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I am slightly disturbed .... overreacting ?

Part of my job is to attend various bridal events and represent my company. At the last one I attended amongst, the photogs, planners, and florists were a plastic surgeon, a teeth whitening  and cosmetic dentist, and several weight loss /work out plans (includeing supplements, food services etc) 

 

I couldnt' help but be shocked. I mean I think plastic surgery is a personal choice, but to present it as a "necessary" thing as a officiant ?! IDk totally rubbed me the wrong way. WAAYY to "bridalplasty"

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Re: I am slightly disturbed .... overreacting ?

  • I get weight loss and teeth whitening. But plastic surgery and cosmetic dentistry just feed into this terrible Wedding Industrial Complex monster we've created.

    Are these women not good enough to marry (ie love) the way they are?

    I am with you--it skeeves me out.

  • i'd give the side eye to the plastic surgeon and MAYBE the cosmetic dentist but the other 2 wouldn't phase me in the least. i was one of THOSE brides who had their teeth whitened days before the wedding.

    are any of those things 'necessary' .. NO !

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  • Honestly, nothing at these bridal events are necessary.  I'm not sure flowers are any more/less important then teeth whitening.
  • image smbsantacruz:

    I get weight loss and teeth whitening. But plastic surgery and cosmetic dentistry just feed into this terrible Wedding Industrial Complex monster we've created.

    Are these women not good enough to marry (ie love) the way they are?

    I am with you--it skeeves me out.

    I totally agree.  Back when I was doing the bridesmaid thing, an African-American friend of mine got married in a Victorian-style wedding dress (it was the 80s, don't flame!), and she wore a wig that was styled in that loose top-knot that was so popular in the Victorian era.  Don't get me wrong, it looked great with the dress, but it wasn't her

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    Honestly, nothing at these bridal events are necessary.  I'm not sure flowers are any more/less important then teeth whitening.

    There are a couple of girls at my work who are getting married soon, and I keep telling them if it doesn't involve food, drink, or music, don't stress about it!

  • Oh I totally had a trainer and lost around 15 pounds before my wedding. I  didn't have professional whitening, but I did use whtie strips for the week ahead of time, so I understand wanting to look your best, which is why I was debating myself if I was overreacting... but there is a difference between losing weight (esp in a healthy way) and getting a totally new nose, or boobs for your wedding.

     

     

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  • Totally disturbing! And taking advantage of people in the wedding mania moment. :(
  • I think it sucks that weddings have come to this. It shouldn't be about all of that materialistic/vanity stuff, it should be about two people getting married and spending the rest of their lives together.
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  • Wow.. really interesting and slightly disturbing.

    Perhaps the plastic surgeons also do botox or something.. so its not just surgery? Not that that is any better... but maybe a little.

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    I get weight loss and teeth whitening. But plastic surgery and cosmetic dentistry just feed into this terrible Wedding Industrial Complex monster we've created.

    Are these women not good enough to marry (ie love) the way they are?

    I am with you--it skeeves me out.

    Totally! The only thing I'll say about the cosmetic dentistry is I could see someone with severe dental abnormalities getting work done before lots of photos are taken. But they wouldn't be the target for these people showing up at a bridal fair. They would be interested without seeing a booth. Same with brides who really should lose weight for health purposes. You wouldn't have never thought of it and suddenly be interested by a booth. That is to grab women who are generally stressing over looking perfect, when they are probably beautiful the way they are.
  • Not overreacting IMO. I think it's pretty disturbing.
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  • What's just as disturbing is that we buy into it. The hair, the makeup, the nails, the tan, the teeth, now the bridesmaids have to have matching shoes and jewelry. There wouldn't be such a market for it if we didn't eat it all up like it was good for us and put those standards on ourselves and other women. As long as we're buying, they'll be selling.
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  • So true, B and it's not just even "wedding' we're sold this stuff all the time, and they pump it up even harder for the "wedding".    
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  • But I think there's a difference of degree between choosing to have matching BM dresses and permanently changing your body. Neither are necessary but one is dangerous, too.
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