I am really in a pickle and struggle with what to do as far as my family troubles go. My sister and I are ot speaking right now and I am estranged (have been for 3 years now) from my parents. My sister and I are seven years apart, have never been close and have been speaking on and off for years. She is very insecure, has no sense of self, is extremely materialistic, narcissistic and self centered. She is easily manipulated by our mom and cannot stand up for herself or anyone else if they are being wronged. She is not loyal or trustworthy either. My mom changed around the time DS 1 was born. She has hated DH since we have been married (LOVED him before the wedding) and has had no relationship, nor tries to, with her grandchildren. She is a control freak who has no boundaries whatsoever. My dad is the passive enabler in that relationship who hides from conflict. I have tried for years to mend things with all of them but we cannot get together without a fight or argument ensuing. Every time we do try to talk I get backed into a corner thru guilt and manipulation and what does come out of my mouth ends up being more from a place of anger than setting a clear calm boundary. They refuse to talk or communicate about the issues our family has and it becomes the elephant in the room when we get together. I cant for the life of me understand how people can expect to get together under these uncmfortable circumstances. I feel I am at the end of my rope with them but what do I do, write them off? I am sad because it was never like this growing up but can family dynamics change this much?