Hi everyone. I was posting several months ago about my husband having one foot out the door and writing really flirtatious emails to another girl. Long story short, we're separated and he's with her now. Divorce proceedings start Thursday.
I started dating someone 6 weeks ago and we've been having crazy fun together. It's been totally amazing and has reminded me that I am worth so much more than I was getting from MH. We probably jumped into things a little quickly, and yes, I was clearly on the rebound. If things were able to continue as they are (too soon to tell right now, obviously), I think we could be really happy together. We both want a lot of the same things out of life and he is different from MH in all the right ways.
The dilemma... BF has a son (16 months old) who lives across the country. His ex-GF is literally crazy... has done some seriously effed up things. She has Histrionic Personality Disorder, so she lives off of making things up and getting people to buy into it. Oh yeah, and her father is famous, so she has a sizeable trust fund. BF has been fighting hard for custody, spending money he doesn't have to have lawyers who can compare to hers. So far, the court has basically ruled that because his son hasn't been around him enough, he should stay with the crazy mom (and yes, the court got that she was crazy because there were hundreds of pages of documents supporting it).
On Friday, she told BF that she's moving back here Thursday with their son and another of her children (she has 4-- one over 18, the other lives with his dad). BF was thrilled because he feels it's the only way he can build a bond with his son and possibly gain custody. If he can get her to stay in this state for 6 months, jurisdiction moves here and it will be easier to fight, and a lot easier to keep her here in the future.
The stipulation she made was that he break up with me. And sleep with her. She wants to get pregnant again (BF says he will make absolutely certain that doesn't happen). BF is heartbroken... feels he has to do it because it's his only chance to get his son, but he hates his exGF and doesn't want to be around her. He feels it won't be good for his son to be around them together because they always fight... Anyway, he's doing it. He says he will not ask me to wait, but he would be happy if I were still/again single when it's all over with exGF.
WTF?!? After being separated, part of me wants to say I need to be the one you put first! But obviously, he has known me for 6 weeks, and the other person involved is his child.... I would totally judge a man for putting a new GF over their child. A break from dating might really do me good, since I should have done that before, but met him and thought he was too good to pass up. I don't know, sorry I rambled so long. Any brilliant ideas??