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Does more sex make it less painful?

I'm a newlywed (day 12) and we were both technically virgins when we married, though we had experimented using hands and mouths beforehand. Since the wedding we have had sex every day to every other day, so probably about 8 times now. Though I must admit the first time went more smoothly than I expected, there was pain upon entry and for the first couple of minutes. This pattern has continued every time since. 

We typically spend awhile on foreplay and always use lots of lubrication, so I'm wondering, is this something that should get better with time and practice? I haven't been avoiding it because I know that will just make the problem worse, and I do enjoy it after the first few minutes of pain. My gynecologist has told me that I have a flexible hymen, but maybe it's just not flexible enough yet? Anybody else experience this? How long did it last? Will doing it every day help get things "in shape" faster?

Re: Does more sex make it less painful?

  • I don't know about the flexible hymen issue, but in general yes, the more you do it, the better it feels.
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  • Get another opinion. You may have an intact hymen or some other issue that needs attention.

  • Ditto Tarpon.  Perhaps your hymen is not completely perforated.  A simple in-office procedure can complete the job.
  • When I first started having sex, I was having it quite a bit.  I won't lie - it hurt.  The pain lessened over about two weeks (I'm not totally sure how long, though - this was about ten years ago).  

    In general, as you do it more, the better it will feel.  Don't force yourself to do it every day if you hurt.  It's okay to take a day off!

  • YES!  I'm also a newlywed and it really didn't start to feel GREAT until 3 weeks after.  We also were having sex pretty much everyday.  Now it's really really good :-)
  • Yes and no. Yes, you have to have more sex in order to get stretched out and comfortable enough to have it be enjoyable. However, too much sex in a short period of time can cause chaffing, which is going to make sex more painful.
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  • I'm guessing he hasn't broken your hymen.  I would try some alcohol and a vibrator.

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    I'm guessing he hasn't broken your hymen.  I would try some alcohol and a vibrator.

    Don't listen to this lady (She's willing to lick her husband's butt). And anyway, I think that alcohol in your vagina would make it hurt worse. I just read the bottle and it's says it's only supposed to be used externally. Shows how much she knows.

    I was a virgin when I got married too. It took awhile for me to have sex with my husband because I was so scared. We worked our way up to his member by using smaller cylindrical items first. I think carrots that have been in the fridge for a little too long work the best, you know the ones that are kind of rubbery?

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    image Liz4444:

    I'm guessing he hasn't broken your hymen.  I would try some alcohol and a vibrator.

    Don't listen to this lady (She's willing to lick her husband's butt). And anyway, I think that alcohol in your vagina would make it hurt worse. I just read the bottle and it's says it's only supposed to be used externally. Shows how much she knows.

    I was a virgin when I got married too. It took awhile for me to have sex with my husband because I was so scared. We worked our way up to his member by using smaller cylindrical items first. I think carrots that have been in the fridge for a little too long work the best, you know the ones that are kind of rubbery?

    Carrots? Seriously?  And I'm the disgusting one?  Everyone knows you use cucumbers!

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    I'm guessing he hasn't broken your hymen.  I would try some alcohol and a vibrator.

    Don't listen to this lady (She's willing to lick her husband's butt). And anyway, I think that alcohol in your vagina would make it hurt worse. I just read the bottle and it's says it's only supposed to be used externally. Shows how much she knows.

    I was a virgin when I got married too. It took awhile for me to have sex with my husband because I was so scared. We worked our way up to his member by using smaller cylindrical items first. I think carrots that have been in the fridge for a little too long work the best, you know the ones that are kind of rubbery?

    Carrots? Seriously?  And I'm the disgusting one?  Everyone knows you use cucumbers!

    Maybe you can fit cucumbers in your loose vagina, but my delicate flower will only fit an old, rubbery carrot.

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    image Liz4444:

    I'm guessing he hasn't broken your hymen.  I would try some alcohol and a vibrator.

    Don't listen to this lady (She's willing to lick her husband's butt). And anyway, I think that alcohol in your vagina would make it hurt worse. I just read the bottle and it's says it's only supposed to be used externally. Shows how much she knows.

    I was a virgin when I got married too. It took awhile for me to have sex with my husband because I was so scared. We worked our way up to his member by using smaller cylindrical items first. I think carrots that have been in the fridge for a little too long work the best, you know the ones that are kind of rubbery?

    Carrots? Seriously?  And I'm the disgusting one?  Everyone knows you use cucumbers!

    Maybe you can fit cucumbers in your loose vagina, but my delicate flower will only fit an old, rubbery carrot.

    A cucumber has nothing on DH.

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  • Maybe your DH's member isn't large enough to fully penetrate and remove the hymen?  Keep up the good work, through perseverance, it should happen. 

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    Maybe your DH's member isn't large enough to fully penetrate and remove the hymen?  Keep up the good work, through perseverance, it should happen. 

    I can't believe you're telling this lady that her husband has a small penis. Just because the only penises you have seen have been horse scholngs doesn't mean her husband's penis is small. 

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    I'm guessing he hasn't broken your hymen.  I would try some alcohol and a vibrator.

    Don't listen to this lady (She's willing to lick her husband's butt). And anyway, I think that alcohol in your vagina would make it hurt worse. I just read the bottle and it's says it's only supposed to be used externally. Shows how much she knows.

    I think she meant for the OP to drink some booze before sex to relax.

  • yes more sex and time will help however if you are irritating the tissue too much you may want to give yourself a break for a few days to recover. perhaps you could try pausing for a minuet after he enters you to allow everything to adjust before getting going or as the PP suggested getting a little tipsy, smoking a little weed (if your so inclined though i am assuming that you are not) or stimulating your clitoris with a vibrator before penetration could really help. i know day 12 may be a little early to venture away from missionary (i know it took me months to get comfortable on top) but being on top will not only allow you greater control over what feels good and what doesn't but the position allows your clitoris to rub against his pubic bone which allows you to control your own orgasm just remember being on top is a back and forth grinding motion NOT a up and down posting motion

     good luck, as long as you have a caring partner the sex will only get better

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    I'm guessing he hasn't broken your hymen.  I would try some alcohol and a vibrator.

    Don't listen to this lady (She's willing to lick her husband's butt). And anyway, I think that alcohol in your vagina would make it hurt worse. I just read the bottle and it's says it's only supposed to be used externally. Shows how much she knows.

    I think she meant for the OP to drink some booze before sex to relax.

    Well, I've never actually poured vodka in there, you never know...

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    image Liz4444:

    I'm guessing he hasn't broken your hymen.  I would try some alcohol and a vibrator.

    Don't listen to this lady (She's willing to lick her husband's butt). And anyway, I think that alcohol in your vagina would make it hurt worse. I just read the bottle and it's says it's only supposed to be used externally. Shows how much she knows.

    I think she meant for the OP to drink some booze before sex to relax.

    Well, I've never actually poured vodka in there, you never know...

    Whatever lady! Belly shots probably weren't enough for you, you had to fill-up a whole vagina or butthole with Dark Eyes until you were satisfied. 

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    image Liz4444:
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    image crystalbaby:
    image Liz4444:

    I'm guessing he hasn't broken your hymen.  I would try some alcohol and a vibrator.

    Don't listen to this lady (She's willing to lick her husband's butt). And anyway, I think that alcohol in your vagina would make it hurt worse. I just read the bottle and it's says it's only supposed to be used externally. Shows how much she knows.

    I think she meant for the OP to drink some booze before sex to relax.

    Well, I've never actually poured vodka in there, you never know...

    Whatever lady! Belly shots probably weren't enough for you, you had to fill-up a whole vagina or butthole with Dark Eyes until you were satisfied. 

    Ok, after seeing you in several posts, I take back my "are you for real??" and replace it with "Thank you for the hilarious trolling." I seriously just spat out my Diet Coke laughing.

  • image Liz4444:
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    image Liz4444:

    I'm guessing he hasn't broken your hymen.  I would try some alcohol and a vibrator.

    Don't listen to this lady (She's willing to lick her husband's butt). And anyway, I think that alcohol in your vagina would make it hurt worse. I just read the bottle and it's says it's only supposed to be used externally. Shows how much she knows.

    I was a virgin when I got married too. It took awhile for me to have sex with my husband because I was so scared. We worked our way up to his member by using smaller cylindrical items first. I think carrots that have been in the fridge for a little too long work the best, you know the ones that are kind of rubbery?

    Carrots? Seriously?  And I'm the disgusting one?  Everyone knows you use cucumbers!

    Please don't stick anything up there that is not intended to go there.  I worked in an E.R. you would not believe what people stick up there.  Visit a sex toy store, I'm pretty sure those things are regulated.

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