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Am I wrong?

This is the email I received today from Jason's younger half sister.  I put my thoughts/comments in bold.  I'm just going to ignore all of the horrible spelling and grammar.

Hey Sis, (First of all, I hate this, I'm not your "Sis")

Danny n me have decided that since must people didnt come to our original wedding (thats because 1. you didn't send out invites 2. you had it randomly on a Thursday night in a park where a soccer team was playing 3. you married someone twice your age who doesn't have a job) that we want to have a second wedding and receptin and just call it a vowel renewal (um not ok, you haven't even been married 2 years and have already 'separated' twice).  Our budget for the hole thing is around $500 and we are inviting about 300 people (10 people showed up to your first 'wedding', do you really think 300 people will show up to this).  I no you had a small budget for your wedding (We had a 7K budget for 50 people...how does this compare to yours?) so I wanted to ask if you would help me plan ours.  And as part of our wedding present from you n Jason see if maybe you all could help cover some of the alcohol costs and be our bartenders (Seriously, you are asking for us to pay for your bar and bartend?  After we already gave you a present at your first wedding?).  Give me a call so we can start planning, so excited!

Love your little sis (nope, I have 1 little sister and it's not you)- Amanda

I told Jason about this and he just laughed, said what an idiot she is, and said we'd have no part in it.  She is obviously just trying to get gifts and it's extremely rude for her to out right ask us to pay for part of the wedding plus 'work' at the wedding.  When she first got married, we gave her a $100.00 gift card to BB&B, later to find out she 'sold' the gift card to a friend for $50 so she could have cash to go to the casino!  I'm all about helping someone plan a wedding or a party; however, under these circumstances, I just want to yell at her and say 'how dare you!'.  Am I wrong for not wanting any part of this?  Should I just suck it up and try to help her the best I can?  I'm not sure what planet she is from, the rest of Jason's family is totally normal whereas this girl is so trashy/classless.

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Re: Am I wrong?

  • DyorkDyork member
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    Surprise Is she 12?

    I don't blame you for not wanting to be involved. IMO I think that's rude of her to ask you guys to cover part of the bar bill AND work it. 

    I'd probably offer to help plan...(who am I kidding, I'd straight up tell her to F-off) But if you want to be nice, then just offer to help plan, but nothing else.

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  • I'm dying over here at "vowel" renewal. Oy!

    I wouldn't help her. You're between permanent jobs, and you can't be spending your income willy-nilly. Just tell her you're sorry, but you won't be able to help her out, but you'd be happy to forward her the names of your vendors.

    Also, that's a little over a dollar per person they're willing to spend. How generous of them.

    If anyone needs me, I'll be sitting over here giving the side-eye.

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  • Wow-whee!  I love her letter and your commentary.

    I agree w/others.  Tell her that you're busy focusing on jobs so you can't help financially, but you could send her to TK for DIY ideas, lol

  • AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Oh, that wasn't a joke?

     

    Step away from the situation slowly. I am not eveb sure I can give good advice because I would be on the horn instantly (yah I said horn) with this chick telling her all the things that are wrong with her and this wold.

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    I'm dying over here at "vowel" renewal. Oy!

    I wouldn't help her. You're between permanent jobs, and you can't be spending your income willy-nilly. Just tell her you're sorry, but you won't be able to help her out, but you'd be happy to forward her the names of your vendors.

    Also, that's a little over a dollar per person they're willing to spend. How generous of them.

    If anyone needs me, I'll be sitting over here giving the side-eye.

     

     

    Renewing a Vowel? Can't you do that on Wheel of Fortune or something?

  • Would she like renew her A's, E's, I's, O's or U's?


    After reading that (which took a while, trying to figure out what she was saying) I'm pretty much as shocked as the rest of the ladies. I mean, it's bad enough that she's doing a VOW renewal with a miniscule budget, but to then have the nerve to not only ask you to PAY for the alcohol (what a generous gift you'd be giving them! Spending at least $800 for 300 guests to drink their hearts out), but then to say hey, don't you go having fun at my "vowel" renewal, you need to work so everyone else can have fun!


    Giiiirl I'm mad FOR you!!

    And I'm curious at how this all will turn out lol


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  • Glad to know I'm not alone in thinking this was insane of her.  I think I will just tell her that right now we can't help financially which is the truth, and then just point her towards TK and let the wolves eat her alive. 

    BTW, this is the girl who didn't get me anything for my bridal shower nor did she get us a wedding gift because she 'accidently left it at home'  right... lol

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    Moved to an RE October 2013  HSG- All clear , S/A- Normal , Bloodwork -Normal
    Uterine polyp found-  Hysteroscopy and D&C 12/6/13  DX w/complex endometrial hyperplasia
    Endometrial Biopsy 3/21/14 - Hyperplasia still present  Endometrial Biopsy #2 6/24/14 - All clear!
    IUI #1  w/stims and trigger - Started stims 7/7/14 - IUI 7/24/14 = BFP 8/7/14
    Beta #1 8/8 - 47  Beta#2 -137  Beta#3 - 96 Beta#4 -287 Beta#5 -519 Beta#6 121 = early miscarriage 5w4d
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  • Holy crap balls - that's amazing! I'm still laughing on her vowel renewal. A, E, I, O U, A, E, I, O, U...

    How is she going to invite 300 people with a $500 budget? Postage (without invitation costs) could run over half of that really easily. Oh, let me guess - it'll be a Facebook invite or Evite. Don't get me wrong - these two media are fine for certain things, but for a wedding/vow renewal?? If they're doing a gift-grab, the least they can do is send out real invitations.

    I'm passive aggressive and would give her a 6-pack of beer as my contribution (she asked for help with the alcohol, after all), and sweetly say that I'd already given them a wedding present for their original wedding. Ditto previous poster - send her links to your vendors (so she can't say you didn't help) and call it a day.

    DON'T GET SUCKERED INTO HELPING ON THIS MORE!!!! 

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    I'm dying over here at "vowel" renewal. Oy! 

    LOL I couldn't believe it when I saw that either.

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    Moved to an RE October 2013  HSG- All clear , S/A- Normal , Bloodwork -Normal
    Uterine polyp found-  Hysteroscopy and D&C 12/6/13  DX w/complex endometrial hyperplasia
    Endometrial Biopsy 3/21/14 - Hyperplasia still present  Endometrial Biopsy #2 6/24/14 - All clear!
    IUI #1  w/stims and trigger - Started stims 7/7/14 - IUI 7/24/14 = BFP 8/7/14
    Beta #1 8/8 - 47  Beta#2 -137  Beta#3 - 96 Beta#4 -287 Beta#5 -519 Beta#6 121 = early miscarriage 5w4d
    Nestie Besties with Nfp147 
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    Glad to know I'm not alone in thinking this was insane of her.  I think I will just tell her that right now we can't help financially which is the truth, and then just point her towards TK and let the wolves eat her alive. 

    BTW, this is the girl who didn't get me anything for my bridal shower nor did she get us a wedding gift because she 'accidently left it at home'  right... lol



    I had a friend who "forgot our gift at home" too. I've seen her all of 100 times since the wedding. Weird how she keeps forgetting it!
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  • I feel that maybe you are being Punkd.

  • WOW....How old is she?!?! what a crazy girl...LOL 500.00 for 300 people thats to funny, and she wants you to pay for them to all drink at it... I DON"T THINK SO!!!! I would have say she needs to be told how it is.
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    Glad to know I'm not alone in thinking this was insane of her.  I think I will just tell her that right now we can't help financially which is the truth, and then just point her towards TK and let the wolves eat her alive. 

     I would do this! Ohhh, and can you link us to the thread when she posts for advice on her vowel renewel? Please Please Please!

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    Glad to know I'm not alone in thinking this was insane of her.  I think I will just tell her that right now we can't help financially which is the truth, and then just point her towards TK and let the wolves eat her alive. 

     I would do this! Ohhh, and can you link us to the thread when she posts for advice on her vowel renewel? Please Please Please!

    This!!

    Is she nuts?? That budget is just ridiculous! We had about a $12K budget for 350 people and that was tight, I used a lot of "friend" resources. I think that she was acting all "sisterly" so that you would give in and help out. I would follow Kenna and give her a case of something cheap and say GL!  

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    Glad to know I'm not alone in thinking this was insane of her.  I think I will just tell her that right now we can't help financially which is the truth, and then just point her towards TK and let the wolves eat her alive. 

     I would do this! Ohhh, and can you link us to the thread when she posts for advice on her vowel renewel? Please Please Please!

    This!....I would follow Kenna and give her a case of something cheap and say GL!  

    Yes please!  This gets my vote too.   Also, please give us an update.

    Is she usually this "sisterly" towards you, or is this--as I suspect from your reaction--just because she needs something from you? 

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