I've been with my husband for a year and a half---we got married a few months ago. When I met him, I was a "virgin" though I'd been molested as a child. Sex is wonderful in that I love it, I enjoy it with him and trust him, though I felt very awkward at first. Its gotten more exciting, orgasms are better (took a long time for me to have one) however, I still get some times of extreme pain.
He's not *ahem* very large so its not a size issue. And while there are angles that put pressure in more sensitive places, that isn't the issue either. Its like my whole pelvic floor muscles spaz out and the pain is intense. Sometimes I get numbness or tingling down my left leg at the same time or the feeling that my feet are on fire. It comes on usually about 20minutes after we have sex and lasts for a few hours. Though if I have sex the following day it will start during sex and we have to stop. We've tried different positions and slower more "touchy feely" sex can still cause it too. Once the symptoms came on when I started to get aroused just daydreaming about him... he wasn't home. :-(
He's very experienced, and said he's known women who had pain at times before, but I worry I'm not normal or that its psychological because of past trauma. I still get anxiety attacks over weird things or nothing at all. Anyone else experienced anything like this? I'd figured it was physical except for the time it came on when I became aroused.
I don't really feel like I need counseling--he and I can talk openly about things and though I get the panic attacks, I can think through it and go on about my day without anyone knowing other than someone like him who can tell.