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Ladies who have repatriated

Curious minds want to know.  TIA

How was the transition for you?

Was it easier or harder than you expected? 

Are you ready to move overseas again?

Is there anything you wish you had known before you did it?

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After 3 years living abroad, we are back in NOVA.

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  • Are you guys moving back? Did I miss the memo? Woah it seems like we've got a lot of ladies repatriating this summer/fall!

    Just thinking about the process makes me feel like I would have a little bit of a hard time readjusting but I'm not exactly sure how hard.

    If it were my DH's choice we'd move back to the States NOW because he wants a big house/car/etc....more material possibilities....but also to his credit we are living in his hometown so this place is 'old news' for him.

    I know for certain that I'd really miss the work/life/family balance attitude that the Netherlands has. I think it's wonderful that they promote the ability to have a career, family, and time for yourself and your interests as well. The vacation/free time thing is what I think would be the absolute hardest for me.

    Also going back to US healthcare. We have amazing healthcare right now and going back to the co-pays and limited coverage is a hard thought.

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  • I haven't  gone back since moving to France but when I moved back to TX after a year in Scotland and Belgium, it was really hard. Of course part of it was that I no longer had a car in TX and  I couldn't get everywhere on foot like I could in Scotland, my bf (now DH) was still in Europe, I was broke and I missed my old flatmates now that I was living alone again. Anywho, it was really hard for me and it was hard to get back into the rhythm of things with my friends and family. I wish I had been more prepared for the reverse culture shock on returning to the US, I had mentally prepared myself for going overseas but not for the return!
  • One thing that struck me was how much of an outsider I was. It wasn't like I expected time to stand still while I was gone, but I couldn't believe how many "inside jokes" I was on the outside of. And references I had didn't even register with my friends.

    One example was the rolling black outs in CA. They all lived through it and I missed them, so the jokes, headaches, everything was lost on me. On the other hand, no one had experience with the chemical foot baths at the grocery store entrances/public places, and the shut down of footpaths, and the huge pyres during foot and mouth.

    I actually kind of felt like a bit of a foreigner than returning home. On a good note, it was sooooo nice to just slip back into my comfy-self. It was refreshing to not have to struggle to understand everything and worry if I was doing it right. 

    Oh, and the biggest warning I can offer: do NOT NOT NOT NOT eat two entire boxes of krispie cremes in one day. Pace yourself. LOL

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    Oh, and the biggest warning I can offer: do NOT NOT NOT NOT eat two entire boxes of krispie cremes in one day. Pace yourself. LOL

    LOL!

    Ashley - Yes, we are moving out of our apartment the third week of May.  We'll move into a hotel near DH's work and fly home in early June.  DH will stay here and work until July.  We have bought a house in VA, so it makes more sense for me to go get some work started, like a deck and fence there, than stay in a hotel here.

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  • Haha, I fully planning on gorging myself in the States. Let's hope my stomach agrees.

     Oh wow...such big life changes. What are the things you are and are not going to miss about your life in Germany?

    I feel like I've learned so much from this experience of living abroad that if and when we do go back to the States, I know I will take a good chunk of it with me.

    Where in VA will you guys be located? It'll be the perfect time to go get settled and started on things in the house for sure! So exciting.

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  •  Ashley - I'll really miss being able to walk everywhere, cafes, festivals, etc.  I'll miss being able to travel so easily from here too.  Part of me will miss the restaurant experience - not having to wait for a table, not being rushed, but part will like having quicker and better service!  We'll be in northern VA (Fairfax area).

    How long do you see yourself staying overseas at this point?

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    After 3 years living abroad, we are back in NOVA.
  • Have you lived in NOVA before? You will love it, I miss DC!

    We had a good transition, actually. I miss London a lot (especially today!) but life is better for us here, we have a fabulous house, close to family, we can walk to restaurants/stores (if we want, we don't often which is just our laziness) and enjoy the weather. 

    We would move overseas again, for the perfect job, or way down the road. But it isn't in our immediate plans.

    Good luck!

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  • I grew up in NOVA and DH moved there after college.  We lived there together for several years before coming overseas.  I don't miss the traffic, or look forward to all of the construction around Tyson's, but it will be nice to be home and have family nearby.  My parents and sisters (and their families) are all within an hour's drive, and DH's family is within a 3 hour flight.
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     Ashley - I'll really miss being able to walk everywhere, cafes, festivals, etc.  I'll miss being able to travel so easily from here too.  Part of me will miss the restaurant experience - not having to wait for a table, not being rushed, but part will like having quicker and better service!  We'll be in northern VA (Fairfax area).

    How long do you see yourself staying overseas at this point?

    That where DH and I are from -- Fairfax!  Where in Fairfax?  It is a nice area, we go back at least once per year to see family and friends. 

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  • I absolutely love being able to walk around a city center. I do, however, miss it being easy to get to the grocery store and whatnot. :) It's all a trade-off.

     The restaurant experience is really mixed here in NL....

    It's SO expensive to eat out (our "discount" at DH's best friends restaurant made a decent meal only 80 euros...sweet) and it takes sooooo long that I'm generally ready to eat my own arm by the time my food comes. hehe.

     At this point we really have no idea. My new job is going quite well and DH is up for a promotion at his job, we'll know more next week so it's really just up in the air. If it were his choice though we'd put a downpayment on a big house in the US tomorrow, lol. I've really Americanized my Dutchie.

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  • My GFIL lived abroad for bout 14 years and his comment was that no one care if you lived abroad. I think the things xnick brings up, about people having their own inside jokes/shared experiences and sometimes you might feel like you want to say a story that begins "when I lived in Germany"... and most people just don't care. Those that do will ask.

    And I agree about watching what you eat. When I moved back to the US to go to college, I ate out way to much because it was so quick, easy, cheap and tasty. 

  • How was the transition for you? It was difficult. I came home mid-September 2009, about 6 weeks before DH, because my work contract was up and I needed to get home and start looking for jobs and make preparations for our U.S. wedding that was happening in December.

    Was it easier or harder than you expected? Much harder, especially because I was alone. Even though I stayed close to my family and talked to them every week via Skype when I lived abroad, no one was able to really witness how our relationship grew and how we became our own family; no one knew what "normal life" had become for me. I felt very alone. I found myself struggling with how to retain the new developments in myself from our life in DK and integrate them with how I used to live in the U.S. I experienced a lot of reverse culture shock and resented Americans for being wasteful, ignorant, etc. 

    Are you ready to move overseas again? I do have a problem in that I romanticize our time there. Especially since the three months before were the most beautiful months in DK. If I had left in the middle of winter, I may not remember it as fondly :). I struggle with my new views on politics, social issues, etc. For example, I got denied short-term disability coverage at my work due to childhood asthma, so it's difficult knowing I will only be able to afford to take 4 or 5 weeks off work with any future babies, when I could've had so much more time in DK. Funny, the other day DH asked me if I wish I had never seen that there was another way to live. It's an interesting question, because while I appreciate all that I gained from living abroad, it does make it much more difficult to live in the moment and appreciate everything I have now, since I am constantly wondering if life would be better there.

    Is there anything you wish you had known before you did it? Yes, I would not have moved over until one or both of us had jobs.  We did make it hard on ourselves in that during the month of December we hosted DH's family for 2 weeks, had 2 weddings in different parts of the U.S., and a honeymoon. It would have been tough for either of us to start working. But we didn't get jobs until February so we blew through almost all of our savings in those few months. If I had known it would take so long to get jobs, I might have stayed with my parents for even more time (though, one of the reasons we got an apartment when we did, was so DH's family could stay there while they visited pre-wedding. This was important to DH.) 

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  • How was the transition for you?
    It was a quick transition between our decision and our actual move so it was a bit of a whirlwind.  We moved in with my parents so it was an interesting transition from being alone to being with them.  It was so great to be able to indulge in everything we'd missed while being away, even though it was only just over a year. 

    Was it easier or harder than you expected? 
    Since we had about a month before DH found a job, it was really nice.  We spent out time relaxing, unwinding, eating a TON and exercising it off.  I'd say it was easier than expected, although I still get mad at all of the insanely overweight people I see here.  There's just something about food courts that I can't stand now!

    Are you ready to move overseas again?
    No, I think we're going to stick around the US for the long haul.  We've both lived in many different places and are finally ready to settle down for good.

    Is there anything you wish you had known before you did it? 
    I wish our time between deciding and moving was longer.  There were so many things we always said we wanted to do in Israel and always assumed we'd have the time to do.  Unfortunately many of those things never came to fruition :(

  • How was the transition for you? It went smoothly becuase DH's company organized and paid for it all.

    Was it easier or harder than you expected?  Harder in terms of getting used to being back here. I've been back 2 1/2 years, longer than I was there, and I still have days where I really, really miss living there and wish we were back in the UK again. Desperately sometimes.

    Are you ready to move overseas again? Not this moment but just last week DH and I were talking about it.

    Is there anything you wish you had known before you did it? That our COL would go up in ways but our take home would be less.
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    Curious minds want to know.  TIA

    How was the transition for you? VERY easy!!!

    Was it easier or harder than you expected? I knew it would be hard in some respects- especially moving back to a huge city, but aside from that, it was not any harder than I had imagined it would be.

    Are you ready to move overseas again? No, but if we do, I am ok w/ it.

    Is there anything you wish you had known before you did it? Not really. We are open to moving back or staying, and knew what we were getting into, so there weren't any surprises tbh.

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