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I could just cry...

So.... I went to the doctor this morning and basically left in tears...

  • Still have a partial septum left and they would like to go in and remove it with a second surgery. Instead of doing it this month, she wants us to do it next month.
  • My weight never has been brought up by the doctor, I asked about it, and now she would like me to lose 15 lbs in the next few months.
  •  After we knew what we were dealing with, the doctor offered us some different options to help us getting pregnant ( IUI and IVF), once I was healed with this first surgery. And now she wants us to try "natural conception" for 3 months prior to helping us. My heart just sank when she said this. I am just so tired of everything getting pushed back month after month.

So now I sit waiting again and again.. 

 

~Cheryl and Frank~ 06/28/08
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  • I'm so sorry that you have to keep pushing back TTC. However, at least you now have answers and a plan of action instead of just wondering.

    You will make a FABULOUS mother when the time comes, which will hopefully be soon!

     

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  • I'm sorry they have to go in with another surgery. I really hope this clears the septum up so you can get KU!

    I know it's tough to hear your dr tell you to try on your own for 3 months. I pray that you'll get your BFP in those 3 months. Here's to hoping the septum is the only thing holding you back from being a mommy!

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  • Oh Cheryl!  I'm sorry you didn't get better news at the Doctor :(

    Is there any chance they'd move the surgery up (meaning, did they give a reason for wanting to wait, like you have to heal more or something?).   I am sure it must be so hard to have your TTC timetable keep shifting.  My hope is that you get pregnant during those three months and thereby spare yourself any IF treatments (beyond what you've already been through). 

    We're thinking about you! 

  • Oh, Cheryl, I'm so sorry. We're here for you. I know it must be tough and I'm sure I can't say anything that will make you feel better. Vent away, girly.

    This may sound silly and crunchy, but have you considered taking some holistic approaches? There is a woman in Des Moines who leads classes on holistic approaches to conception. I know part of it involves a "Yoga for Fertility" class. It couldn't hurt, if anything it would provide you with inner peace and a healthier approach to living. Maybe they have something similar in your area. :-)

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  • Arrgghhh!!!  I'm so frustrated for you.  Actually, I'm pissed off.  Why weren't they able to get it all the first time!  If the doctor thought your weight were an issue, why not bring it up before now?  And why do you have to wait another freaking month for the surgery!

    I'm sorry.  My screaming (which is what I'm doing in my head) is probably not helping or making you feel better.  Doctors just piss me off sometimes, like it's no big deal -- like this isn't a major part of your life and waiting another month or really 4 months is no big deal.

    I would be asking lots of questions.  Is the septum the reason you weren't getting pregnant in the first place?  Or was it just preventing implantation?  Obviously removing the septum completely will help, but what will it actually do in terms of helping you get pregnant?  If it doesn't have an effect on getting pregnant -- only implantation and carrying the fetus, then what is waiting another 3 months going to do?

    Be your own advocate.  Keeping asking questions until you get answers that make sense.  And by all means, get a second opinion if you think you need/want one.

    I'm so sorry for you and I hope you get things worked out and get a sticky BFP soon.  Let me know if you want me to b!tch slap a doctor for you.  Wink

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    Arrgghhh!!!  I'm so frustrated for you.  Actually, I'm pissed off.  Why weren't they able to get it all the first time!  If the doctor thought your weight were an issue, why not bring it up before now?  And why do you have to wait another freaking month for the surgery!

    I'm sorry.  My screaming (which is what I'm doing in my head) is probably not helping or making you feel better.  Doctors just piss me off sometimes, like it's no big deal -- like this isn't a major part of your life and waiting another month or really 4 months is no big deal.

    I would be asking lots of questions.  Is the septum the reason you weren't getting pregnant in the first place?  Or was it just preventing implantation?  Obviously removing the septum completely will help, but what will it actually do in terms of helping you get pregnant?  If it doesn't have an effect on getting pregnant -- only implantation and carrying the fetus, then what is waiting another 3 months going to do?

    Be your own advocate.  Keeping asking questions until you get answers that make sense.  And by all means, get a second opinion if you think you need/want one.

    I'm so sorry for you and I hope you get things worked out and get a sticky BFP soon.  Let me know if you want me to b!tch slap a doctor for you.  Wink

    This exactly!  I just groaned when I read your post. I am so so sorry for all the frustration.  Hopefully, like PPs, this is really the root of the conception battle and after the next surgery, your TTTC will disappear.  Fingers crossed!

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    Arrgghhh!!!  I'm so frustrated for you.  Actually, I'm pissed off.  Why weren't they able to get it all the first time!  If the doctor thought your weight were an issue, why not bring it up before now?  And why do you have to wait another freaking month for the surgery!

    I'm sorry.  My screaming (which is what I'm doing in my head) is probably not helping or making you feel better.  Doctors just piss me off sometimes, like it's no big deal -- like this isn't a major part of your life and waiting another month or really 4 months is no big deal.

    I would be asking lots of questions.  Is the septum the reason you weren't getting pregnant in the first place?  Or was it just preventing implantation?  Obviously removing the septum completely will help, but what will it actually do in terms of helping you get pregnant?  If it doesn't have an effect on getting pregnant -- only implantation and carrying the fetus, then what is waiting another 3 months going to do?

    Be your own advocate.  Keeping asking questions until you get answers that make sense.  And by all means, get a second opinion if you think you need/want one.

    I'm so sorry for you and I hope you get things worked out and get a sticky BFP soon.  Let me know if you want me to b!tch slap a doctor for you.  Wink

    The doctors were unable to get the entire septum the first time due to its size. It was a complete uterine septum (took the entire length of my uterus up) and with it being so large everything became very swollen and they couldnt visualize anymore of it. They actually dont remove a septum, they open it up. So I still have a little left that they want to go back in to take care of. 

    As far as the septum and implantation, the septum does not have blood vessels. So anything that implants on it will die due to lack of blood supply. If I didnt take care of it I would have a very high rate of misscarriage and preterm labor. By doing these surgeries we are hoping to prevent these from happening. 

    Since we really never TTC without a huge division down my uterus, she would like us to try on our own 3 months, and then she would help us if we still are not pregnant at that point. 

    ~Cheryl and Frank~ 06/28/08
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    Failed IVF #1 (July 2012)
    FET #1 October/November 2012 BFP, m/c at 5 3/7
    February - operative hysteroscopy
    Late April/May FET #2

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  • Uigh ugh ugh. I'm so frustrated for you. Big *hugs* and lots of T&P. :(
  • I could just cry for you- I can't imagine how frustrating that must be for you. I'm just gonna keep sending T&Ps your way. Hang in there and please let us know if we can help in any way!
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  • Oh sweet Cheryl. I'm so so sorry. I just want to drive up your way and give you the biggest HUG. This is a battle that no one should have to fight. Nicole is right, you are going to be an AMAZING mommy when you're little sweet babe does come along.

    **HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS**

    I know this isn't the point of the post, but I just wanted to let you know I've lost 9 lbs in 2 weeks just doing the old Weight Watchers Point system. I still have about 40 to go before I'm content :) but it seriously works wonders. If you want to know any more about it, let me know. In a time where you feel helpless about everything else, this is at least ONE THING that YOU can conquer for your future baby <3 

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  • What a floofwad.  No, I don't know what it is, but I'm trying to clean up my language.  That is translation for *** ***. 

    I'm sorry you're having to wait even longer. 

  • Thank you ladies! (((hugs)))
    ~Cheryl and Frank~ 06/28/08
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    February - operative hysteroscopy
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  • I want to just cry after reading this. I hope that when you are able to start trying again that you get pregnant the first month!

    ((HUGS))

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  • This whole situation is .... dare I say it.... a huge vagina dinosaur.

    I agree with Aliapistor - I'm so ticked off for you!!  They made you try so long before even looking for a problem...and now this!!  Making you wait even longer it just...what NERVE!

    Anyway, I know my rage isn't helping you.  You are going to make such a good Mom, you've handled this whole situation with such grace and positivity, its amazing.  You remain in my prayers!

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  • I'm so sad to hear about this, and yes, frustrated for you too!  It's so annoying that things just keep getting moved back, because honestly I'm really anxious for your bfp post to come!  You are going to make a great mom and I hope that your bfp comes sooner rather than later.

    And hey, how great would it be to naturally conceive in those 3 months?  I'm praying for that! 

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  • I am so sorry, Cheryl.  I guess my biggest question is why the 2nd surgery is pushed back a month?  (if you answered this, pardon my ignorance)

    I get their thinking in giving you 3 months to try naturally after the 2nd surgery.  I am right there with star - it would be absolutely amazing if you got a BFP during those 3 months.

    I'm sure you already know this, but you have many ladies over here wishing and hoping for you to become a momma. 

  • Oh Cheryl, I'm so sorry.  Did they give you a reason for why the second surgery has to wait so long?

    I'm with star and lynsey.... it would be so amazing if you got a BFP naturally in those 3 months!  But I'm can't imagine what you're going through, knowing you're still waiting.

    I'm thinking of you and will keep praying for you!

  • I'm with the other girls. I don't like that they're making you wait so long :( I truly hope you get your bfp in the next 3 months because you will be a fabulous mommy when it happens! (((HUGS)))
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