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Is there something magical about the number twenty one?

I'd be annoyed if I were the dh in that scenario and I had inexplicable limits placed on my responses/reactions to various issues. I also get pissy when people tell me I can't reply OR ELSE.

 

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Re: Is there something magical about the number twenty one?

  • Who knows. She has been having issues w/ her DH for as long as I can remember her name on the nest. It's funny how this issue is now "resolved" - probably because he apologized for his crappy behavior and she'll turn a blind eye until the next time he does something similar. It seems like she is equal parts of the problem in this situation w/ both of their poor communication skills.

    ETA - I think it's ironic that she's posted 3 times (THREE) in that thread how she will DD it if anyone responds after her post (since her post is number 21) that the issue is resolved. WTF? Guess I may have pushed the post over the edge into DDness.

  • I was wondering the same thing.  I love how she feels she can dictate to us when we stop responding to her or ANY post.
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    My husband, he is fiercely loyal and protective of people in his trusted circle, he is also very confident almost to a fault (he thinks he is never wrong).  He also has a sweet side to him, and although he doesn't show it every.single.day, he is a man of action and will show kindness in many different ways, and when shown, they are stronger than a sun beam.

    But as sexy as he is strong, man, is this man a pain in my arse.  He will go from kind and gentle to moody the next day.  I know something bothers him, but he refuses to tell me...says sometimes he doesn't want to bother me with his "troubles."  He expects things to be done when he asks, and if you say "no" he will stomp around like a spoiled child.  

    Today, this very thing happened. If we have a fight, he will sometimes say things that cut deep in the heat of the moment...realize that they have cut too deep, and then apologize for it.  This doesn't happen every day, but this is just something that today reminds me of things that "irk" me.
     
    How does one stay patient in their marriage when they find things that irk eachother?
     
    I'm sure I have my "irks" that annoy him too...
     
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    What happened today?


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    How does one stay patient in their marriage when they find things that irk eachother?
     

     

     

    I guess the good just has to outweigh the bad. 

     
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    He wanted me to help him move the cars around, so he could get to work (one car driveway).  Usually we'll swap between both of us doing the cars, or him by himself (if he needs to leave), or me by myself (if I need to leave).

     

    Today, he was upset that I said "no" to helping him.


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    Why did you say no? How did he react?

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    Why couldn't you just help him?  That seems trivial to get into an argument about.  And lazy on your end.
     
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    Were you doing something incredibly important at that exact moment? I'd be pretty annoyed if I asked my husband for help so I could get to work and he refused.
     
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    We are all over tired, due to ds being sick while at the same time transitioning from a crib to a bed..with 5 hours maximum of interupted sleep cycles.  its been a long few days to say the least.

    and it was 530a, woke from sound sleep to help him... 


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     I know something bothers him, but he refuses to tell me...says sometimes he doesn't want to bother me with his "troubles."  He expects things to be done when he asks, and if you say "no" he will stomp around like a spoiled child.  

    Today, this very thing happened. If we have a fight, he will sometimes say things that cut deep in the heat of the moment...realize that they have cut too deep, and then apologize for it.  

     

     

    Well knowing a little more information (and remembering some of your backstory), I think that having things that irk you is different than your DH not communicating with you and saying hurtful things when you are having a disagreement.

    For example, it irks me that my FI will leave a dish in the sink after I just cleaned the kitchen or his socks all over the living room. I'm a clean freak and therefore get annoyed about that stuff kind of easily - to a fault. This is a lot different than having him say hurtful things or hurtful names during an argument only to apologize for them later.

    Why do you put up the above bolded behavior?


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     I know something bothers him, but he refuses to tell me...says sometimes he doesn't want to bother me with his "troubles."  He expects things to be done when he asks, and if you say "no" he will stomp around like a spoiled child.  

    Today, this very thing happened. If we have a fight, he will sometimes say things that cut deep in the heat of the moment...realize that they have cut too deep, and then apologize for it.  

     

     

    Well knowing a little more information (and remembering some of your backstory), I think that having things that irk you is different than your DH not communicating with you and saying hurtful things when you are having a disagreement.

    For example, it irks me that my FI will leave a dish in the sink after I just cleaned the kitchen or his socks all over the living room. I'm a clean freak and therefore get annoyed about that stuff kind of easily - to a fault. This is a lot different than having him say hurtful things or hurtful names during an argument only to apologize for them later.

    Why do you put up the above bolded behavior?

     

     

     

    i think i just needed to vent a bit.  is it pride? maybe.  childish asofrickenlutley.  Im just exahusted...i need more sleep...  


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    We are all over tired, due to ds being sick while at the same time transitioning from a crib to a bed..with 5 hours maximum of interupted sleep cycles.  its been a long few days to say the least.

    and it was 530a, woke from sound sleep to help him... 

     

     

    i would imagine that this could be solved the night before.....perhaps better planning would help you both.

    if not, it wouldn't take any more than 5 minutes. i reallt dont see what the issue is. i would've helped him out. i get his back, he gets mine. that's the rule. it keeps things nice and peaceful. he does things to make my life easier and i do the same for him.


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    Sounds like you could both benefit from getting some help to learn how to better communicate.

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    For sure a communication issue. It is obviously true that we are all going to do something that irks our spouse from time to time, and vice versa, but it is a problem if you can't talk about the things that really bother you rationally. I think the fact that he lashes out when you fight and says hurtful things is a huge problem. Eventually you are going to start believing (if you haven't already) that he really feels those things. Have you talked to him about this issue?

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    We are all over tired, due to ds being sick while at the same time transitioning from a crib to a bed..with 5 hours maximum of interupted sleep cycles.  its been a long few days to say the least.

    and it was 530a, woke from sound sleep to help him... 

     

     

    This doesn't qualify as an irk. it qualifies for a throat punch.

    I'm of two minds if DH ever did something like this to me :

    1- That he was in such a panic and need that I would pop-up and help him without question.

    2- That he has lost his mind.


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    This seems to translate to "My husband is a self-centered pain in the ass, but occasionally he's less of a douche, so I decided to marry him and bear his children."

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  • I find it funny that she believes that they "rarely fight" when my only lasting memory of her as a poster is that she doesn't really actually "like" her husband much and they don't get along.

     

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    Twenty-three is the loneliest number that you'll ever do
    Twenty-two can be as bad as Twenty-three
    It's the loneliest number since the number Twenty-three

    No is the saddest experience you'll ever know
    Yes, it's the saddest experience you'll ever know
    `Cause Twenty-three is the loneliest number that you'll ever do
    Twenty-three is the loneliest number, worse than twenty-two

    It's just no good anymore since she went away
    Now I spend my time just making rhymes of yesterday

    Twenty-three is the loneliest, number twenty-three is the loneliest
    Number Twenty-three is the loneliest number that you'll ever do
    Twenty-three is the loneliest, one is the loneliest
    Twenty-three is the loneliest number that you'll ever do
    It's just no good anymore since she went away
    (Number) Twenty-three is the loneliest
    (Number) Twenty-three is the loneliest
    (Number) Twenty-three is the loneliest number that you'll ever do
    (Number) Twenty-three is the loneliest
    (Number) Twenty-three is the loneliest
    (Number) Twenty-three is the loneliest number that you'll ever do

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    we must be miracle workers-1 post, our advice and **poof** the issue that's been going on for years has been resolved.

    ::side eye:: i totally dont believe you princess.

     

  • Well the whole roundabout way of asking, for pity's sake. "What do you do when your dh irks you"? What she was really asking is "wasn't my dh an ass for waking me at five thirty to move my car instead of just moving it himself?" I don't know if he was being an ass; I'd expect better in general from my dh, but in some situations, this might not be such an awful thing.

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  • Umm.. Yes, 21 is a magical number. I don't know about you, but I looked forward to that birthday for decades. Duh!
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  • roflcopterz....i feel like totally bad for your husbands too!

     

    gbcn foreverz!  wahhh wahhh boo hoo.  

     

    post count up by 1 woot! 

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  • omg and this post is all magical looking...and really crazy long DUDE!
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  • 1 BSC bitoch!



  • x's 21 of course


  • omgz....gramar police here too!  reeee roooo reee roooo...............officer pandasmellz here to tell you dat.... i iz cray cray and you sux at gramar 2 reeee rooooo
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  • I <3 when you guys retrieve DDs. And it sounds as though OP may have lost it based on her replies to this...
  • Zomg!!!! you like totally like got me...roflcopterz.  the nestestesties are like so cruelz  wahhhh wahhhh wahhhh

     

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  • Are you high?
    Oh, FFS.
  • Maybe it's her husband posting! 
    What you think, you will become.
  • Shhh..dont tell her ;)
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