I posted a couple of days ago, and tried to take the advise of my advisors, only I'm having a little trouble with this one. My MIL is kind of an absentee grandparent to my two children while an involved grandparent with my SIL kids. With the claim that she wanted to spend time getting to know me and my children, my husband and I paid for my MIL and BIL to travel here from Jamaica. She has been staying with my SIL, and has only seen my kids on Christmas Eve and one other day, she's been here almost two weeks and leaves on Tuesday. Now she is asking my husband to take her upstate so that she may visit another grandchild. She wants to leave on New Years Eve and this has become a drag out screaming match between my husband and myself being as I had told him I wanted a quiet New Years with just us because my mom recently passed away and I just want to be with him and the kids. He feels that I should understand that his mother won't get another chance any time soon to see this other child. The mother of said child refuses to travel down here as it is a 6-hr drive down. I feel that my husband is being unreasonable and that it was completely insenstive of her to even ask him to leave on a holiday knowing that neither my children nor I could go even if we wanted to, which we don't. My son has autistic tendincies and doesn't do well too far away from home for long periods of time. (She has been told this) So am I giving my husband unnecessary grief and being unreasonable because I have never been a big fan of my MIL or am I justified in being totally pissed off?