I'm home from work now. I've taken alot of your advice in. I really do appreciate it. I'm going to go to sleep right now, have to work tonight. I've basically spent most of it crying and I'm beat.
To answer one posters question - yes I do have self esteem issues - and I don't believe he helped with that too much since my weight has also been an issue with him. Yup weight was an issue with him too. I know I didn't bring that up before but I figure I might as well now. I believe working 3rd shift and living with him definately helped with me gaining so much weight since we've married. I was slightly overweight when we got married - now I'm 30lbs above that.
Whoever said this, you're probably right - he probably does want a stepford wife. I was really hoping he could go to couples counseling so the counselor would be able see what a nut he really is. 5-years - What a waste!