My dad was admitted to the hospital over the weekend for breathing and heart problems. He has early stage congestive heart failure and a heart murmur that has gotten significantly worse and will probably require surgery in the next week. His condition is very serious and I'm scared out of my mind, but I am not sure who to share the news with. My parents' close family all know, and my husband knows. I am very close with my husband's family but I haven't told them or my close friends. I feel weird going out of my way to share bad news. It's particular weird because today is my 30th birthday (and the second day I've spent in the hospital with my dad) so people are calling and emailing and facebooking to me to wish me a happy birthday. I just don't feel like celebrating, so I've been avoiding most of the contact. I don't want people to think I'm being rude or ungrateful, but I don't know what to say to explain myself without dropping horrible news on people. It also feels like lying if I just act like everything's normal and don't tell people who I do talk to. Any thoughts or advice?