA and sorry for it being so long.