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  • My husband and his laziness are irritating me. He only does things when it benefits him immediately. Example, the day he got the new tires for his Jeep, they were on it. Today I stopped at autozone to get new wipers for my car, he didn't want to do it because it was cold(and he was playing a video game).  I could go on, but we're going to have a serious chat about this crap later.

    I'm getting frustrated with sports/activities lately. It seems like I'm always hurting something. My back is becoming a serious issue that I'm not sure a chiro can fix but I'm scared to see an ortho. 

    I have a friend who stopped talking to me for no apparent reason. I'm not sure how to feel about it or how/if I should try and fix it. It's bumming me out.

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  • I have been job searching since August and have filled out countless numbers of applications and sent my resume and cover letter to numerous places. I've applied to retail positions, coffee shops, grocery stores, office positions, you name it and have had one interview. A friend started applying two weeks ago and was offered a position after her first interview. I'm bitter to say the least and I'm sick of everyone asking if I have found a job. When I find a freaking job, I'll shout it from the rooftops for all to hear. I also wish I would have majored in something more useful even though I loved my major it just sucks trying to find a job!!
  • I think that trying to get out of a rental lease in the middle of nowhere Oklahoma is way more effort than its really worth. I can't wait to be out of here.

    I am really sad that I can't decorate for Christmas this year also. I am feeling a little off when it comes to feeling festive. Once we get to MI it will be better though. 

    Thats all I have.  

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    I have been job searching since August and have filled out countless numbers of applications and sent my resume and cover letter to numerous places. I've applied to retail positions, coffee shops, grocery stores, office positions, you name it and have had one interview. A friend started applying two weeks ago and was offered a position after her first interview. I'm bitter to say the least and I'm sick of everyone asking if I have found a job. When I find a freaking job, I'll shot it from the rooftops for all to hear. I also wish I would have majored in something more useful even though I loved my major it just sucks trying to find a job!!

    I am sorry. I had that happen to me at our last duty station. Keep your head up. You will find something.

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    I have been job searching since August and have filled out countless numbers of applications and sent my resume and cover letter to numerous places. I've applied to retail positions, coffee shops, grocery stores, office positions, you name it and have had one interview. A friend started applying two weeks ago and was offered a position after her first interview. I'm bitter to say the least and I'm sick of everyone asking if I have found a job. When I find a freaking job, I'll shout it from the rooftops for all to hear. I also wish I would have majored in something more useful even though I loved my major it just sucks trying to find a job!!

    It took me months to find a job.  I would get interviews but then wouldn't get the job.  And it would take so long for them to call me for an interview that I would have forgotten what I applied for.  I did finally get a job though I can be considered underemployed, but I'm enjoying the job.

    What was your major?

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  • I read an article, well I guess I should say a poorly written opinion piece, in our local base newspaper about dealing with separations. In it the author states that it makes her sad that military marriages fail because the two have given up on each other. I want to write back that the military marriages I know that have failed, was because one spouse couldn't keep their legs closed long enough for their husband/wife to return. It's not about someone giving up on their marriage so much as infidelity being a deal breaker for most people. The whole "article" screamed "I'm an 18 year old with no life experience, complaining about deployments". No where in said article were there any listings of placed to seek guidance, counseling or list things to do while your spouse is away. I'm so fed up with them refusing to hire talented people because they don't want to pay them.
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  • I am really sick of hearing a few mil. wife friends of mine talk about their DH's coming home... both of their husbands left around the time mine did, and they both are going to be back really soon. My DH won't be home until later next year. I know you can't compare deployments, but it sucks because we started them together and I still have such a long-haul, while they are pretty much done. 

    Especially one of them... she took it really hard, and every day would post about it on facebook. Well at least those posts will stop lol. 

     

     

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  • A small vent. H and I have been trying to save more money so eventually we can get another car.

    Today H and I went to Target to get some gift ideas and to buy cat litter. The checkout line was long and I had to pee so I left H in line to buy the few things we had. When I came back and the checkout person was bagging stuff, I see 2 completely random things that we didn't discuss. Confused, I kept my mouth shut. On the way to the car he said that they are going to be presents for my parents.........ummmm no. You don't get to choose random shizz, buy it without asking me and then decide my parents get these craptastic presents, especially when we've already discussed what we are getting everyone.

    I am so vexed that he is impulse buying crap that no one needs/wants when we are trying to save money and have made a strict plan/budget for Christmas gifts. I feel like his mom when I have to say "No we are not buying that" but it happens- a lot.

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    I think that trying to get out of a rental lease in the middle of nowhere Oklahoma is way more effort than its really worth. I can't wait to be out of here.

    I am really sad that I can't decorate for Christmas this year also. I am feeling a little off when it comes to feeling festive. Once we get to MI it will be better though. 

    Thats all I have.  

     

    Awww man, I hate when its hard to enjoy christmas!

     

    On a happier note.... I love your siggy :) charlie brown christmas is one of my faves! 

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  • We bought a used car in Feb after an accident ended w/ my previous car being totaled. I love the new car, it has everything I want for a family vehicle, which is part of why I picked it. But the damn thing has already cost us $500+ in repairs, with another $500-$1000 needing to be done soon, preferably before the baby gets here. I'm so frustrated by the whole situation.  B/c the accident was a week after our wedding we had nothing to put down on it, so we still owe quite a bit on it, so I don't know if we will get what need selling it, and I'd feel guilty selling it w/ the problems it has. Plus, I really do love it feature wise, and don't know that we'd fine something I like as much w/in our budget. I feel like we got ourselves into a lose/lose situation with it and it sucks.

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    I have been job searching since August and have filled out countless numbers of applications and sent my resume and cover letter to numerous places. I've applied to retail positions, coffee shops, grocery stores, office positions, you name it and have had one interview. A friend started applying two weeks ago and was offered a position after her first interview. I'm bitter to say the least and I'm sick of everyone asking if I have found a job. When I find a freaking job, I'll shout it from the rooftops for all to hear. I also wish I would have majored in something more useful even though I loved my major it just sucks trying to find a job!!

    It took me months to find a job.  I would get interviews but then wouldn't get the job.  And it would take so long for them to call me for an interview that I would have forgotten what I applied for.  I did finally get a job though I can be considered underemployed, but I'm enjoying the job.

    What was your major?

    Political Science. I'm starting to think they see all my previous jobs and education are in IL and then assume I'm a military wife who will be on the move and they don't want that. And maybe the retail positions are because I have experience and a degree and will say adios when something better comes along. Sooo frustrating!!

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    A small vent. H and I have been trying to save more money so eventually we can get another car.

    Today H and I went to Target to get some gift ideas and to buy cat litter. The checkout line was long and I had to pee so I left H in line to buy the few things we had. When I came back and the checkout person was bagging stuff, I see 2 completely random things that we didn't discuss. Confused, I kept my mouth shut. On the way to the car he said that they are going to be presents for my parents.........ummmm no. You don't get to choose random shizz, buy it without asking me and then decide my parents get these craptastic presents, especially when we've already discussed what we are getting everyone.

    I am so vexed that he is impulse buying crap that no one needs/wants when we are trying to save money and have made a strict plan/budget for Christmas gifts. I feel like his mom when I have to say "No we are not buying that" but it happens- a lot.

    You seem to feel like his mom a lot. Have you guys started counseling? 

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    I am so vexed that he is impulse buying crap that no one needs/wants when we are trying to save money and have made a strict plan/budget for Christmas gifts. I feel like his mom when I have to say "No we are not buying that" but it happens- a lot.

    Impulse spending is C and I's most regular fight. He doesn't like to save up for stuff in advance, but instead buys it and if we run tight on money that month he pulls more out of savings, which is supposed to be a downpayment on a house. Not a big deal if he ever put it $$ back into the savings, but he doesn't.

    But I feel you, get so tired of playing the parental role and having to say "no" all the time.

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  • I'm sick of DH thinking that the kitchen does not need to be cleaned after dinner. It makes me nuts. I really wish he would just do it. And the crap with " You need to keep the sink empty and put the dishes on the counter" is stupid. We have a little kitchen dude so I need all the counter space I can get!

     

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  • Ugggg!!! Some of this might not make sense, but stick with it... (if you will) this is long

    (a little background first) So, I volunteer for a grief center, and we do biweekly grief groups. I work with the teen group. There were two groups last year, so four facilitators. This year it has been smaller sometimes and we keep going back and forth between splitting. It has worked out that every week, one or two of the other facilitators has been absent, so we just kept the group as one. NBD.

    A month or so ago one facilitator, C (who by the way is 53) got very sick and was out for two groups (one month), and the same time the other facilitator's brother died, so she stepped down and wont be returning, so pretty much it will just be one group with three facilitators- me, C, and B (is 24).

    So C comes back tonight, and all three of us are talking about what we're going to do, just bouncing ideas off each other. Every thing B or I ask C, she makes some comment such as: "Oh I dont care, I'll defer to you," "I haven't been around so I don't know whats been done." Crap like that.

    We're setting up the room before (C, B and I) well, C is standing back doing nothing as we're pushing tables around. 5 minutes before group, so pretty much as we are supposed to be gathering the kids, C declares that she feels left out and like she's been replaced and that she doesnt feel needed or necessary. I ask her something like "what" so goes on to say the same things, and more passive aggressive BS about not being needed. I asked her what we could be doing differently and she just replied "nothing, I just needed to say that." B said if she didnt feel up to group, she didnt need to feel obligated to stay, and C snaps "Oh I feel up to GROUP.' I awkwardly leave to go get the kids, and they follow

    So group happens, fine, it went well. 

     In post group, we go around and talk about what happened in group. She's the first one out of the gate to reply, talking about feeling left out after having been gone for a couple weeks. Someone says something sympathetic about being out of it in group after missing so much. (And here is where Jill gets PISSED) C replies, in front of ALL the facilitators and program coordinators "it wasnt the group that made me feel left out, it was my co-facilitators." 

    Ummm, excuse me, what did you say bvtch???? 

    She goes on about that and says she wants to switch out of the group because of us, generally being a martyr and victim.  Um... I am SEETHING. she basically threw us under the bus in front of God and everyone, making it seem as though B and I were somehow plotting against her to make her feel left out. 

    I will be writing an email to the coordinator letting her know that did not in fact happen. 

    I cant get over how unprofessional and juvenile she was! We have had a fine working relationship before now, so I guess I would have expected her to come talk to me or the coordinator in private about it. She's been making passive aggressive statements all semester due to the confusion about the groups and feeling like she's been out of place, so its not a revelation she feels that way, I just cannot believe she chose to express it like that.

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    You seem to feel like his mom a lot. Have you guys started counseling? 

    We went to our first session last Monday.

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    I'm sick of DH thinking that the kitchen does not need to be cleaned after dinner. It makes me nuts. I really wish he would just do it. And the crap with " You need to keep the sink empty and put the dishes on the counter" is stupid. We have a little kitchen dude so I need all the counter space I can get!

     

    WTH is up with this?! M does it to and I do not for the life of my understand it! We have a double sink too so it's not like we can't use the other side if one has two coffee mugs in it!!

  • I found out my sunroof in my car is leaking again and now I'm scrambling to find someone to fix it before we leave, along with everything else going on. We have people replacing the shingles on our house and I cannot park it in the garage because they have a huge dumpster in the way of our garage. So I'm stuck leaving it outside and praying that he Jeep guy calls me back ASAP with a time to bring it in. I just had to drive to the grocery holding napkins to my roof to protect my radio. I'm not thrilled at all. This the second time it's happened and I don't know why. I don't have time for this right now!
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    I'm sick of DH thinking that the kitchen does not need to be cleaned after dinner. It makes me nuts. I really wish he would just do it. And the crap with " You need to keep the sink empty and put the dishes on the counter" is stupid. We have a little kitchen dude so I need all the counter space I can get!

     

    WTH is up with this?! M does it to and I do not for the life of my understand it! We have a double sink too so it's not like we can't use the other side if one has two coffee mugs in it!!

    I have no idea. I think it was the way we grew up. DH's family stacks dishes on the side of the sink, mine stacked in the sink and left the other sink open. DH get's irritated because our dish drainer is in the other sink so we really only have one, but how hard is it to pick the dish drainer up and move it while your doing the dishes! 

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  • I'm really annoyed with my neighbors.  They stomp up and down their stairs and slam their doors all the freaking time, including in the middle of the night.

    I'm frustrated that my clothes don't fit me well anymore.  I know that some of it has to do with the fact that I broke my foot and couldn't exercise.  But its still very frustrating.

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    I cant get over how unprofessional and juvenile she was! We have had a fine working relationship before now, so I guess I would have expected her to come talk to me or the coordinator in private about it. She's been making passive aggressive statements all semester due to the confusion about the groups and feeling like she's been out of place, so its not a revelation she feels that way, I just cannot believe she chose to express it like that.

    I cannot even imagine how frustrated you must be. It's sad to me that people who work in non-profits or in volunteer settings find it necessary to express themselves that way. Obviously you are all there b/c you care about helping others....why wouldn't that include your "co-workers." I'm sorry, hun.

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    You seem to feel like his mom a lot. Have you guys started counseling? 

    We went to our first session last Monday.

    I hope it went well - been thinking about you guys.

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    I'm sick of DH thinking that the kitchen does not need to be cleaned after dinner. It makes me nuts. I really wish he would just do it. And the crap with " You need to keep the sink empty and put the dishes on the counter" is stupid. We have a little kitchen dude so I need all the counter space I can get!

     

    WTH is up with this?! M does it to and I do not for the life of my understand it! We have a double sink too so it's not like we can't use the other side if one has two coffee mugs in it!!

    DH is the opposite, he will put anything and everything in the sink. I can't tell you how many of our glasses have been shattered under the weight of dishes because he doesn't think to put them on the counter, or at least on the top of the pile.  

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    You seem to feel like his mom a lot. Have you guys started counseling? 

    We went to our first session last Monday.

    I hope it went well - been thinking about you guys.

    I think it went about as well as it could. We both got a lot of crap out into the open and have been working on our problems. Looking forward to our next session in a week.

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  • Geeze Jilly, I would be furious too. I hope that your director is aware of her actions enough to know that she is like this most of the time anyway. Ugh.  

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    I cant get over how unprofessional and juvenile she was! We have had a fine working relationship before now, so I guess I would have expected her to come talk to me or the coordinator in private about it. She's been making passive aggressive statements all semester due to the confusion about the groups and feeling like she's been out of place, so its not a revelation she feels that way, I just cannot believe she chose to express it like that.

    I cannot even imagine how frustrated you must be. It's sad to me that people who work in non-profits or in volunteer settings find it necessary to express themselves that way. Obviously you are all there b/c you care about helping others....why wouldn't that include your "co-workers." I'm sorry, hun.


    yeah, I really dont get why this lady is there, other than self serving. Last group she was at she gave the teens a lecture because they spent too long talking about Japanamation or something and made them discuss "what they were going to do different next time so group doesnt go like this again." 

    Um, I'm sorry, let them chat about senseless things. They havent forgotten that their dad died. They know why they come to grief group every other week. If they need to fricken talk about something irrelevant, so be it. This may be the only time they feel comfortable enough to be silly, you dont need to shove grief down their throat and force them to feel sad just because they're here. Its a support group FFS. 


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    DH is the opposite, he will put anything and everything in the sink. I can't tell you how many of our glasses have been shattered under the weight of dishes because he doesn't think to put them on the counter, or at least on the top of the pile.  

    This is C to a T. We haven't broken anything yet <knock on wood> but he stacks things in the weirdest way in the sink. What irritates me most about it, is more than 1/2 the time he does it, I have made sure the DW is empty, all he needs to do is put dishes in there instead....since dishes are supposed to be his chore.

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    DH is the opposite, he will put anything and everything in the sink. I can't tell you how many of our glasses have been shattered under the weight of dishes because he doesn't think to put them on the counter, or at least on the top of the pile.  

    zomg this! It drives me nuts because now we have odd numbers of glasses!

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    I cant get over how unprofessional and juvenile she was! We have had a fine working relationship before now, so I guess I would have expected her to come talk to me or the coordinator in private about it. She's been making passive aggressive statements all semester due to the confusion about the groups and feeling like she's been out of place, so its not a revelation she feels that way, I just cannot believe she chose to express it like that.

    I cannot even imagine how frustrated you must be. It's sad to me that people who work in non-profits or in volunteer settings find it necessary to express themselves that way. Obviously you are all there b/c you care about helping others....why wouldn't that include your "co-workers." I'm sorry, hun.


    yeah, I really dont get why this lady is there, other than self serving. Last group she was at she gave the teens a lecture because they spent too long talking about Japanamation or something and made them discuss "what they were going to do different next time so group doesnt go like this again." 

    Um, I'm sorry, let them chat about senseless things. They havent forgotten that their dad died. They know why they come to grief group every other week. If they need to fricken talk about something irrelevant, so be it. This may be the only time they feel comfortable enough to be silly, you dont need to shove grief down their throat and force them to feel sad just because they're here. Its a support group FFS. 


    Sounds like maybe her outburst could be in the best interest of your group. I know its hard on you and will probably mean more work for you, but hopefully your supervisor/director is listening well and can see that this situation is not necessarily what teenagers dealing w/ that kind of loss really need to be caught in the middle of.

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    DH is the opposite, he will put anything and everything in the sink. I can't tell you how many of our glasses have been shattered under the weight of dishes because he doesn't think to put them on the counter, or at least on the top of the pile.  

    OMG I hate this!! DH is always putting wineglasses (or whatever glasses) in the sink, then putting dishes or pots on top of them, HELLO! We dont need shards of glass in the disposal!

    I tell him to leave the glasses on the side, stack the other dishes in there. 

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