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Quick Vent

I have to get this out. We are watching MIL's dogs. They are both small white fluffy things, about the size of a bichon. They are sweet, but both mark everywhere. They smell bad, and one is blind and deaf.

They also eat Ol' roy dog food. My dog eats raw as she has a gluten allergy. Despite my attempts at keeping them in the kitchen, and my dog in the rest of the house, my roommate is mentally deficient, and has repeatedly left the barrier down. Hurray for vomit and diarrhea. 

We were supposed to be only watching these dogs for a week. Now, it is for an undetermined amount of time. SIL was supposed to watch them if they were here for more then a week. She live's in MIL's trailer for free, with her two boys. Well, she didn't want to do this, so she disappeared. Probably at some trashy friend's house until she isn't needed.

This drives me insane. I don't want to leave MIL with out some where for her dogs, as she has watched my dog for me as well. Granted, my dog isn't the huge pain her dogs are, but still. We will also need her this summer to watch mine, so making her take them now just won't work.

Anyway, I needed to rant about this. It frustrates me, my kitchen smells like dirty dog, and my dog is sick. I cannot wait for MIL to be able to take them back. I also would like to slap SIL for her selfish, trashy ways. 

 

 

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  • sounds like it's time to find a doggy daycare.  seriously.  The one I use is totally reasonable and the people are wonderful.  Look for one in your area.
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    sounds like it's time to find a doggy daycare.  seriously.  The one I use is totally reasonable and the people are wonderful.  Look for one in your area.

     I doubt any one would take her boys. At least one of them is intact. I don't know if we could find anyone for my girl. At least for over night. She eats raw, and a lot of people won't deal with that. 

     I will have DH suggest that to MIL though. I will lose my mind if I have to go another week with her dogs.

  • How did it go from one week to an undetermined amount of time?
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  • I would give them back to MIL and tell her that you can no longer accommodate them, and give her the contact information for some doggy daycare facilities in her area.

    If it's to the point where she just cannot care for them herself, I would look into some local animal rescue groups. Or a dog foster program, if she just needs someone to care for them for a while while she gets back on her feet. (Although IDK exactly how fosters work - meaning, if the dogs will be considered "surrendered" if she puts them into a foster program.)

     

    And I'd personally start making other plans for someone to care for your own dog this summer. I can't picture your MIL taking good care of your dog, if this is the condition that her own dogs are in and if she just left them with you for an undetermined amount of time ... even if she means well and loves her dogs, from this post it doesn't seem like she has the knowledge or the resources to take proper care of them.

     

    And while I agree that it sucks that SIL left you hanging, it's also not her obligation to watch the dogs if she is not their owner ... even if she agreed to do so, and even if she lives with MIL. If she lives with MIL and doesn't pitch in for dog care, bills, whatever, that's ultimately your MIL's fault for giving her a free ride.

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    How did it go from one week to an undetermined amount of time?

     

    MIL is remodeling her home. They are staying with her MIL, and the dogs are not welcome there. As soon as they have the floors down and a use able bathroom she will be taking back the dogs. 

     

    I agree, it is MIL's fault that SIL lives off of her the way she does. Doesn't make it any less frustrating for me! DH is talking to his mother, and hopefully it won't be much longer. 

    Also, I would love to not have my dog with her for that week in the summer. Sadly,  I am having trouble finding a dog sitter in the area that I can trust, that will feed raw as I do. 

  • Why is it such a problem to find someone who will feed a dog what you prefer to feed it? Can't you just prep the food ahead of time, leave it in the fridge (or bring it to the pet sitter's in a cooler or something) and leave a list of instructions?

    I mean, I just find it odd that someone won't feed a dog what you're asking them to feed the dog, if you're PAYING them. 

     

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    Why is it such a problem to find someone who will feed a dog what you prefer to feed it? Can't you just prep the food ahead of time, leave it in the fridge (or bring it to the pet sitter's in a cooler or something) and leave a list of instructions?

    I mean, I just find it odd that someone won't feed a dog what you're asking them to feed the dog, if you're PAYING them. 

     

     

    I guess I'm just not trusting enough. The last place that she was at, I know they didn't follow my instructions. She was still on kibble, but she ate the type I gave her sparingly. She came back fat, with too much left over- they fed her something else. I prefer knowing she is with family who will definitely do as I ask with my dog. I don't want her somewhere locked up in a crate for a week. I still have to look around again for this summer before we decide, but last time I looked I didn't come up with much of anything other than vet's offices, where she would have been in a crate for the entire time.

  • UGH.

    WHYYYYYYY do some people own animals???

    If that dog is marking incessantly, either he needs to be neutered or he's incontinent.

    You need to have a come to Jesus talk with your MIL. Explain to her that SIL ran off and that you got stuck holding the bag on this one. Ask HER what she wants to do.

    Even if the dog was fine healthwise, it's still wrong. Maybe you don't need another animal, or want another dog, or there's no way you can accomodate another dog. This is selfish and unfair to you.

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    Why is it such a problem to find someone who will feed a dog what you prefer to feed it? Can't you just prep the food ahead of time, leave it in the fridge (or bring it to the pet sitter's in a cooler or something) and leave a list of instructions?

    I mean, I just find it odd that someone won't feed a dog what you're asking them to feed the dog, if you're PAYING them. 

     

     

    I guess I'm just not trusting enough. The last place that she was at, I know they didn't follow my instructions. She was still on kibble, but she ate the type I gave her sparingly. She came back fat, with too much left over- they fed her something else. I prefer knowing she is with family who will definitely do as I ask with my dog. I don't want her somewhere locked up in a crate for a week. I still have to look around again for this summer before we decide, but last time I looked I didn't come up with much of anything other than vet's offices, where she would have been in a crate for the entire time.

    The place that overfed your dog, was it a kennel?  If it was, have you considered looking into an independent dog sitter that does it from their home or hire someone to come to your house several times a day to feed, play, and walk your dog.  Like the other pps said, you're paying them so they need to do what you ask.  If you're that distrustful then prepare your dog's daily meals, place in separate containers, and leave the specific instructions not to feed your dog anything else.  There must be something in the contract that that would hold them liable for going against your instructions.


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  • She is fully aware. DH is too nice, and I understand. We tell her how much of a pain it is. Quinn getting into their food and what not. She just doesn't have any other options right now. Granted, it is her own fault, but she still doesn't have them.

    DH badly wants them out of the house, but his mother is an incredibly nice person, and neither of us want to make her life more difficult. As much as I hate it, we will keep them for another week or so while they get a bathroom/floors in their house.

     

    Dragon- it was actually an independent person. My worry is that even with it bagged,  it is easier to give a scoop of what everyone else is getting, versus going to the fridge, getting her meat, getting it out of the bag, feeding it to her, washing her bowl after, repeat. It boils down to me not being trusting. I am going to look around again for this summer and see what I can find. I wish MY mother lived near by, she would watch my dog any time and I wouldn't have to worry, but that is not an option.

  • I'd recommend boarding the next time your MIL asks you to take care of her pups.

    And why aren't they in crates if you're not around? I would not tolerate marking in my home.

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    Also, I would love to not have my dog with her for that week in the summer. Sadly,  I am having trouble finding a dog sitter in the area that I can trust, that will feed raw as I do. 

    You can alwaya board your pup or bring it to a doggy-daycare type of boarding facility. While some might not understand raw, some are very up to speed with it and know what's going on. Is there not a dry kibble that is gluten free that you substitute when you travel with your pup? Wysong and Ziwipeak make gluten free dry kibble that is very very close to raw.

  • Belly bands will stop the problems from marking.  You can even make your own easily from fleece if you sew at all.

    My dogs are on Wellness which is a gluten-free food (kibble and canned).  

    For MIL's dogs, consider just switching their food to something that won't make them so sick.  Adding a little canned pumpkin to their meals will probably help too. 

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    My worry is that even with it bagged,  it is easier to give a scoop of what everyone else is getting, versus going to the fridge, getting her meat, getting it out of the bag, feeding it to her, washing her bowl after, repeat.

    If you hire someone to come to your home, this won't be a problem and then you won't have to rely on MIL. I've lived in a lot of places and I've never had a problem hiring a cat sitter who comes to my home and follows all of my feeding instructions.

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  • I am thinking I am going to look into someone to come in to take care of her this summer. I like that idea a lot better, especially since MIL would have to come take care of the cats too, at least depending on how long they will stay. I hate the idea of her in her crate forever.

     MIL's dogs don't crate. They wear diapers around their bellies to prevent their marking in the house. It works most of the time, but sometimes they help each other take them off. They are stuck in the kitchen, so they can't ruin anything. MIL is going to come over and steam clean our floors after wards too.

    As for the gluten free kilbble, we tried that for awhile too, and she just doesn't eat it. Raw is the only thing she will eat with out fail. She is 15 pounds and about perfect weight. Before raw she was 12, and you could count her bones. I would rather not mess with it now that she is looking good!

  • Can you try to find someone in your area that also feeds raw?  They might be willing to watch her and would understand the prep. 

    You can also ask you vet office if any of the techs would be willing to come feed her.  

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