I'm using an alias today as I have a very personal problem. My marriage. I'm terrified it's going down. We have been married for 7 years. We have 2 kids. We've had a fairly good marriage most the time but ups and downs like most marriages. But now I'm feeling really low. We barely ever have sex. It's maybe 6 times a year and maybe only 1 of those is good. I had discovered my husband secretly watching porn about a year ago. I was very angry only because of his lies about where he was and what he was doing. I would not have had big issues if he admitted it to me but he kept lying. He promised to stop after I complained that we don't even have sex nearly enough but he is obsessed with porn. I never asked him to stop. Well I keep finding it in secret spots. I find porn things emailed to his secret email account. I am very bothered because we basically have no sex life now and I feel like I cannot compete since he has his porn which is his priority. He basically takes off work when he knows nobody is home and does his thing then. and it's increasing.
I don't know what to do. Our marriage is very boring. He's not a good communicator and all he wants to do is eat out for fun. I miss sex. I miss closeness. I've been missing it for years and feel deprived and don't want to live this way. I suggested counseling but he doesn't see why we can't just work it out on our own. Where do I go from here. I'm feeling so low today. I don't want our marriage to end. what should I do?