My husband is a bit of a momma's boy and no one can say anything negative about the woman. My MIL has been less than friendly towards me for the whole of my 9 year marriage. We have two children (7 & 6) whom she has barely had contact with but my husband expects my children to treat her with great affection. We paid for her to come from Jamaica and she has been staying with my SIL, but except for Christmas eve, she hasnt had any contact with my kids. She had never seen my daughter until that day and she had only seen my son once when he was about two months old. She neglects calling them on birthdays, holidays or anything but my husband does not seem to understand why I should feel resentful of this, because she doesn't live in this country. I don't really feel that this is an excuse. My own mother passed away earlier this year and my children were very close to my mom. I told my husband's parents that they needed to step up their attitudes towards our children because they were missing my mom. BUT the only thing that this trip has showed me is that unless my children are with my husband, she's not interested in them. At what point do I tell her to stuff it and cut my kids off from my husbands family?