okay..so she's 19. he's 30. that's side eye #1. my brothers OOT, so i really don't see him much...and when they first started dating, he kept telling me she "wasn't giving up the milk till he buys the cow".......i admired her. i thought..."this 19yo is really is responsible and cares about her future....i'm okay with her". my brother repeatedly tells me that she's mature for her age because of this that and the other thing. all legitimate reasons. okay.
so.......after talking with her for a while yesterday, i learned 1) they are living together. 2) everybody knows this except me. 3) she has a dog that moved in with them. 4) ohmagod, her dad moved in with him too. 5) again. everybody knows this but me. 6) she moved in her turtles. 7) they're about to get another dog. 8) my brother, who could hardly afford plane tickets to come for my mothers birthday has bought her a DSLR, tiffany's jewelry, coach purses, a trip to disneyland, other stuff she doesn't need. 9) she does not act much older than 19...she could be a "mature" 19 yo, but she's definitely not in the mid 20 range that my brother has talked her up to be.
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