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You dropped something, Taaka25, Esq.

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  • Love a good game of Trainwreck Bingo.

     Backpedal all you want honey, no one here is going to agree with you since you're the one who flounced in complaining about all the shiitty things your man-child of a husband did. Once you air your dirty laundry like that, there's no pretending it was all a mistake and turning into a shrew about it only gets further derision. But whatever, have fun in Denial Land babysitting your untrustworthy husband.

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    but hey, i we didnt come here to wax intellectually about society's alements in our country.. did we..?

    I'm fairly certain you wouldn't be capable.

    "i we"?

    "alements"?

    And if you're going to use ellipses, which should be used sparingly anyway, they are comprised of 3 periods, not 2.

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    kurtiswife, you are a lawyer? really? i feel sorry for whomever hires you to rep them..lol first of all, you are probably as effective as council are you are at reading..

    It's physically impossible for her to be effective as council, seeing as she's only one person.

    fiizzlee = vag ** fiizzle = peen ** Babies shouldn't be born wit thangs ** **They're called first luddz fo' a reason -- mo' is supposed ta come after. Yo Ass don't git a medal fo' marryin yo' prom date. Unless yo ass is imoan. I aint talkin' bout chicken n' gravy biatch. Then yo ass git a all-expenses paid cruise ta tha Mediterranean n' yo ass git ta hook up Jared Padalecki on tha flight over while bustin yo' jammies. But still no medal.
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    Taaka, do yourself and your H a favor and look up the drug statutes in your state. Where I am, passing a joint to a friend constitutes "distribution," so doling out prescription painkillers definitely qualifies.

    Tarpon, in the US *all* attorneys are "Esquires." There's an "Esq." following my name 6 days a week, on average.

    Larriassa, do yourself a favor and read things through before commenting. the act has to actually happen for it to have been a "crime taken place". its not distrobution, if it doesnt actually happen.

    i'm not in law school, i never said i was in law school.. infact, i said about 4 times that i'm not a lawyer, nor do i have any intention on becoming a lawyer.. once again, read things through.

    i also, did say i was upset about him suggesting it, and i was upset about suspecting him of going behind my back.. that was the thesis of my original post.. and in my last post, i stated that i was wrong, that i had proof he had not taken any of my meds.. and that i feel bad, having jumped to that conculsion in the first place. i believe i stated quite clearly that, my post was a "vent" i was angry and had not thought things through at that point.

    i agreed with you all, and someone called it "denial".. based on what i have written hastely in a moment of ire, i characterized my H as a liar, and sneaky theif. i dont like thinking that way about my family! furthermore, its not the whole story, its one side of one situation. he always tells me that when i get mad, i make him out to be a giant piece of ***, and i tell him that if that is what he hears, its his conscience saying that, not me. but thanks to you all, i see that it is me making him out to be a terrible person. he's not, he has flaws, like everyone else... and when i get mad, i focus on them, and i respond in a mean way. i realize that now.

    its not that people were agreeing with me that he was a "loser", it was the approach at what one person called, "advice," it was b*tchy, self-rightious and would p*ss off anyone!

    i have this friend, well she is my sister's friend, infact i dont even like her that much bc all she does is *** talk her husband! i know they have had their problems for the last 10 years and have almost divorced more then once, this guy even made her take a paternity test for their youngest kid, bc he looks like her and the other 2 look like him. anyway, based on the things she has told me, he sounds like a real tool! BUT i would never, ever, ever tell her to leave him, or that i think he is a scumbag or that i think his presents negitively affects their kids..and i'm a brutally honest person, but you just dont do that: 1. its not my place to tell her whats good for her. 2. there are 3 sides to every story, hers, his and the truth. 3. its counter-productive, it wouldnt help her, only make her even more upset 4. its rude and presumptious 5. we would no longer be friends.

    my job as a friend, is to sit and listen with an open mind, allow her to vent her frustrations and and anger.. then offer a HELPFUL pathway to a resolution and or comprise that particular issue.

    Of course it's not, but perhaps you'd do well to take your own advice and "read things through."  I never said your husband had done it.  I'm saying if he's considering doing it, he ought to rethink that idea.  And that you should know that passing along prescription drugs, even without receiving actual compensation in return, likely constitutes the crime of distribution where you are, as it does where I am.

    The fact that he'd even consider it should be of concern to you, as should the fact that he was rooting around looking for your scripts even after you said no.  He's a sneak, a liar, and a potential thief and drug dealer... all according to your own account of the circumstances.

    I don't believe for a second that you're in law school.  There's no way you got through the reading comp portion of the LSAT.  Or, for that matter, the essay.

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    also, i never said i was a lawyer or was intending to be a lawyer. there is quite a difference between studying law and practicing law. there are also, other applications of a law degree, then being a lawyer.. jsyk. i dont know who first said it.. but who did, you should get your facts straight, before posting things.

    So are you in law school or what?

    fiizzlee = vag ** fiizzle = peen ** Babies shouldn't be born wit thangs ** **They're called first luddz fo' a reason -- mo' is supposed ta come after. Yo Ass don't git a medal fo' marryin yo' prom date. Unless yo ass is imoan. I aint talkin' bout chicken n' gravy biatch. Then yo ass git a all-expenses paid cruise ta tha Mediterranean n' yo ass git ta hook up Jared Padalecki on tha flight over while bustin yo' jammies. But still no medal.
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    Yes, you're a great representative of my chosen profession.

    I hope you get disbarred the first year after your DH gets arrested and you're brought in as an accessory.

    "Yes, you're a great representative of my chosen profession.

    I hope you get disbarred the first year after your DH gets arrested and you're brought in as an accessory."

     

    1. you have to have actually taken the bar to and be a lawyer to be disbarred.

    2. an exchange of physical goods has to actuallyhve taken place, to be arrested. its not a crime to have a conversation.

    3. an actual crime has to have taken place before a second person can be charged as an accessory. furthermore, evidence of culpability in facilitating the crime has to be proffered.

    what is your evidence *counselor? where in any of my statements did i

    1. say i was a lawyer?

    2. that an actual, physical exchange was made?

    3. and that i was in anyway apart, aiding or encouraging a crime?

    if you are going to be an educated women, you need to be able to back up what you say. show me the evidence in my statements to support your claim. since people here like to pick out sentence fragments of entire statements and then vie over its "true" meaning, this should not be difficult.

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    image taaka25:

    also, i never said i was a lawyer or was intending to be a lawyer. there is quite a difference between studying law and practicing law. there are also, other applications of a law degree, then being a lawyer.. jsyk. i dont know who first said it.. but who did, you should get your facts straight, before posting things.

    So are you in law school or what?

    no i'm not, never said i was..

  • image taaka25:
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    also, i never said i was a lawyer or was intending to be a lawyer. there is quite a difference between studying law and practicing law. there are also, other applications of a law degree, then being a lawyer.. jsyk. i dont know who first said it.. but who did, you should get your facts straight, before posting things.

    So are you in law school or what?

    no i'm not, never said i was..

    You are so fvcking inconsistent. It's right there on the first page of this post, where you say you're a law student. Just go away, you fvcking troll. 

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    also, i never said i was a lawyer or was intending to be a lawyer. there is quite a difference between studying law and practicing law. there are also, other applications of a law degree, then being a lawyer.. jsyk. i dont know who first said it.. but who did, you should get your facts straight, before posting things.

    So are you in law school or what?

     

    no i'm not, never said i was..

    You are so fvcking inconsistent. It's right there on the first page of this post, where you say you're a law student. Just go away, you fvcking troll. 

    yah, and i said, in your quote... i study law.."there is quite a difference between studying law and practicing law. there are also, other applications of a law degree, then being a lawyer".. jsyk= just so you know.

    the house you live in, is safe because a law or "policy" was created to ensure it was built safely. the road you drive on, is a result of laws and its aplications,.... law is in EVERY single facet of our lives, not just in a criminal court room. there are those who follow the law and those who shape it, and those who study that.

    it would behoove to understand the concepts and principals which govern you, especially since it affects your every movement in life. i'm not going to feel bad because you made a nonnormative statement without ever asking any questions. you make yourself look wrong, not me.. just because i chose not to divuldge specific, personal information to you? so why dont you go away? you are commenting on something i posted, what gives you the right to call me a "troll"? 

    you invaded my thoughts, you made snap judgements based on very little evidence, without any question or consideration, which you then persented in a rude, nasty and mean tone,  your own misguided opinion (that was not asked for) and then you have the audicity to tell me that i should go away. wow, your ignorance is not showing there, at all. 

  • She's probably taking a "Become a Legal Assistant in Just Six Months!" correspondence course from one of those "schools" that advertise during Jerry Springer and Judge Judy.
    fiizzlee = vag ** fiizzle = peen ** Babies shouldn't be born wit thangs ** **They're called first luddz fo' a reason -- mo' is supposed ta come after. Yo Ass don't git a medal fo' marryin yo' prom date. Unless yo ass is imoan. I aint talkin' bout chicken n' gravy biatch. Then yo ass git a all-expenses paid cruise ta tha Mediterranean n' yo ass git ta hook up Jared Padalecki on tha flight over while bustin yo' jammies. But still no medal.
  • image zitiqueen:
    She's probably taking a "Become a Legal Assistant in Just Six Months!" correspondence course from one of those "schools" that advertise during Jerry Springer and Judge Judy.

     

    .. you know what they say about assuming... LOL. didnt we just have this conversation? is there an echo? ohhhh no, thats just the sound of... well, i'm not going to sink to your level. good day.

    btw, since everyone is so interested in what i am studying, when i say that i'm a student of law.. this is one assignment that i'm currently working on:

    16 Sept

    I had fun today and hope you all did as well. The writing assignment that I mentioned today-that will be due either wednesday or friday of next week-will ask you to explain how Dickenson justified or substantiated his argument against the taxation of the Colonies. The principles of the social contract and the constitution of England are central to his complaints and attempt to persuade others to protest.

    I have placed in the content area a selection of excerpts from enlightenment philosophers that I give to my American Government class that you who have not taken it as well as those who have and forgotten should find useful. Hobbes and Locke are especially pertinet because they were writing during two periods of social conflict in England. I have also placed the English Bill of Rights of 1688 there for you to look at.

    See you monday.

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    image zitiqueen:
    She's probably taking a "Become a Legal Assistant in Just Six Months!" correspondence course from one of those "schools" that advertise during Jerry Springer and Judge Judy.

     

    .. you know what they say about assuming... LOL. didnt we just have this conversation? is there an echo? ohhhh no, thats just the sound of... well, i'm not going to sink to your level. good day.

    btw, since everyone is so interested in what i am studying, when i say that i'm a student of law.. this is one assignment that i'm currently working on:

    16 Sept

    I had fun today and hope you all did as well. The writing assignment that I mentioned today-that will be due either wednesday or friday of next week-will ask you to explain how Dickenson justified or substantiated his argument against the taxation of the Colonies. The principles of the social contract and the constitution of England are central to his complaints and attempt to persuade others to protest.

    I have placed in the content area a selection of excerpts from enlightenment philosophers that I give to my American Government class that you who have not taken it as well as those who have and forgotten should find useful. Hobbes and Locke are especially pertinet because they were writing during two periods of social conflict in England. I have also placed the English Bill of Rights of 1688 there for you to look at.

    See you monday.

    Oh, honey. Bless your heart.

    You're upset because your husband is selfish, completely irresponsible, and quite possibly involved in shady activity (he can't account for money spent?? BIG red flag there that you're glossing over!), and when you tried to vent about it to internet strangers instead of actually doing something productive, it didn't go over well. (IMO, productive would be taking an honest look at whether you want to be giving him an allowance for the rest of your lives together, not just continuing with the mommy role that isn't working for either of you.)

    You brought all of this backlash on yourself with your attitude here. Recognize that, and change.

    Yes, you love your husband and you regret the things you said about him, but that doesn't make them untrue. Take a long, hard look at your life and ask yourself how long you can live like this. You love your husband, but that doesn't mean he's good for you. You can't make him be responsible- he either has it or he doesn't.

    Some other advice:

    1) Be a big girl and quit with the temper tantrums just because someone hurts your feelings. Don't delete posts.

    2) Don't represent yourself as something you're not just because it sounds better. Everyone knows what a law student is, and you're not one. (Sure, I can say I'm a medical student when I've taken a first aid course. But it's a lie, and I can't get upset when people take me at my word and then call me on the lie.)

    3) Take anger management classes, marital counselling, and just about any individual counselling you can lay your hands on. You have issues.

    4) If you honestly believe anyone has "invaded [your] thoughts", make yourself a tin foil hat, then see step 3.

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  • She's a community college student taking an Intro to American Government class - she's had to do some reading about law, so she considers herself a law student.

    You know, just like I'm a doctor because I took some anatomy and physiology classes. I don't know why I keep coming back to read - maybe it's because I also too some psychology classes and so I'm also a psychologist, and I find the absolute ignorance and trashiness too interesting to ignore.

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  • She's a community college student taking an Intro to American Government class - she's had to do some reading about law, so she considers herself a law student.

    You know, just like I'm a doctor because I took some anatomy and physiology classes. I don't know why I keep coming back to read - maybe it's because I also took some psychology classes and so I'm also a psychologist, and I find the absolute ignorance and trashiness too interesting to ignore.

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  • Maybride2, my point exactly. I cut my husband's hair sometimes, so I'm clearly a hairdresser. I've taken some physics courses, so I'm also a physicist. Not to mention the med student thing. I'm a philosopher and an astronomer and a firefighter too. Wow, I don't know how I find enough hours in the day!

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  • image Maybride2:
    She's a community college student taking an Intro to American Government class - she's had to do some reading about law, so she considers herself a law student.

     

    You know, just like I'm a doctor because I took some anatomy and physiology classes. I don't know why I keep coming back to read - maybe it's because I also took some psychology classes and so I'm also a psychologist, and I find the absolute ignorance and trashiness too interesting to ignore.

     thumbs up!

  • image Maybride2:
    She's a community college student taking an Intro to American Government class - she's had to do some reading about law, so she considers herself a law student.

    You know, just like I'm a doctor because I took some anatomy and physiology classes. I don't know why I keep coming back to read - maybe it's because I also took some psychology classes and so I'm also a psychologist, and I find the absolute ignorance and trashiness too interesting to ignore.

     

    actually, jsyk.. maybride#2,(?) its a 4000 level class, examining the origins of early American thought.. you know, the ideas on which our constitution is drafted.. it only "kinda" applies to all laws in America.. and its also just one class, an elective.

    i've also taken classes on urban planning and traffic study, i never said that qualified me as a city planner, either. however, it did give me a broad understanding of eminent domain, zoning laws and the inner workings of city government.

    my major course of study is in applications of public policy making, procedures, sociology, philosophy, ethics, ect. all of which are concepts and principals that govern our daily lives.

    its ok maybride...#2? LOL i would not expect you to understand.

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    image taaka25:

    image zitiqueen:
    She's probably taking a "Become a Legal Assistant in Just Six Months!" correspondence course from one of those "schools" that advertise during Jerry Springer and Judge Judy.

     

    .. you know what they say about assuming... LOL. didnt we just have this conversation? is there an echo? ohhhh no, thats just the sound of... well, i'm not going to sink to your level. good day.

    btw, since everyone is so interested in what i am studying, when i say that i'm a student of law.. this is one assignment that i'm currently working on:

    16 Sept

    I had fun today and hope you all did as well. The writing assignment that I mentioned today-that will be due either wednesday or friday of next week-will ask you to explain how Dickenson justified or substantiated his argument against the taxation of the Colonies. The principles of the social contract and the constitution of England are central to his complaints and attempt to persuade others to protest.

    I have placed in the content area a selection of excerpts from enlightenment philosophers that I give to my American Government class that you who have not taken it as well as those who have and forgotten should find useful. Hobbes and Locke are especially pertinet because they were writing during two periods of social conflict in England. I have also placed the English Bill of Rights of 1688 there for you to look at.

    See you monday.

    Oh, honey. Bless your heart.

    You're upset because your husband is selfish, completely irresponsible, and quite possibly involved in shady activity (he can't account for money spent?? BIG red flag there that you're glossing over!), and when you tried to vent about it to internet strangers instead of actually doing something productive, it didn't go over well. (IMO, productive would be taking an honest look at whether you want to be giving him an allowance for the rest of your lives together, not just continuing with the mommy role that isn't working for either of you.)

    You brought all of this backlash on yourself with your attitude here. Recognize that, and change.

    Yes, you love your husband and you regret the things you said about him, but that doesn't make them untrue. Take a long, hard look at your life and ask yourself how long you can live like this. You love your husband, but that doesn't mean he's good for you. You can't make him be responsible- he either has it or he doesn't.

    Some other advice:

    1) Be a big girl and quit with the temper tantrums just because someone hurts your feelings. Don't delete posts.

    2) Don't represent yourself as something you're not just because it sounds better. Everyone knows what a law student is, and you're not one. (Sure, I can say I'm a medical student when I've taken a first aid course. But it's a lie, and I can't get upset when people take me at my word and then call me on the lie.)

    3) Take anger management classes, marital counselling, and just about any individual counselling you can lay your hands on. You have issues.

    4) If you honestly believe anyone has "invaded [your] thoughts", make yourself a tin foil hat, then see step 3.

    thanks for the advice.. i'll keep it in mind. that was kind of the point in the first place, actually. thanks for making it for me.

    if someone wants to offer a useful, polite, and genuine suggestion, i'll hear it with open ears. however, if someone is only going to make snide, snotty, bitchy, normative comments and then call into question my credibility based on statements i supposedly made, she better be able to back it up with EVIDENCE, otherwise, its conjecture and that has no value to me, or any other educated individual.

    oh and thanks for letting me know that everyone knows what a law student was.. funny, though, i've just googled "law student" and there is NO definition for the combonation of words. however,

    the definition of law, as per Webster.. (side note, do you know who Webster actually is? he was an American revolutionary who contributed to the idea of the "new American society" by re-writing the English dictionary to set us apart as Americans)

    Law:

    noun

      1. all the rules of conduct established and enforced by the authority, legislation, or custom of a given community, state, or other group
      2. any one of such rules
    1. the condition existing when obedience to such rules is general: to establish law and order
    2. the branch of knowledge dealing with such rules; jurisprudence
    3. the system of courts in which such rules are referred to in defending one's rights, securing justice, etc.: to resort to law to settle a matter
    4. all such rules having to do with a particular sphere of human activity: business law
    5. common law, as distinguished from equity
    6. the profession of lawyers, judges, etc.: often with the
      1. a sequence of events in nature or in human activities that has been observed to occur with unvarying uniformity under the same conditions
        often
      2. the formulation in words of such a sequence: the law of gravitation, the law of diminishing returns
    7. any rule or principle expected to be observed: the laws of health, a law of grammar
    8. inherent tendency; instinct: the law of self-preservation
    9. Eccles.
      1. a divine commandment
      2. all divine commandments collectively
    10. Math., Logic, etc. a general principle to which all applicable cases must conform: the laws of exponents
    11. Sports, Brit. an allowance in distance or time as in a race; handicap.

    Student:

    noun

    1. a person who studies, or investigates: a student of human behavior
    2. a person who is enrolled for study at a school, college, etc.

    k, so thats class for today, kids.

  • So if your major course of study is "applications of public policy making, procedures, sociology, philosophy, ethics, ect. all of which are concepts and principals that govern our daily lives", why would you say you're a law student? My major was psychology, so if asked I would say "I'm a psych student", not "I'm a philosophy student" since I took an elective philosophy course. Do you even understand how that makes no sense?

    I think you wanted to feel big so you wrote what you did, and you're ignoring helpful advice because now you have a bee in your bonnet about a couple of responses. I'm sure that's really going to help you. Insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

    ETA: I googled 'law student', and I came up with many responses.

    Primarily,

    Noun 1. law studentlaw student - a student in law school  
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    So if your major course of study is "applications of public policy making, procedures, sociology, philosophy, ethics, ect. all of which are concepts and principals that govern our daily lives", why would you say you're a law student? My major was psychology, so if asked I would say "I'm a psych student", not "I'm a philosophy student" since I took an elective philosophy course. Do you even understand how that makes no sense?

    I think you wanted to feel big so you wrote what you did, and you're ignoring helpful advice because now you have a bee in your bonnet about a couple of responses. I'm sure that's really going to help you. Insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

    if you look at the OP then you would see that there never actually any advice offered.. except by LauraRGood, which was valid and i address it. everything else was posted by back-biting bickering idiots who only offered unsoliciated conjucture, later to be described as "advice".

    i also stated in earlier posts, that i am well aware of the problems in my marriage and my husbands flaws as well as mine. the "bee in my bonnet" stems from the mischaracterization of ignorant people, flat out calling me i'm a liar, my husband is a drug dealer.. "i should be disbarred"? each and everyone is a falesy contrived from one statement i made in ire about my personal life. as i said, if some little person wants to step up and say something to me and label me or my husband a criminal.. she better be able to back her statements, i dont know anyone who wouldnt get offended by that kind of disgusting display.

    for the last time, i didnt say i was a "law student" to bolster myself, as you suggested. i said it because it is a non-descriptive term, for the purposes of anonymity.

      

  • Okay, so you're aware of the problems in your marriage. What are you going to do about them? You could do nothing, and then resent your husband for the rest of your lives together (I don't think it would be long- I predict a divorce with this option), or you could demand counselling and respect yourself enough to draw the line if his behaviour doesn't change. (I don't think it will, since people don't change unless they want to. But it's not up to me.)

    The nastiness and attitude first came from you. The bluntness first came from Maybride2, but she still had valid points which you chose to ignore. Most people, reading your OP, would think the exact same things. I also hope you're not planning kids right now, since it wouldn't be a stable or healthy environment- and this is purely based on your own words. When you ask for opinions or post a vent or even talk about your day online, you are inviting other people's responses. You don't get to choose how they respond. If I were you I would apologize to everyone, delete my account, and create a new one with a new name. And then keep these things in mind.

    (I don't know why I'm actually trying to give you advice here, since I don't think you'll appreciate or follow any of it, but call me a softie.)

    ETA: And please don't kid yourself about the prescription drug thing. Normal people would never think of repaying a debt with drugs. Your husband is not being honest with you, and you know it.

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    Okay, so you're aware of the problems in your marriage. What are you going to do about them? You could do nothing, and then resent your husband for the rest of your lives together (I don't think it would be long- I predict a divorce with this option), or you could demand counselling and respect yourself enough to draw the line if his behaviour doesn't change. (I don't think it will, since people don't change unless they want to. But it's not up to me.)

    The nastiness and attitude first came from you. The bluntness first came from Maybride2, but she still had valid points which you chose to ignore. Most people, reading your OP, would think the exact same things. I also hope you're not planning kids right now, since it wouldn't be a stable or healthy environment- and this is purely based on your own words. When you ask for opinions or post a vent or even talk about your day online, you are inviting other people's responses. You don't get to choose how they respond. If I were you I would apologize to everyone, delete my account, and create a new one with a new name. And then keep these things in mind.

    (I don't know why I'm actually trying to give you advice here, since I don't think you'll appreciate or follow any of it, but call me a softie.)

    thanks for the advice again.. this whole post will be deleted along with my account within 72 hours.. so i'm not so worried about that. i've actually been really amused by all of this.

    you ask me what i intend to do about my marriage and the problems in it, i dont have an answer for that.. you cant take a "slash and burn" approach to relationships or life, thats just not how it works. people are not projects to be completed, the are multi-dementional creatures, with a pantheon of emotions, desires, motivations, ideas, philosophies, ect. you cant just hack off the diseased leg and expect everything to be hunky-dory.

    for instance, as i said, he suggested giving his buddy a few of my pain meds instead of me giving him $20 to pay him back, i said, "no, we are broke (which we really were not, but since he cant handle money well and i take care of all the finances.. he thinks we are, if i tell him so. and i did tell him so because i was mad that he borrowed money for stupid stuff like red bulls, fast food and lotto tickets! he has a budget for that, and he over spent his alotment.)  so i told him he will have to take the $20 from next weeks budget to re-pay his friend.  he was pissed off at me, because i wouldnt give him $20 of his own, hard earned money when he asked for it. i told him his money was gone but, he knew i had money from my loan check and wanted me to give him $20 from that and he would repay me when he got paid.. but i said, 'dont write checks you cant cash. in a juvenile sense i was trying to make him own up to his descision making process and be "personally responsible" for his own money. that is the origins of this whole damn debate!!!

    he really did have a toothache, i know this bc i found a used numbing gel applicator on the bathroom counter the next day. all of my meds are accounted for and he told me he was up because he was taking pulmoid (sp?) machine treatment and letting the dog out to potty.i dont have an answer, but its definetly not a divorcable offense or makes anyone a criminal. he has not even mentioned it once in all these days. the issue has really sort of resolved itself. all i can do is take it one day at a time and work it out as we go, with each issue that arises. thats life, its always a work in progress and is never completed and its completely arrogant for someone to say that there is a clear answer to solve all of ones problems in one, fell swoop.

    for example, when i was all in a tizzy over him falling asleep on the couch every night, turns out, he really was jsut tired! we talked about it, i expressed my feelings and now he uses my laptop freely. we changed our diet (which is why i get mad when he eats junk food) and started to exercise a little and wouldnt you know it, problem resolved.. crisis iverted. 

    ps.. i dont care what you say, jez, i would never in a million years tell someone that their kid was a brat (even if they are) or that their husband was a loser or that they should use birthcontrol or what they should or shouldnt spend their money on.. unless, i was looking to get slapped. plain and simple. there is something to be said for tact.. and some just dont have it.

    oh yah, what am i apologising for, exactly? if my posts are fair game then so are commentors, right? i mean, no one made you read this, did they? ...just sayin 

     

  • You know what? You're right.**

    You don't have to apologize to anyone, and neither do they have to apologize to you. You won't find a good reception if you stick around, but what you do is your choice.

    I tried to help and obviously got nowhere because you don't need help.

     

    ** And that's what mature people do when they are wrong- acknowledge it.

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  • image jez_girl:

    You know what? You're right.**

    You don't have to apologize to anyone, and neither do they have to apologize to you. You won't find a good reception if you stick around, but what you do is your choice.

    I tried to help and obviously got nowhere because you don't need help.

     

    ** And that's what mature people do when they are wrong- acknowledge it.

    hey, i thanked you twice for your advice.. i recognize that it was a sincere attempt at reason. and i'll thank you again! :)  sincerely. 

    its not that i dont "need help".. its that i've not heard anything i dont already know. i'm not perfect, he's not perfect.. we both know this, these issues have been ongoing since the beginning and they will continue, i'm sure of that, and as they do, i'll deal with them. this is growing process, we have no dellusions about that.. as we grow, there will be pains and sometimes, people jsut need to "vent" them and from that, sometimes people jsut need someone to empathize with them, but most of the time, people just need a little possitivity in their lives.

    and i also realized soon after my post, that positivety in support comes with a grain of salt.. so, no i wont be posting on this board anymore. on the up side, thanks to a few nasty nancy's, i now know how i do not want to sound like, anymore. i'm also not expected any apologies here, nor did i ask for one. i had actually already attempted deleting my post and being done with it  all together from the start, but hey, who am i to break up the hen fest? j/k LOL. right?

    but in all honesty and seriousness, thanks :)

  • You're welcome. I think years from now you may feel differently about things.

    (I'm Canadian- if I'm not polite, I lose my citizenship. And it makes beavers cry.)

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    </br>4 rounds of 100 mg Clomid = 4 BFNs
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  • image taaka25:
    image jez_girl:

    Okay, so you're aware of the problems in your marriage. What are you going to do about them? You could do nothing, and then resent your husband for the rest of your lives together (I don't think it would be long- I predict a divorce with this option), or you could demand counselling and respect yourself enough to draw the line if his behaviour doesn't change. (I don't think it will, since people don't change unless they want to. But it's not up to me.)

    The nastiness and attitude first came from you. The bluntness first came from Maybride2, but she still had valid points which you chose to ignore. Most people, reading your OP, would think the exact same things. I also hope you're not planning kids right now, since it wouldn't be a stable or healthy environment- and this is purely based on your own words. When you ask for opinions or post a vent or even talk about your day online, you are inviting other people's responses. You don't get to choose how they respond. If I were you I would apologize to everyone, delete my account, and create a new one with a new name. And then keep these things in mind.

    (I don't know why I'm actually trying to give you advice here, since I don't think you'll appreciate or follow any of it, but call me a softie.)

    thanks for the advice again.. this whole post will be deleted along with my account within 72 hours.. so i'm not so worried about that. i've actually been really amused by all of this.

    you ask me what i intend to do about my marriage and the problems in it, i dont have an answer for that.. you cant take a "slash and burn" approach to relationships or life, thats just not how it works. people are not projects to be completed, the are multi-dementional creatures, with a pantheon of emotions, desires, motivations, ideas, philosophies, ect. you cant just hack off the diseased leg and expect everything to be hunky-dory.

    for instance, as i said, he suggested giving his buddy a few of my pain meds instead of me giving him $20 to pay him back, i said, "no, we are broke (which we really were not, but since he cant handle money well and i take care of all the finances.. he thinks we are, if i tell him so. and i did tell him so because i was mad that he borrowed money for stupid stuff like red bulls, fast food and lotto tickets! he has a budget for that, and he over spent his alotment.)  so i told him he will have to take the $20 from next weeks budget to re-pay his friend.  he was pissed off at me, because i wouldnt give him $20 of his own, hard earned money when he asked for it. i told him his money was gone but, he knew i had money from my loan check and wanted me to give him $20 from that and he would repay me when he got paid.. but i said, 'dont write checks you cant cash. in a juvenile sense i was trying to make him own up to his descision making process and be "personally responsible" for his own money. that is the origins of this whole damn debate!!!

    he really did have a toothache, i know this bc i found a used numbing gel applicator on the bathroom counter the next day. all of my meds are accounted for and he told me he was up because he was taking pulmoid (sp?) machine treatment and letting the dog out to potty.i dont have an answer, but its definetly not a divorcable offense or makes anyone a criminal. he has not even mentioned it once in all these days. the issue has really sort of resolved itself. all i can do is take it one day at a time and work it out as we go, with each issue that arises. thats life, its always a work in progress and is never completed and its completely arrogant for someone to say that there is a clear answer to solve all of ones problems in one, fell swoop.

    for example, when i was all in a tizzy over him falling asleep on the couch every night, turns out, he really was jsut tired! we talked about it, i expressed my feelings and now he uses my laptop freely. we changed our diet (which is why i get mad when he eats junk food) and started to exercise a little and wouldnt you know it, problem resolved.. crisis iverted. 

    ps.. i dont care what you say, jez, i would never in a million years tell someone that their kid was a brat (even if they are) or that their husband was a loser or that they should use birthcontrol or what they should or shouldnt spend their money on.. unless, i was looking to get slapped. plain and simple. there is something to be said for tact.. and some just dont have it.

    oh yah, what am i apologising for, exactly? if my posts are fair game then so are commentors, right? i mean, no one made you read this, did they? ...just sayin 

    But you will tell somebody you hope their husband beats them. You're right about tact. Some people just don't have it.

    Oh, and just because... 

    coun?cil (kounsl)
    n.
    1.
    a. An assembly of persons called together for consultation, deliberation, or discussion.
    b. A body of people elected or appointed to serve as administrators, legislators, or advisors.
    c. An assembly of church officials and theologians convened for regulating matters of doctrine and discipline.
    2. The discussion or deliberation that takes place in such an assembly or body.

    coun?sel (kounsl)
    n.
    1. The act of exchanging opinions and ideas; consultation.
    2. Advice or guidance, especially as solicited from a knowledgeable person.
    3. A plan of action.
    4. Private, guarded thoughts or opinions: keep one's own counsel.
    5. A lawyer or group of lawyers giving legal advice and especially conducting a case in court.

    fiizzlee = vag ** fiizzle = peen ** Babies shouldn't be born wit thangs ** **They're called first luddz fo' a reason -- mo' is supposed ta come after. Yo Ass don't git a medal fo' marryin yo' prom date. Unless yo ass is imoan. I aint talkin' bout chicken n' gravy biatch. Then yo ass git a all-expenses paid cruise ta tha Mediterranean n' yo ass git ta hook up Jared Padalecki on tha flight over while bustin yo' jammies. But still no medal.
  • image zitiqueen:
    image taaka25:
    image jez_girl:

    Okay, so you're aware of the problems in your marriage. What are you going to do about them? You could do nothing, and then resent your husband for the rest of your lives together (I don't think it would be long- I predict a divorce with this option), or you could demand counselling and respect yourself enough to draw the line if his behaviour doesn't change. (I don't think it will, since people don't change unless they want to. But it's not up to me.)

    The nastiness and attitude first came from you. The bluntness first came from Maybride2, but she still had valid points which you chose to ignore. Most people, reading your OP, would think the exact same things. I also hope you're not planning kids right now, since it wouldn't be a stable or healthy environment- and this is purely based on your own words. When you ask for opinions or post a vent or even talk about your day online, you are inviting other people's responses. You don't get to choose how they respond. If I were you I would apologize to everyone, delete my account, and create a new one with a new name. And then keep these things in mind.

    (I don't know why I'm actually trying to give you advice here, since I don't think you'll appreciate or follow any of it, but call me a softie.)

    thanks for the advice again.. this whole post will be deleted along with my account within 72 hours.. so i'm not so worried about that. i've actually been really amused by all of this.

    you ask me what i intend to do about my marriage and the problems in it, i dont have an answer for that.. you cant take a "slash and burn" approach to relationships or life, thats just not how it works. people are not projects to be completed, the are multi-dementional creatures, with a pantheon of emotions, desires, motivations, ideas, philosophies, ect. you cant just hack off the diseased leg and expect everything to be hunky-dory.

    for instance, as i said, he suggested giving his buddy a few of my pain meds instead of me giving him $20 to pay him back, i said, "no, we are broke (which we really were not, but since he cant handle money well and i take care of all the finances.. he thinks we are, if i tell him so. and i did tell him so because i was mad that he borrowed money for stupid stuff like red bulls, fast food and lotto tickets! he has a budget for that, and he over spent his alotment.)  so i told him he will have to take the $20 from next weeks budget to re-pay his friend.  he was pissed off at me, because i wouldnt give him $20 of his own, hard earned money when he asked for it. i told him his money was gone but, he knew i had money from my loan check and wanted me to give him $20 from that and he would repay me when he got paid.. but i said, 'dont write checks you cant cash. in a juvenile sense i was trying to make him own up to his descision making process and be "personally responsible" for his own money. that is the origins of this whole damn debate!!!

    he really did have a toothache, i know this bc i found a used numbing gel applicator on the bathroom counter the next day. all of my meds are accounted for and he told me he was up because he was taking pulmoid (sp?) machine treatment and letting the dog out to potty.i dont have an answer, but its definetly not a divorcable offense or makes anyone a criminal. he has not even mentioned it once in all these days. the issue has really sort of resolved itself. all i can do is take it one day at a time and work it out as we go, with each issue that arises. thats life, its always a work in progress and is never completed and its completely arrogant for someone to say that there is a clear answer to solve all of ones problems in one, fell swoop.

    for example, when i was all in a tizzy over him falling asleep on the couch every night, turns out, he really was jsut tired! we talked about it, i expressed my feelings and now he uses my laptop freely. we changed our diet (which is why i get mad when he eats junk food) and started to exercise a little and wouldnt you know it, problem resolved.. crisis iverted. 

    ps.. i dont care what you say, jez, i would never in a million years tell someone that their kid was a brat (even if they are) or that their husband was a loser or that they should use birthcontrol or what they should or shouldnt spend their money on.. unless, i was looking to get slapped. plain and simple. there is something to be said for tact.. and some just dont have it.

    oh yah, what am i apologising for, exactly? if my posts are fair game then so are commentors, right? i mean, no one made you read this, did they? ...just sayin 

    But you will tell somebody you hope their husband beats them. You're right about tact. Some people just don't have it.

    Oh, and just because... 

    coun?cil (kounsl)
    n.
    1.
    a. An assembly of persons called together for consultation, deliberation, or discussion.
    b. A body of people elected or appointed to serve as administrators, legislators, or advisors.
    c. An assembly of church officials and theologians convened for regulating matters of doctrine and discipline.
    2. The discussion or deliberation that takes place in such an assembly or body.

    coun?sel (kounsl)
    n.
    1. The act of exchanging opinions and ideas; consultation.
    2. Advice or guidance, especially as solicited from a knowledgeable person.
    3. A plan of action.
    4. Private, guarded thoughts or opinions: keep one's own counsel.
    5. A lawyer or group of lawyers giving legal advice and especially conducting a case in court.

    yah i already corrected that in a later post.. but thanks for your input anyway.

  • .. so, no i wont be posting on this board anymore.

    Why do I not believe this statement?

    You should be off the boards all together and getting some help for all your issues. Honestly you are making your problems worse by wasting time here instead of getting the professional help you need.



  • image taaka25:
    image jez_girl:
    image taaka25:

    image zitiqueen:
    She's probably taking a "Become a Legal Assistant in Just Six Months!" correspondence course from one of those "schools" that advertise during Jerry Springer and Judge Judy.

     

    .. you know what they say about assuming... LOL. didnt we just have this conversation? is there an echo? ohhhh no, thats just the sound of... well, i'm not going to sink to your level. good day.

    btw, since everyone is so interested in what i am studying, when i say that i'm a student of law.. this is one assignment that i'm currently working on:

     

    16 Sept

    I had fun today and hope you all did as well. The writing assignment that I mentioned today-that will be due either wednesday or friday of next week-will ask you to explain how Dickenson justified or substantiated his argument against the taxation of the Colonies. The principles of the social contract and the constitution of England are central to his complaints and attempt to persuade others to protest.

    I have placed in the content area a selection of excerpts from enlightenment philosophers that I give to my American Government class that you who have not taken it as well as those who have and forgotten should find useful. Hobbes and Locke are especially pertinet because they were writing during two periods of social conflict in England. I have also placed the English Bill of Rights of 1688 there for you to look at.

    See you monday.

     

    Oh, honey. Bless your heart.

    You're upset because your husband is selfish, completely irresponsible, and quite possibly involved in shady activity (he can't account for money spent?? BIG red flag there that you're glossing over!), and when you tried to vent about it to internet strangers instead of actually doing something productive, it didn't go over well. (IMO, productive would be taking an honest look at whether you want to be giving him an allowance for the rest of your lives together, not just continuing with the mommy role that isn't working for either of you.)

    You brought all of this backlash on yourself with your attitude here. Recognize that, and change.

    Yes, you love your husband and you regret the things you said about him, but that doesn't make them untrue. Take a long, hard look at your life and ask yourself how long you can live like this. You love your husband, but that doesn't mean he's good for you. You can't make him be responsible- he either has it or he doesn't.

    Some other advice:

    1) Be a big girl and quit with the temper tantrums just because someone hurts your feelings. Don't delete posts.

    2) Don't represent yourself as something you're not just because it sounds better. Everyone knows what a law student is, and you're not one. (Sure, I can say I'm a medical student when I've taken a first aid course. But it's a lie, and I can't get upset when people take me at my word and then call me on the lie.)

    3) Take anger management classes, marital counselling, and just about any individual counselling you can lay your hands on. You have issues.

    4) If you honestly believe anyone has "invaded [your] thoughts", make yourself a tin foil hat, then see step 3.

    thanks for the advice.. i'll keep it in mind. that was kind of the point in the first place, actually. thanks for making it for me.

    if someone wants to offer a useful, polite, and genuine suggestion, i'll hear it with open ears. however, if someone is only going to make snide, snotty, bitchy, normative comments and then call into question my credibility based on statements i supposedly made, she better be able to back it up with EVIDENCE, otherwise, its conjecture and that has no value to me, or any other educated individual.

    oh and thanks for letting me know that everyone knows what a law student was.. funny, though, i've just googled "law student" and there is NO definition for the combonation of words. however,

    the definition of law, as per Webster.. (side note, do you know who Webster actually is? he was an American revolutionary who contributed to the idea of the "new American society" by re-writing the English dictionary to set us apart as Americans)

    Law:

    noun

      1. all the rules of conduct established and enforced by the authority, legislation, or custom of a given community, state, or other group
      2. any one of such rules
    1. the condition existing when obedience to such rules is general: to establish law and order
    2. the branch of knowledge dealing with such rules; jurisprudence
    3. the system of courts in which such rules are referred to in defending one's rights, securing justice, etc.: to resort to law to settle a matter
    4. all such rules having to do with a particular sphere of human activity: business law
    5. common law, as distinguished from equity
    6. the profession of lawyers, judges, etc.: often with the
      1. a sequence of events in nature or in human activities that has been observed to occur with unvarying uniformity under the same conditions
        often
      2. the formulation in words of such a sequence: the law of gravitation, the law of diminishing returns
    7. any rule or principle expected to be observed: the laws of health, a law of grammar
    8. inherent tendency; instinct: the law of self-preservation
    9. Eccles.
      1. a divine commandment
      2. all divine commandments collectively
    10. Math., Logic, etc. a general principle to which all applicable cases must conform: the laws of exponents
    11. Sports, Brit. an allowance in distance or time as in a race; handicap.

    Student:

    noun

    1. a person who studies, or investigates: a student of human behavior
    2. a person who is enrolled for study at a school, college, etc.

    k, so thats class for today, kids.

     

    Moron, it's "Per Webster's Dictionary," not "As per."   

  • image magsugar13:

    .. so, no i wont be posting on this board anymore.

    Why do I not believe this statement?

    You should be off the boards all together and getting some help for all your issues. Honestly you are making your problems worse by wasting time here instead of getting the professional help you need.

    i jsut cant resist...hahahaha is that your professional opinion? i'll take that with a grain of salt, considering you tell everyone to get therapy... didnt you also tell another girl to get therapy because she was upset over gaining 10 lbs?? ahahahaha! maybe your ass is really just chapped bc you suck at giving advice and support and you dont have any real insight? hey maybe thats why you dont have any real friends?

    whatever the case, you should not be giving advice of feedback to anyone for that matter bc i dont think you have any comprehention about how it could impact someone's life.

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