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s/o breast-feeding: a question from a non-mom

So, my mom formula-fed all of us and I never saw or heard about people bf-ing until I was much older.  Perhaps this is why it weirds me out a smidge.

I know the benefits of bf-ing and plan to try with my kid(s) when the time comes, but the idea of it still kind of weirds/grosses me out.  I don't know why.

Anyone else feel this way?  Did your feelings about nursing change when you became a mom?  What about if bf-ing didn't work and you had to switch to formula?

I've heard women talk about this amazing bond that forms while nursing.  I'm not sure I get it, but maybe this is where the "you'll understand when you're a mom" card is played appropriately. 

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  • My siblings and I were formula feed. I knew I wanted to breastfeed knowing all the benefits. We just happened to have an excellent lactation specialist and a pretty easy/natural time. It doesn't happen for everyone like that so we are lucky enough to have formula for that reason.

    I cried the first time m was given a bottle because that's how special I think the bond is. there is nothing better for me knowing that he is growing strong on something my body creates especially for him. Each day changing to fit his needs.

    I have a huge pet peeve when people make comments about male babies liking boobs because they ate boys. Um all babies like boobs because it is food and warmth.

  • Not a mom here yet, but I do feel the same way as you on this.  I understand the benefits and am planning on trying to bf, but do get the creeps about it.  Guess we will see what happens when the time comes.
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  • DS1 never latched on right and was losing weight quickly so I stopped and FF him. DS2 did fine but wasn't getting enough food at all because it took awhile for my milk to come in so I had to supplement and he really started refusing to BF, I was getting anxiety so I FF him as well.

    I think it's perfectly natural for one to be nervous/hesitant/weirded out by BF if you really haven't been around it too much (just like anything else). Whatever works best for you, great. As far as BF being the best, I am not sure about that either because I know a few kids who were strictly BF and still had quite a lot of ear infections, were sick just as much, allergies, etc. Not sure about the brain part of it but I think there are scholars out there who were FF. I think the bonding is great but you can get a great bond as well if you FF. It's all a personal preference.

  • I've been ebf'ing for 12 weeks now. It was really important to me to breastfeed her. We had a rocky start and it's not easy, but I'm so glad I've stuck with it.

    I never thought it was weird at all. For me, though, I've had a lot of social support which I think is so so important. My mom bf'ed 3 kids, my MIL bf'd 2, and I have a lot of friends who do it/have done it.

    I totally hated nursing at first. It hurt, it was difficult to get in a right position, and I spent 8-12 hours a day for the first few weeks of her life with her attached to me. It was exhausting and I was a total hormonal and anxious mess.

    I think it changed for me when I saw how well she was/is doing. Every weigh in where she grows makes me feel so accomplished. Like my body and her body are working together the way they're supposed to help her grow and thrive.

    I really enjoy it now. It's become so quick and easy. No setting up or packing bottles or cleaning of anything other then pump parts.  I can do it anywhere right on the spot.  I know she enjoys it too - it's funny to watch her eyes roll back in her head - like she's saying "Mommy this is soooo delicious!" 

    I'm not one of those people to say, "Well when you're a mom you'll understand."  But I will say that I think bf'ing is an extension of being pregnant. You get to hold your baby close, it's just the 2 of you, and they're totally dependent on you to take care of them. Not even their daddy can do that, even if they're feeding pumped milk. For me it's definitely helped us bond. Now that I'm back to work I appreciate the snuggle time we have when I nurse her.

    Plus I'm cheap and don't want to have to spend $$ on formula if I don't have to.

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  • Not going to lie, I was also slightly uncomfortable with the idea prior to giving birth. Afterwards, I did really enjoy it but still didn't feel comfortable nursing her in public or even in front of some family members. I really enjoyed the interaction of breastfeeding and the time we spent together. However, I had 5 bouts of mastitis and was constantly sick it was horrible and really dampered my enjoyment to say the least.

    Unfortunately my experience that led me to quit was very rare but I was devastated the first time I gave her formula which in retrospect was very stupid. I had a very severe breast abscess which led to immediate surgery. I was hospitalized for a week, had a drain inserted through my breast which remained for about 4 weeks. I continued to pump on my 'good' boob for another 6 weeks but eventually it was not enough to sustain her demand and had no choice to supplement.

     When girls talking about breastfeeding on here and IRL I do still get jealous and wish it would have worked out for me. Also, I probably won't be able to breastfeed on that breasts again which makes me upset.

    IMO you just have to roll with the punches and ultimately do what is comfortable for you and what is best for your baby whether that be breastfeeding or formula feeding. Formula has been great for Ava and for our family, I can't complain.

  • Wow, that was long.

    I will also add, however, that bf'ing is not easy and takes a lot of commitment.  I took it day by day, even feeding by feeding, in the early weeks.  I do think that bf'ing is one of those things that if you're not really 'sold' on it, you won't stick with it.  There are also women who have issues and just can't bf.

    If you think you might want to do it, take a class with a lactation consultant when you're pregnant. That was a huge help for me.  I also went to a bf support group with my baby after she was born. I loved it and it sucks that I can't go anymore due to being back at work.

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    Not going to lie, I was also slightly uncomfortable with the idea prior to giving birth. Afterwards, I did really enjoy it but still didn't feel comfortable nursing her in public or even in front of some family members. I really enjoyed the interaction of breastfeeding and the time we spent together. However, I had 5 bouts of mastitis and was constantly sick it was horrible and really dampered my enjoyment to say the least.

    Unfortunately my experience that led me to quit was very rare but I was devastated the first time I gave her formula which in retrospect was very stupid. I had a very severe breast abscess which led to immediate surgery. I was hospitalized for a week, had a drain inserted through my breast which remained for about 4 weeks. I continued to pump on my 'good' boob for another 6 weeks but eventually it was not enough to sustain her demand and had no choice to supplement.

     

    Holy crap that's awful.  I'm terrified of mastitis and thrush. I've had quite a few blocked ducts and it's so so painful.  I can't imagine dealing with what you did!

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  • I just want to state that I understand BF does not work out for everyone. But if all that is holding you back is the idea that your breasts are just sexual objects then I find that sad.
  • In my family, I had women who had breastfed and loved it and women who thought breastfeeding was gross, weird etc.  I really wanted to do it because of all the benefits but I was unsure about how I would feel about it when the time came.  When the kid was born, it felt totally natural.  It wasn't easy and it was kind of painful because he had such a hard time latching because he was tongue tied.  They needed to clip that little piece under his tongue so I could breastfeed or I would have had to exclusively pump.  I had so much anxiety over this because I was a hormonal mess after giving birth, that I couldn't imagine cutting his tongue or being stuck to a pump all day so I took the easy way out and just FF him.

    I do regret my decision now and I wish I had just had his tongue cut so I could have breastfed him. However, I feel like I made the best decision I could have at the time, hindsight is always 20/20.  I don't feel like he missed out because he wasn't breastfed and we definitely still have a bond so ultimately I just think you do what you're comfortable with and don't beat yourself up over it. 

     

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  • I tend to get wound up about this, because I think there is a real disservice to women in the country as far as breastfeeding education goes.

    From what I have seen, most people have issues of some sort in the beginning.  Tongue ties, slow weight gain, delayed milk coming in -- the list goes on.  But the majority of women can breastfeed.  I can't tell you how many people have told me they couldn't.  And in many (but not all) of these cases, they never read a book, took a class, or most importantly had a support system.

    Baby Numbers is breastfed, and will soon by five months old.  I work.  Somehow we are still doing it, and we had a host of issues in the beginning.  It is getting to the point now where people ask me if he is "still" breastfeeding, and when I say yes, they respond with their litany of reasons why the stopped or never did.  

    It makes me uncomfortable, because it is something I am actually super proud of, and people kind of belittle it. 

    I should probably write a book on this topic.  Breastfeeding will most likely suck balls for the first six weeks, if not longer.   You will nurse around the clock.  The kid will take an hour to eat, and then you will have to start a half hour after he finishes.  You can't just leave the baby with someone until nursing is well established.

    I know people don't know this stuff.   I talked to a mom a few weeks ago who told me in the same sentence told me she had "low supply" and said she had her baby "trained on Babywise" at three weeks.  Hello, that is why you had low supply.

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    Not going to lie, I was also slightly uncomfortable with the idea prior to giving birth. Afterwards, I did really enjoy it but still didn't feel comfortable nursing her in public or even in front of some family members. I really enjoyed the interaction of breastfeeding and the time we spent together. However, I had 5 bouts of mastitis and was constantly sick it was horrible and really dampered my enjoyment to say the least.

    Unfortunately my experience that led me to quit was very rare but I was devastated the first time I gave her formula which in retrospect was very stupid. I had a very severe breast abscess which led to immediate surgery. I was hospitalized for a week, had a drain inserted through my breast which remained for about 4 weeks. I continued to pump on my 'good' boob for another 6 weeks but eventually it was not enough to sustain her demand and had no choice to supplement.

     

    Holy crap that's awful.  I'm terrified of mastitis and thrush. I've had quite a few blocked ducts and it's so so painful.  I can't imagine dealing with what you did!

    It was horrible and really do not wish that pain on anyone. What I found was that all booby issues are really a gray area. The doctors were sending me to the lactation consultants, the LC's were sending me back to the doctors. This continued for weeks. No one realized how serious it was and just went to the emergency room because of the pain. It was only then that it was found the abscess encompassed my entire breast and needed immediate surgery. I was very frustrated with my doctors, the LC's, and the biitch LC who scolded me in the hospital with a drain hanging out my boob for discussing a plan to wean.

    I really learned a lot through my experience and to trust my instincts and when something isn't right, it isn't right which I think is true about parenting. I do have to give a shout out to the Glenside Breastfeeding Resource center they were absolutely fantastic and were the ones who encouraged me to go to the emergency room. Also, if you see one of their lectures, you will probably see a pic of my boob. They asked to take a picture of it before I went to the hospital as a teaching tool, lol. Good times.

  • image larrysdarling:
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    Not going to lie, I was also slightly uncomfortable with the idea prior to giving birth. Afterwards, I did really enjoy it but still didn't feel comfortable nursing her in public or even in front of some family members. I really enjoyed the interaction of breastfeeding and the time we spent together. However, I had 5 bouts of mastitis and was constantly sick it was horrible and really dampered my enjoyment to say the least.

    Unfortunately my experience that led me to quit was very rare but I was devastated the first time I gave her formula which in retrospect was very stupid. I had a very severe breast abscess which led to immediate surgery. I was hospitalized for a week, had a drain inserted through my breast which remained for about 4 weeks. I continued to pump on my 'good' boob for another 6 weeks but eventually it was not enough to sustain her demand and had no choice to supplement.

     

    Holy crap that's awful.  I'm terrified of mastitis and thrush. I've had quite a few blocked ducts and it's so so painful.  I can't imagine dealing with what you did!

    I was so paranoid about thrush!  All the time!

    I had a block duct in the beginning back when he was a "weak suck".  I can't even imagine what you went through!

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  • I do agree that going to a class and having a good lactation consultant can help tremendously. My first LC with DS1 sucked big time and I could've worked harder to get my son to latch but she was so incredibly forceful and didn't really help me at all. My 2nd was great and she helped me so much.
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    Not going to lie, I was also slightly uncomfortable with the idea prior to giving birth. Afterwards, I did really enjoy it but still didn't feel comfortable nursing her in public or even in front of some family members. I really enjoyed the interaction of breastfeeding and the time we spent together. However, I had 5 bouts of mastitis and was constantly sick it was horrible and really dampered my enjoyment to say the least.

    Unfortunately my experience that led me to quit was very rare but I was devastated the first time I gave her formula which in retrospect was very stupid. I had a very severe breast abscess which led to immediate surgery. I was hospitalized for a week, had a drain inserted through my breast which remained for about 4 weeks. I continued to pump on my 'good' boob for another 6 weeks but eventually it was not enough to sustain her demand and had no choice to supplement.

     

    Holy crap that's awful.  I'm terrified of mastitis and thrush. I've had quite a few blocked ducts and it's so so painful.  I can't imagine dealing with what you did!

    It was horrible and really do not wish that pain on anyone. What I found was that all booby issues are really a gray area. The doctors were sending me to the lactation consultants, the LC's were sending me back to the doctors. This continued for weeks. No one realized how serious it was and just went to the emergency room because of the pain. It was only then that it was found the abscess encompassed my entire breast and needed immediate surgery. I was very frustrated with my doctors, the LC's, and the biitch LC who scolded me in the hospital with a drain hanging out my boob for discussing a plan to wean.

    I really learned a lot through my experience and to trust my instincts and when something isn't right, it isn't right which I think is true about parenting. I do have to give a shout out to the Glenside Breastfeeding Resource center they were absolutely fantastic and were the ones who encouraged me to go to the emergency room. Also, if you see one of their lectures, you will probably see a pic of my boob. They asked to take a picture of it before I went to the hospital as a teaching tool, lol. Good times.

    Unpopular opinion, but I think hospital LCs effing blow!  Their priorties are so warped.

    I hate, hate, hated one I had at Pennsy.  I might spit on her if I saw her today.  She put me through hell when we were trying to figure out what to so when Baby Numbers had to remain hospitalized due to jaundice.

    As much as I hated that experience, I love the LC at my pediatrician.  But that is probably self selecting -- any LC who is going to team up with a pediatrician respects his medical opinion, an vice versa.

     

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    Not going to lie, I was also slightly uncomfortable with the idea prior to giving birth. Afterwards, I did really enjoy it but still didn't feel comfortable nursing her in public or even in front of some family members. I really enjoyed the interaction of breastfeeding and the time we spent together. However, I had 5 bouts of mastitis and was constantly sick it was horrible and really dampered my enjoyment to say the least.

    Unfortunately my experience that led me to quit was very rare but I was devastated the first time I gave her formula which in retrospect was very stupid. I had a very severe breast abscess which led to immediate surgery. I was hospitalized for a week, had a drain inserted through my breast which remained for about 4 weeks. I continued to pump on my 'good' boob for another 6 weeks but eventually it was not enough to sustain her demand and had no choice to supplement.

     

    Holy crap that's awful.  I'm terrified of mastitis and thrush. I've had quite a few blocked ducts and it's so so painful.  I can't imagine dealing with what you did!

    It was horrible and really do not wish that pain on anyone. What I found was that all booby issues are really a gray area. The doctors were sending me to the lactation consultants, the LC's were sending me back to the doctors. This continued for weeks. No one realized how serious it was and just went to the emergency room because of the pain. It was only then that it was found the abscess encompassed my entire breast and needed immediate surgery. I was very frustrated with my doctors, the LC's, and the biitch LC who scolded me in the hospital with a drain hanging out my boob for discussing a plan to wean.

    I really learned a lot through my experience and to trust my instincts and when something isn't right, it isn't right which I think is true about parenting. I do have to give a shout out to the Glenside Breastfeeding Resource center they were absolutely fantastic and were the ones who encouraged me to go to the emergency room. Also, if you see one of their lectures, you will probably see a pic of my boob. They asked to take a picture of it before I went to the hospital as a teaching tool, lol. Good times.

    Unpopular opinion, but I think hospital LCs effing blow!  Their priorties are so warped.

    I hate, hate, hated one I had at Pennsy.  I might spit on her if I saw her today.  She put me through hell when we were trying to figure out what to so when Baby Numbers had to remain hospitalized due to jaundice.

    As much as I hated that experience, I love the LC at my pediatrician.  But that is probably self selecting -- any LC who is going to team up with a pediatrician respects his medical opinion, an vice versa.

     

    I couldn't agree more. I had to get security to prevent her from coming into my room. All she did was scold me on why I shouldn't wean, that my pump was dirty because I was still pumping one boob in the hospital and couldn't properly clean it. She was horrible and treated me like less than a mother because I had to gull to think about weaning despite the fact I had just been through a horrible experience. If you can find a good LC it can really change your perception on breastfeeding, IMO>

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    Unpopular opinion, but I think hospital LCs effing blow!  Their priorties are so warped.

    I hate, hate, hated one I had at Pennsy.  I might spit on her if I saw her today.  She put me through hell when we were trying to figure out what to so when Baby Numbers had to remain hospitalized due to jaundice.

    As much as I hated that experience, I love the LC at my pediatrician.  But that is probably self selecting -- any LC who is going to team up with a pediatrician respects his medical opinion, an vice versa.

     

    I don't think that's an unpopular opinion at all.  The LC at BMH was TERRIBLE.  Before we knew the kid was tongue tied I kept asking for help with getting him to latch.  I would be sitting in my hospital bed with him for an hour or longer while he screamed until he was bright red and was literally pushing my boob away.  The LC would come in grab my boob grab his head and push him on.  He would latch and she would say "see you can breastfeed" then walk out 2 seconds later.  Then he would lose the latch and the whole cycle started over again.  This cycle went on for three days before a nurse finally said he was tongue tied.  I have to admit I was happy when she said that because I spent three days thinking I was stupid for not figuring it out on my own.  I cried almost all day for three days over this because I felt like a failure.  The LC did nothing to help except yell at me when I finally decided to switch to formula.  She sucked.  Big time. 

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  • My LC at the hospital was good. She was helpful and encouraging. Also, she helped me get dressed after my first shower when I realized I couldn't bend down enough to dress myself. I was humiliated but she was really nice about it.

    I also had a nurse who was a LC and she helped me a lot, too.  Almost every time I fed for the first 2 days I asked for help. Even DH helped me - he'd help get my pillows set up and he'd get the baby since I couldn't get out of bed (due to csection). He also helped me get her latched a few times.

    My pedi always makes me feel good when I take Luciana in. He always pats me on the back and says I'm doing a great job.

    I did find a disconnect, however, between the LC's, the nurses, and the pedi in the hospital. I had a problem b/c my milk didn't come in until day 4-5.  My baby lost a full pound in the hospital and was screaming. Her poor mouth was dry and we had to supplement with formula through a syringe and a cup. I cried the whole time. I didn't know who to listen to.

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    Unpopular opinion, but I think hospital LCs effing blow!  Their priorties are so warped.

    I hate, hate, hated one I had at Pennsy.  I might spit on her if I saw her today.  She put me through hell when we were trying to figure out what to so when Baby Numbers had to remain hospitalized due to jaundice.

    As much as I hated that experience, I love the LC at my pediatrician.  But that is probably self selecting -- any LC who is going to team up with a pediatrician respects his medical opinion, an vice versa.

     

    I don't think that's an unpopular opinion at all.  The LC at BMH was TERRIBLE.  Before we knew the kid was tongue tied I kept asking for help with getting him to latch.  I would be sitting in my hospital bed with him for an hour or longer while he screamed until he was bright red and was literally pushing my boob away.  The LC would come in grab my boob grab his head and push him on.  He would latch and she would say "see you can breastfeed" then walk out 2 seconds later.  Then he would lose the latch and the whole cycle started over again.  This cycle went on for three days before a nurse finally said he was tongue tied.  I have to admit I was happy when she said that because I spent three days thinking I was stupid for not figuring it out on my own.  I cried almost all day for three days over this because I felt like a failure.  The LC did nothing to help except yell at me when I finally decided to switch to formula.  She sucked.  Big time. 

    I had a very similar situation.  What I did discover is that "attempts" to breastfeed is how hospital based LCs are evaluated.  One Pennsy LC actually could rattle off "attempt rates" at all the local hospitals.  I think she was trying to impress me.  But really, all they need to do is shove your boob in your kid's mouth, and they can say you do it.

    Huge amount of funding are tied to these rates, as is their job security.

    I saw five LCs at Pennsy.  It was the one at my pedi who diagnosed the tongue tie.

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    My LC at the hospital was good. She was helpful and encouraging. Also, she helped me get dressed after my first shower when I realized I couldn't bend down enough to dress myself. I was humiliated but she was really nice about it.

    I also had a nurse who was a LC and she helped me a lot, too.  Almost every time I fed for the first 2 days I asked for help. Even DH helped me - he'd help get my pillows set up and he'd get the baby since I couldn't get out of bed (due to csection). He also helped me get her latched a few times.

    My pedi always makes me feel good when I take Luciana in. He always pats me on the back and says I'm doing a great job.

    I did find a disconnect, however, between the LC's, the nurses, and the pedi in the hospital. I had a problem b/c my milk didn't come in until day 4-5.  My baby lost a full pound in the hospital and was screaming. Her poor mouth was dry and we had to supplement with formula through a syringe and a cup. I cried the whole time. I didn't know who to listen to.

    The only thing, ever, that would send me back to Pennsy was the fact that our pediatrician is there. They were always the tie breaker for me. But yes, you could cut the tension with a knife some times.

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  • To any pregnant moms reading this who want to breastfeed I would also recommend asking every nurse that comes in your room for help.  I found they would stick around longer than the LC and were nicer about it. 
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    I just want to state that I understand BF does not work out for everyone. But if all that is holding you back is the idea that your breasts are just sexual objects then I find that sad.

    That's definitely not it for me, but I can't quite explain why I feel weird about it.  That said, I plan to try bf-ing when I have a kid. 

    I will say Matthew's story and the other stories of clogged ducts scare me to death.  I'm so sorry you ladies had to go through that.

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  • Back to the OP, it's actually the opposite for me -- I didn't know for a long time that anyone DIDN'T breastfeed. My mom did for my siblings and me, my aunts all did, my friends who have kids all do. So for me, it's hard to imagine not BFing.

    That said, I have two cousins who had extremely difficult times with this. My one cousin cried for about a month straight because she couldn't get her son to BF, and then eventually found out he was allergic to something in her milk. It was heartbreaking for her, but she had no choice but to go to formula.

    I don't expect it to be easy, and I don't know how long I'll do it for (don't know enough about it yet), but I know I will certainly be committed to trying.

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    I just want to state that I understand BF does not work out for everyone. But if all that is holding you back is the idea that your breasts are just sexual objects then I find that sad.

    That's definitely not it for me, but I can't quite explain why I feel weird about it.  That said, I plan to try bf-ing when I have a kid. 

    I will say Matthew's story and the other stories of clogged ducts scare me to death.  I'm so sorry you ladies had to go through that.

    I'm sure she will tell you that it's likely rare to go through what she did.

    The worst I've dealt with is clogged ducts. While it is painful, it was relatively easily resolved within a day of alternating cold and warm compresses and massage.

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  • the LC at bryn mawr as shannon and i have discussed was kind of military in mannerisms aka a ***.

    now the LC at the birth center is amazing and came to help me after the transfer and just made be believe i could do it more then anything. 

    also i agree with amy about the lack of support system. for real my family has been really unsupportive, my mother is the worst. i just ignore it.

  • I have intentions of bfing but you are all scaring the shiit out of me regarding hospital LCs.

    Book recs please?


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    I have intentions of bfing but you are all scaring the shiit out of me regarding hospital LCs.

    Book recs please?

    i read the womanly art of breasstfeeding 

  • i am taking a class next month and i am hoping the bf-ing works well for me and guffman.  i am willing to work at it for at least 8 weeks and judge from there.  if it works, great.  if it doesn't, well we will figure it out. 

    i know that i will not have a great support system.  dh is still kind of weirded out by it, neither of our mom's bf, almost none of our aunts did, and only a few of our friends even tried.  they all think i am a hippy-dippy weirdo anyway so this won't be new.  the fact that i even mentioned cloth diapers sent them into a tizzy.  i am hoping that between the infant care class and the lactation class dh will come around a bit.  we shall see.   

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    i am taking a class next month and i am hoping the bf-ing works well for me and guffman.  i am willing to work at it for at least 8 weeks and judge from there.  if it works, great.  if it doesn't, well we will figure it out. 

    i know that i will not have a great support system.  dh is still kind of weirded out by it, neither of our mom's bf, almost none of our aunts did, and only a few of our friends even tried.  they all think i am a hippy-dippy weirdo anyway so this won't be new.  the fact that i even mentioned cloth diapers sent them into a tizzy.  i am hoping that between the infant care class and the lactation class dh will come around a bit.  we shall see.   

    i have to admit i love being able to prove my whole family wrong with cloth diapering.  no one believed we could do it. 

  • i still can not talk about breastfeeding without getting teary. I tried so fecking hard to bf, and it did not work. I thought I was rocking out at the hospital-we were writing down how long on each breast, doing everything right, the LCs kept checking and helping (I needed to use a breast shield) and even though it was hard, I kept going. And then by day 3, he had lost too much weight. and on day 4 when we went back to the pediatrician, he lost more weight. so we had to put him on formula and he magically gained weight (turns out if you feed your kid, they grow)

    i had a lc come to my house. i had my doula come over at 11pm on a saturday to help, but it still just didn't work for us.

    so, i kept pumping and trying to bf and it never worked. He screamed when it was time to bf and knocked the shield off and i cried and it was a mess.

    on the upside, i have no supply issues, so i've been pumping exclusively. with the exception of the first 2 weeks and 2 days where we weirdly ran out of milk, max has only had breastmilk. i have had clogged ducts several times and mastitis, and i'd still do it again.

     but i still wish i could have bf in the traditional sense.

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  • Visiting from another board (and previously known as reluctantbm): I'm trying to breastfeed my little one & we're having some issues with it.  Prior to becoming pregnant, I had no interest in breastfeeding  but that changed once I became pregnant.

    If I had to do anything differently: if you're interested in breastfeeding, read what you can & take a class.  I didn't do either of those things & I regret it.  I thought I had so much time to work with, but then I ended up with pregnancy-induced hypertension which put me on bed rest and kept me from doing a lot of things.  Add to that LO came a month early...breastfeeding has been very stressful.  My LO prefers breastmilk to formula BUT wants the breastmilk to come from a bottle.  I've been pumping what I can & supplementing with formula, which makes me feel like a failure in the breastfeeding dept.

    I'm with Amynumbers & Shannon on hospital LC's.  I think they're hit or miss.  The one I had at Virtua Voorhees was almost militant & questioned me about EVERYTHING: she wanted to know why my LO spent a night in the NICU since "she wasn't all THAT early & she was a good size" (as if I sent her there myself) and pretty much just kept forcing my kid's face on my boob.  And she was horrified when she found out that LO was given a bottle the night she was in the NICU.  She definitely believes breast is best & formula is the anti-Christ.  Oh yeah, and she felt my PIH and anxiety issues are just "excuses" to not breastfeed (um, the PIH kept me hospitalized longer than the actual c-section did). She was completely focused on the baby, forget the mother.  She made me cry, to which she responed "boy, I hope that's the hormones doing that to you."  I definitely picked up on an "us vs. them" vibe between the nurses who took care of me & the LC's on the floor.

    About a week after I was discharged I contacted the hospital & requested a visit from another LC, who was great.  She didn't make me feel that any choice I end up making is "wrong".  She was very helpful & really tried to boost my confidence.  She helped me get a good latch with my LO.  Now we just need to get LO to want to nurse from the boob instead of getting instant gratification from the bottle.

    I didn't expect breastfeeding to be easy, but I had no idea how hard it actually is.  My mom encouraged me to breastfeed, even though she formula-fed me & my sibs--she was disappointed that both of my sisters opted to formula-feed their kids.  Up until maybe two years ago, I didn't know anyone who breastfed.

    Sorry for the length. 

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