I know I may get flamed for this but I need more advise for the situation I am in. Before I wrote about how my sister and I don't get along and how she doesn't want to have anything to do with me anymore. Well, even though she doesn't want to talk to me I would still like to have a relationship with my niece. However, that won't be possible anytime soon, perhaps maybe never. I would like to buy my niece a present and mail it to my sister's house but considering how much my sister hates me I can see her not giving the gift to her daughter. I would hope she wouldn't do that but knowing my sister anything is possible. Also, that would probably really piss her off. So, I was wondering if the right thing to do would be to not give my niece anything at all? I was thinking about giving the present to my step-mom so she can give it to my niece when they see each other for Christmas. Wouldn't that be putting my step mom in the middle though? And my sister may still refuse to give it to her daughter. I know she won't be sending anything to my son for Christmas or his birthday but I want to send something to my niece not because I'm expecting my sister to buy anything for my son, but because I really want to buy her something. If you were in my situation and there was the possibility of your gift to your niece being sent back to you/thrown away would you still attempt to send something? If your sibling didn't want to speak to you would you still buy birthday gifts/Christmas gifts for the children? Or what if you were the one not wanting to speak or see your sister, would you appreciate her sending anything to your kids?