Hey ladies...I've never really been on this board before, but it seems like a good place to get advice for the problem I have!
my issue...a few months ago the ex and I split, we have 2 kids, and
because of them we have maintained a good relationship. We actually get
along better now than before. Anyway, his parents have never really done
anything for our kids, unless it's convenient for them or they are
using them to look good. (for instance, when family from out of the area
come around, they take the kids with them to see the family and act
like they are the best grandparents in the world.) This has always been
a sore subject for the X and I, no matter what they do he always feels
the need to defend them and just can't admit they're wrong or have the
balls to say something to them. He knows they are wrong, but refuses to
do anything about it. I've always tried to bite my tongue so the X
didn't get mad at me, because as soon as i bring it up, he loses it, but
now I don't care who gets mad.
They come in and out of my kids lives so often...they live 2
minutes from me, and will go months without seeing them. I used to make
sure we took the kids over there at least once every couple weeks,
because I knew they wouldn't make the effort, but I refuse to do it
anymore. The effort needs to work both ways. When we were going through a really
hard time his dad even went as far as to say, "the kids can come over
for a meal or two, but that's about all I'm gonna do for them." I'm
disgusted by them and fed up. I don't want people with that kind of
attitude around my kids, period.
How can I get their dad to finally put an end to this crap? I would love to call them out on it, but I don't think it's my place anymore. I hate the fact that they have the privilege of having my kids in their lives. How would you guys deal with this?? Would it be worth the fight, or should I just let it go?Sorry this post is so long, I just had to get it out! TIA!