Hi all, I have to admit that I'm a lurking, not a poster, but this issue really has me fired up. Some background tidbits: DH and I have been married nearly 2 years, been together for 6. He has a full time job, I'm working on my master's and working part time. After I'm finished with my degree, he's going to start a master's program, but his job will pay for 100% of it and he will do it essentially one classes at time while working full time. We are also currently TTC #1, but no one knows this except for a few close friends.
Now for the issue... my ILs keep telling me about all these job lists and job fairs that they see in the papers. Literally, it's an on-going thing. There's really not a lot that I can do with my bachelor's, and I'm almost done with my master's so it seems pointless to start one job, and then go to something else when my master's is completed. In addition, DH and I are planning on me staying home with our baby (this is of course assuming we get pregnant soon), at least for a little while. His mother was a SAHM and my mother always worked away from home. We both feel that we want me to be home with our children while they are small. We have planned for this financially (literally, we've had a joint savings account since before we were even engaged) and can actually accomplish it pretty easily because of this planning.
Why are they soooo concerned with me having some other job?? I really like my part time job. It's very flexible, low stress, and gives me the time that I need to focus on school. DH and I are not wealthy by any means, but we are very financially stable. We have never been on public assistance, never moved back in with our parents after moving out, nor have we EVER asked to borrow money from anyone. We even paid for just about everything for our wedding. We have two decent vehicles that are paid off, student loans that are under control, ZERO credit card debt, and a townhouse that we are renting. How do I get them to back off about the job thing??? We're happy and making it work, so why isn't this enough for them? And when I do call about some of the jobs and find out that I'm either not qualified or it's something that I truly do not feel comfortable doing (for example- one job was to be a social worker that basically was in charge of investigating child abuse claims, and emotionally I do not think I could handle it) they act as if I'm damaging our future. Most of the time the jobs they suggest are ones that I do not have the education or experience for, or are soooo far away from where we're living that we would essentially have to relocate. DH loves his job, so there's no way I'm pulling him away from that.
I just don't get it