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Holidays & Football

okay so dh and i are traveling from Oklahoma to Arkansas for New Years. he's only met some of the family members there and we've been trying to go visit for almost a year but have been unable to. anyway, we finally got the chance for new years and we're going with my parents but riding in our own car a day later. so, my husband is a huge OU fan and he just informed me that pretty much all day saturday he's going to be watching football because of the bcs games or whatever. isn't it rude of him to just be glued to the tv for football with family all around? i mean, i understand it's important to him but my family is important to me too. am i alone on this?
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  • Enh, one can talk and watch football at the same time.

    The family gathering is going to be more enjoyable for you than him. As long as he's polite and socializes somewhat, I wouldn't worry about it. Besides, he's probably not the only one who will want to watch football.

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  • Does anyone else in your family like football or will he be the only one watching it? It's rude to take over a tv in someone else's house to watch something that no one else wants to watch. But if they're already watching, I don't see what the big deal is.

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  • well, i'm hispanic and he's white. my family prefers soccer. lol. i mean, the younger cousins play and like football but its not like it will be on tv already. he said he'll socialize still, i just don't want my family to get a bad first impression you know?
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  • I've been to a lot of family gatherings where there's a game on in the living room where everyone is gathered.  But it's not like the people who are really interested in it totally ignore everyone the whole time it's on. I've also been to gatherings where a game's on in the den/"man room" and people go in to watch it for a few minutes at a time. I don't find that to be rude.

    I also don't find it ride if your H goes to another room every once in a while to check the score on TV, or if he checks his phone every once in a while for an update. As long as he's not totally ignoring someone talking to him because he's listening to the broadcast.

    But if he's saying that he's going to hole himself up in a room by himself and do nothing but watch the game (no socializing, no eating dinner with everyone else, no talking, etc.) - then, yes, that is super-rude and he shouldn't do that.

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  • i see that you're only 20. is he too? did he actually ATTEND OU or just a fan?

    one can talk and watch football at the same time. frankly for a 20 year old guy from oklahoma i'd be surprised if he wasn't a big college football fan.

    let him watch football. if your family doesn't like it-oh well-it's on him and not you. you're not his mother. let him make his own choices and live iwth the consequences.

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    let him watch football. if your family doesn't like it-oh well-it's on him and not you. you're not his mother. let him make his own choices and live iwth the consequences.

    Agreed. You're not his keeper, so any sane person is going to realize that you aren't responsible for his behavior.

    Piggybacking on this, I have to add that I'd find it MORE annoying and rude if the guy in question was being hounded by his wife/girlfriend over something like this, than if the husband was just being an antisocial a-hole and the wife was just socializing normally.

    I know couples like this, and when we get together with other friends we all have to listen to the wife's nagging and the husband's protests ... ugh. Not only is it irritating to physically listen to them bicker back and forth, but I'm always amazed that they're willing to argue like that in public. It just comes across as so trashy and immature.

    And I also can't help thinking to myself, "Sweetie, if your 30-something husband is too much of an immature baby to realize that it's rude to watch TV all day and ignore other guests ... do you REALLY think that your whiny nagging is going to convince him otherwise?" The whole thing just comes across as a giant show of the wife trying to prove that she's got "control" over her man, versus the husband being stubborn and refusing to give in so he can prove that he's not pvssy-whipped. Just STFU and ignore each other, people.

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  • dh is 26 and he attended OU. being from Oklahoma myself, i am a football fan as well and love OU. we're not arguing about it or anything, he knows he's free to do whatever he wants pretty much, i just wanted some feedback. he's not the anti-social type so i'm sure he'll be a good sport about it. thanks ladies!
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  • It'll all work out. I'm sure he'll watch the game but visit with family and munch on food at the same time. Just go and have fun and you guys should be good to go.
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    Does anyone else in your family like football or will he be the only one watching it? It's rude to take over a tv in someone else's house to watch something that no one else wants to watch. But if they're already watching, I don't see what the big deal is.

    This is pretty much how I feel on the matter.

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    Does anyone else in your family like football or will he be the only one watching it? It's rude to take over a tv in someone else's house to watch something that no one else wants to watch. But if they're already watching, I don't see what the big deal is.

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  • I've been to family parties where some guy is glued to the TV because his faaaaavorite team is playing. Plus pre-game, post-game and then his other faaaavorite team. I don't care. But it sure comes off as a waste of time.

    Enjoy yourself. If your 26 year old DH would rather watch every play-by-play than socialize, then it isn't your job to worry or fix it.

     

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  • I hate to say this, but my husband and I would both be like this.  We went to Atlanta in September for his niece's wedding, and researched ahead of time what would be the best place to go to in the area to watch the Alabama game and Sunday...while trying to get ready for the wedding and pack to fly home that night, we squeezed in as much football as we could.  Then of course, near the beginning of the ceremony, one of my friends texted me to inform me my team one - that's when I get for using a cell phone for a camera!
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  • that's pretty much what we did! we ended up making date night out it because it turned out no one had ESPN. lol. it all worked out in the end!
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