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For those following my boy dilemma

I just broke it off with boy 1 (the one who's in the city at the moment), and now I'm sitting here crying. It was not easy.

Not even taking into consideration what feelings I may have for boy 2, it wouldn't have worked with guy 1 anyway. He and I have very different religious beliefs. There are some things I feel very strongly about and he has opposite feelings. I know that he really liked me though, and it was so hard.

I'm sad because I hurt his feelings, and also because I did love hanging out with him and he was so good to me. There was no point in delaying the inevitable though.

His last words were that he'd really miss me, that didn't help the crying.

I think I would prefer always being on the receiving end of breakups.

Good news time. I've been talking a lot with the other boy and he comes home soon and I'm excited to see him. 

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Re: For those following my boy dilemma

  • I'm so glad that you were able to make a choice. And having religious differences that are so dramatic would have been tough. Still, ((hugs)) and hopefully boy 2 coming back soon will help. 
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    I think I would prefer always being on the receiving end of breakups.

    That is a lie and you know it!

    On that note: Write a book and sell your secrets for attracting men.  You will make bajillions. 

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  • Hold on, I thought boy 1 is the one abroad at the moment, and boy 2 is the one in town?

    Either way, I'm sorry. You do what you have to do, don't be upset because you've done absolutely nothing wrong. Have a well-deserved drink and some ice cream. Hugs!

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  • To answer a few things, I don't remember my numbering system the book shall be called. In this situation, I spotted seeing the one in town.

    Wise_Rita, the book shall be called "Eat You Asss Fat, Nigerian Boys Like That".

    Lastly, boy and I have texted a couple times since he left my flat an hour ago or so, I do not feel so bad now. He, in not so many words, insinuated that I may be full of shiit when I say I care about him, and that I just came up with a reason to stop seeing him.

    His being a bit diickish kind of helps me not feel so bad, but now I feel a different kind of bad that he feels these things about me. I'm hoping it was just a defense mechanism on his part.

    I have decided to put it out of my mind and clearly it was the best thing to not see him anymore.

    Ugh I am now sending in applications to nunneries. 

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    Good riddance to rubbish then if that's his way of dealing with it.

    I highly recommend being firm friends with men first before anything happens. In every other case it always ended poorly. I was friends with DH for 5 years before we hooked up.

  • It is tough to break these things off.  But major differences can really be the death of a relationship.  Sending hugs!
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    Wise_Rita, the book shall be called "Eat You Asss Fat, Nigerian Boys Like That".

    TeeHee!  Yes

    I'm sorry for the drama, but sounds like you made a good choice.  What's up with the guilt-trip ("you never lovey-wovied me") will pull her back logic?!  Lame.

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    image meggers5:

    Wise_Rita, the book shall be called "Eat You Asss Fat, Nigerian Boys Like That".

    TeeHee!  Yes

    I'm sorry for the drama, but sounds like you made a good choice.  What's up with the guilt-trip ("you never lovey-wovied me") will pull her back logic?!  Lame.

    This is what I don't really get. Maybe he was just trying to hurt me, fine whatever. But honestly, we weren't official. Obviously I would want to know why someone didn't want to see me anymore, but I wouldn't question their reasoning. At this point, it doesn't really matter my reason. I gave him one and he can accept it or not, but to be quite harsh, even if I didn't have a reason I would be within my rights to not see him anymore.

    I'm not thinking about it a ton because I'm sad that it didn't end well, and that I now feel differently about him when he seemed like such a great person. 

    Oh well. It's not like it would have done either of us any favours for me to keep seeing him pretending I didn't feel how I did.

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    Lastly, boy and I have texted a couple times since he left my flat an hour ago or so, I do not feel so bad now. He, in not so many words, insinuated that I may be full of shiit when I say I care about him, and that I just came up with a reason to stop seeing him.

    Some people show their true colors in situations like this. I had a boyfriend in college who I felt really, really terrible breaking up with. I liked him a lot but I wasn't going to fall in love with him. He was really nice during it, then out of nowhere freaked out a week later and sent me a bunch if really mean emails. It was bizarre, but it made me feel better about my decision. 

    Hopefully things go well with your other guy when he gets back!  

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  • Looks like it was easy to make a decision. I would have done the same thing. Having very different opinions on religion, money or politics can be hard. And he makes it easier for you by being a d!ck. Win-win.

     

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